I really hate to ask this question but I just like to seek earnest opinions. I must admit I am a very paranoid person and it seems that what had happened back in 2002 to my 2nd ex-gf (and the last) might be happening now :
I have been seeing a gal since last November and for prior to July this year, she has been tremendously patient and tolerant with me despite my negative speculation towards her in the area of guys issue etc. Each and every time she will care to explain to me they mean nothing to her.
For the past 6 weeks she has been extremely busy weeks after weeks such as going for company family outing, going back hometown, attending church camp and thereafter trying to clear her work within 2 weeks with night overtimes so that she could go for 2 weeks holiday in Australia which started on 14th September.
Despite her hectic schedule (which is so rare since I know her), she still keep in touch with me (as both of us are from different country) via text messages.
2007-09-23 00:02:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She even called me while she was transiting at my country to Australia last Friday.
For the past 1 week she hasn't initiate texting to me for 1 whole week. I did on Wednesday but she didn't reply till I call her. I was pretty upset and she said she hasn't read the message but she has posted me a post card.
Both of my friends told me I should have let her enjoy her trip without disturbance.
My question is that : Am I too paranoid?
2007-09-23 00:02:27 · update #1
P/S : Any good remedies especially when she is back?
2007-09-23 00:03:08 · update #2
well it must be hard for you with her being so far away from you your just checking shes ok let her be for a while and try agian good luck
2007-09-23 00:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your behavior is driving her AWAY so if you care about her and this relationship, then you need to change NOW. Everyone has been hurt at one time or another by an ex. That is just life. You can't live the rest of your life in bitterness, paranoia, or resentment over it. YOU ARE PUNISHING HER FOR WHAT YOUR EXES HAVE DONE TO YOU and that is not fair. She has done NOTHING to lose your trust or faith and yet you have treated her from the beginning as if she was going to cheat on you. That is absolutely WRONG and I'm surprised she's stayed with you this long.
2007-09-23 01:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are paranoid. She sounds like a really nice lady and your behaviour is going to lose her eventually because no-one can put up with what you are doing. I presume you lost the other two g/fs for the same reason? Get some psychotherapy to find out why you are like this. It will make you feel better and more confident and maybe you will keep your nice g/friend this time and not drive her away.
2007-09-23 00:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by chris n 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you're to paranoid and maybe a long distance relationship isn't for you?
Give her some space and find other things to occupy your time it'll probably do you the world of good and might help ease your paranoia. When she comes back don't smother her with attention either more often then not absence makes the heart grow fonder and she'll come looking for you.
2007-09-23 00:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by i_ate_sponge_bob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being paranoid. i hate so say this but it sounds a little mysterious. Going a week not talking to the person I love, vacation or not , continent or not would wreck me. Good Luck to you.
2007-09-23 00:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by SUNSHINE 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes! you are... i know how it feels when you havent heard from her in 1 week... but let her have fun. and instead of feeling bad adn upset, you try to keep yourself busy by doing something you like...
everything will be ok.
2007-09-23 00:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by daddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are paranoid and a control freak! Rein it in before you loose her!
2007-09-23 00:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes to first question and why not marry her if you love her? that would help greatly. take care.
2007-09-27 14:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋