Why she's not giving me a chance?

Question

Married last year & we were a very happy couple.She got a job where she travels a lot.Recently she stayed outside home for 5 months & that time apart had killed our relation.She came back last week & went to her parents.She wants divorce now.I asked her to give me a chance & I'll try things if anything was wrong.Her family & friends also tried but she's not even agree to discus matters.Any advice?

Answer 1

100% Chance that she developed another relationship with some one else during her 5 months tenure outstation employment & she is unable to come out that relationship. She doesn't want to remain with you as her conscience doesn’t allow her to do so & keep relationship with two different men at the same time. Take it from me no use continuing this relationship with her, agree for divorce by mutual consent & settle this issue now itself without any further delay that will be good for both of you.

Answer 2

Hi there,

I can feel what u are going thru right now. U loved her, pampered her, obeyed her every wish. She asked for job, u allowed it, she stayed out for this long, u trusted her.

Trust that is the best gift tht a person can gift to other in every relationship after love, that is. I have seen a few relations breaking just bcoz of these two were not there.

But they were there for u. So how do you cope up with this situation. She misused u and as all here who answered this question says, she indeed has some one in her life.

But it is u who has asked for this question, so its abt u now and not abt her.

U loved her now you hv two ways out.
1. Be forgiving and divorce her
2. Or, its punishment time

If 2 then, once and for all, cut her off u r life. Cease every relation and communication with her. But never give her a divorce, wait and do not give her a divorce. Let her speak her abt finding a new love. How she went wrong. U go and see her parents, visit them often, tell them tht u want to live with her that is why u do not want to divorce her.

If she ever decides to comes back to you,to show that she can live with you, mate with her each day.

But I would say that you rather find some one for ur self. She had u and see found some one else, why don't u find some one and till then do not divorce her.

This might be a sinful thing, but then, i am no saint

Answer 3

From the situation that you are in and the questions that you have asked before looks like that she has some friends or some guy in her life in the 5 months. it is not surprising considering the fact that 5 months and the lifestyle change when she gets the job in airlines and all that.

Sorry to tell you dude the situation is out of hand and you will have to forget her and get on with life . In life you get some things which you do not expect and some things you don't want to deal with but you have to go through.

Trust me it is better to leave her and find a person who is more suited to you and make sure you dint make the mistake of lack of communication

Answer 4

For a newly weeded couple who are happy, staying away from each other is a very weird matter. If things were going on well how did u both agree to stay away from each other for so long, i.e for 5 months. may be u must have gone wrong some where in understanding her during her stay with u. A women looks more for emotions and feeling in her man and an understanding towards her in every walk of her life. most men think that he is keeping his wife happy just by providing her with the daily requirements, but most women look for emotions and dedication towards her from her partner. u must be knowing what she expects from u. so try talking to her. there must be defenitely something that she must have felt she is not getting from u. seperation from u for 5 months must make her desperate for u if she really loves u. but i think something must have strongly hurt her.
just beco'z she says she wants a divorce may not mean that she might have another man in her life. A newly wedded women can never think of another man in her life unless she has a past history. may god help u. try talking to her. wish u the best

Answer 5

If you've only been married for a year and she was gone for 5 months it's no wonder there is trouble. Wow! That's a long time apart so early in a marriage.
Since she won't talk to anyone, I guess you'll just have to give it some time, but don't stop living your life. Maybe she'll realize how much she loved you when she sees you living as you were when she met you.
I'm sorry you are going through this. I know how much it hurts. I'll say a prayer for you.

Answer 6

Many times when women achieves any thing they think they won the world. They gain confidence and possible some men who in the beginning will satisfy and dance the way she wants while you are fulfilling your responsibility as honest husband she fulfill her desires other way.

I believe once the glass is broken it’s hard to glue it together. Leave her she does not deserve you. In long run she will realize her mistake but it will be too late for her. Sign divorce in one second and start fresh life with honest lady

Answer 7

It sounds like she is in love with someone else.

Why do you want to pursue a woman when she is not interested in you ? Dont get desperate you can find lots of other girls its not as if you will never again get married if you get a divorce.

If you really love her set her free.

Answer 8

she will not give u a chance because she already has another relationship going and is serious about, it has nothing to do with u, or anything u did or the time spent away from u. if i were u i would want to end this, because its not about u its about her selfish ways and she refuses to talk about it because she knows deep in her heart she has not treated u fairly but it is easier to avoid it than to face it. she is also a coward for running away from her marriage. but its not about u its about her and the new relationship. get out of this asap, don't beg or push because it won't win u any respect. if someone don't want u for whatever reason fair or not, accept it, it will hurt because u don't understand it, it has to do with betrayal.

Answer 9

Well obviosly sounds as if something had tooken place in those 5months where she was.I'd be asking if she had an affair.Don't work to hard to get a second chance.You're lible to get hurt more than what you are.

Answer 10

that will take a toll on any relationship, its possible that in those 5 months away she changed in a lot of ways, but you need to decide if YOU really want to be with someone who will throw it all away so fast?