I love my boyfriend, but I feel he doesn't respond to my needs, for the last year and a half he hasn't worked, he's lived off of me, and now I'm injured and can't work and he still wont get a job and he wont apply for gvmt assistance because he says he'd rather get a job, I feel like he ignores me most of the time, for example, if I want to cuddle he wont, but if he does I better or he'll have a bad additude and pout... if I want sex, he flat out ignores me and will only do it when he wants and will only do the things he likes, he's never done anything for my birthday xmas anaversaries, he's never planed a date, bought me a gift,
or cooked me a special dinner, all of witch I have done for him more times than I can count, and we're fighting really bad lately I don't think I'm asking too much I'd just like some effort to be made once in a while... I moved over 2500 miles to be with this man, is it time to go home or lay it all out on the line and give him an ultamatum?
2007-09-23 00:16:04 · 14 answers · asked by nupeper 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is wrong with you? Why are you still living with that leech? Do you really think he is going to change/ He's nothing but a blood sucking insect. Why would someone put up with that kind of bs? You really have a serious problem sweetie, snap out of it. What are you hoping to get out of that relationship? To be honest with you, he is a big looser. He'll always be a looser. Pack up and leave, you have no more options. Leave that piece of garbage and star a new life with someone who will give you everything you deserve. Where is your pride? Where is your self esteem? Come on sweetie, you can do better than that. You are worthy of having a happy and fruitful life next to a man who would care for you and love you and take care of you. I'm sorry if I seen harsh, but it really saddens me to see that women allow that kind of destruction in their lives. I hope you wake up and leave that sorry excuse for a companion, good luck.
2007-09-23 07:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, Nupeper, dear, I'm not so sure an ultimatum is going to make a difference. Other than to make him angrier.
He's been pretty up front with his attitude.
You just need to decide if this is what you want. How you want to be treated. Everything you ever wanted from an intimate relationship.
If not, go home.
Some relationships are stepping stones to the Right Person. He sounds like a stepping stone. You made a nice effort. Now do it for someone who appreciates you.
2007-09-23 00:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cant you see that he doesnt care about and is just attached to you as a leech! sorry to be so harsh, but you seem a very loving woman who has done a lot and has not gotten anything in return... i say enough is ENOUGH!
dump the guy and do NOT take him back. no matter what promises he makes... you have seen for over a year, that is his nature... in the year and a half if he couldnt plan a date/b'day etc then he is a BUM and does not deserve you.
leave him now and start living your life as happy as you deserve to be! you will find another man who will respect and love and give you for being you!
2007-09-23 00:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by daddy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with this jerk? It sounds like he's always been this way so why in the HELL would you move your entire life to be with Mr. WAAAAY WRONG? Ok - so you made a big mistake once.....don't repeat it by STAYING with this loser!!! And don't let SYMPATHY make you stay. He'll try to use that card. He's physically capable of getting a job....even if it's just at Walmart.
2007-09-23 01:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no point in giving him an ultimatum. He won't change and if he does it will only be temporary. He is the way he is and it sounds like he is a very selfish person. You have absolutely no reason to stay with him, so DON'T!
2007-09-23 02:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by mab5096 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, it's probably enough. If he won't get off his lazy butt and get a job in your time of need, plus all the other inconsiderate things, he doesn't care about you very much. I'd leave.
2007-09-23 00:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up. Leave this man. No point to stay. You deserve a better life. Don't ruin your future because of him.
Don't think just leave him now.
2007-09-23 00:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 16:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by staude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he never did those things; gifts, cooked, etc. he never will. You can't expect him to be someone else. Go home and find a sweetie that'll treat as good as you treat him. Good luck.
2007-09-23 00:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to go home. He doesn't respect you and he is just using you. You need to get out and away from him.
2007-09-23 01:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by Big Red 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋