This is for those who have a Capricorn parent and/or child…I want to ask?

Question

if you have ever perceived him or her to be a bad parent. I understand and know that parenting is harder than it seems, and all that matters is that your parents--they loved you, but um...I'm 17. I’m a Capricorn with a Leo and an Aries parent. But I’ve reach a point where it's like the only thing that matters is that they loved me--and because they were my parents and they loved me, they deserve my love in return. It's like it doesn't matter whether or not they are good parents. Somehow, you have to be a bigger person and show them that you appreciate them. They weren’t really helpful to me growing up. More than helping me they seemed to use words and actions that cut, and I was a good kid...I just had fears, insecurities, and selfish wants. Anyways, one particular experience completely opened my eyes, and I used that pain to understand and grow--and I can't be more proud of the person I am right now.

I asked a question earlier
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhniL_58ULPexoCLAvjQ1R_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070922234720AAtEPJv

and Johnnie C gave me very good advice, but now I help another issue.

I feel like I'm one to not make many mistakes, because I always think and consider all of my actions. It’s not like I’m judging, but I’m finding it difficult to be able to tell my parents "thank you" for everything they did for me. It’s something I definitely want.

I would especially appreciate some of your insight.

P.S. I included astrological information, because it helps you to be more knowledgeable if you can help me. Astrology…some of it is bias, but it’s a good interpretation of personality. I want to be able to see.

Answer 1

Hi Tiffany, I have a son born under Capricorn and although he's soon to be 21 (Jan 13th) he has been allowed to express himself with fashion, decorating his room,who he dates, in order so that if he makes a mistake we would be there to support him and to encourage freedom of expression.I was born under Libra and my ex-wife born under Aquarius. Although we no longer lived together my two sons knew that if they stepped out of line and their mother could not cope I would step in. Discipline did not involve smacking or threats of violence etc, it involved taking time to explain the consequences of their actions and if they were to continue with existing behaviour it would affect how they got on in life in the future. My eldest boy has just secured his first job by remembering advice given to him in his earlier years, my youngest son who is born under Cancer is following in his footsteps and making his own mark. The point I'm trying to make Tiffany is your parents although they brought you into the world and nurtured you and loved you in their own way are not responsible for what you want to do. You are now old enough to make your own decisions and as sure as night follows day whatever happens you will grow from it.

Answer 2

Well, my mother is a Capricorn, I am a Capricorn, and my husband is a Capricorn! I can tell you that Leo and Aries are two difficult signs to get along with as a Cap. My sister is an Aries, I have several Aries friends, but they are difficult to rely on for dependable, thoughtful Capricorn. Aries tend to put themselves first, and they are fiercely independent. I can't get along with Leos very well at all. They and Cap tend to butt heads pretty hard. So, I can understand your frustration and difficulties. The nice thing about us Capricorns is that we tend to continually grow and change as we acquire more information. As time goes on, I think you will find a way to express your feelings to your parents. It just isn't the right time, yet. Keep plowing ahead, you stubborn girl , and you will find the answers.. :)

Answer 3

From what I know of astrology, and people I know in the signs you mentioned, here are my thoughts.

Aries and Leo are both very strong personalities, "need to be followed" types of people. Leo likes to be center stage and Aries needs to be doing things and may not give Leo the attention they want. I can see that their relationship could have been very turbulant and their problem solving skills different from each other and from you.

Capricorns tend to be quieter, more thoughtful, not given to impulsive behavior and focus more on home and family than do either Aries or Leo. For them it is more about themselves.

These are just overviews and not indicitive of everyone in those signs as you need a lot more info about birth do do anything indepth. But, I can see where you in childhood could have gotten the feeling that you were third in importance. They may not have seen themselves as doing this as often we are blind to our own behavior. Most likely, as with most parents, they did the best they could.

I don't think you need to "thank" them for raising you or for being parents to you but perhaps there are things they did that do serve you well and you can say something like, "I learned to stand up for myself by watching you deal with ____." Fill in the blanks...mechanics, repair people etc. That's just one thought but maybe you can think of others. No one parents perfectly and some less perfect than others. Figure out what was "right" and compliment that.

You are to be commended for wanting to be positive to your parents. Not all parents are that lucky!

Answer 4

Greetings young lady,

Your question show a great amount of potential wisdom and insight and I am proud to have you in the ranks of my fellow Capicorns. After reviewing your question as well as its predecessor, I have only a few comments.
What has happened is what happens to many of us. You have turned your brain and eyes on to the world and see it for a scary and chaotic place. quite different from the sheltered rose colored world most of humanity is sheltered behind. The illusion of your life has extended to your parents as well. You have realized their humanity. They were always human. Always imperfect. The only thing that has changed is you. You have become aware of their imperfections after so many years and this highlights thier flaws. Especially since they are highlighting yours.
You are at the Axion age, the age of change, in which you will go from aspiring child to adult, and to do this you will need to make sense of your world. To do this you must live life and in doing so you will make mistakes. Those mistakes and the lessons you learn will define you as a person. Your parents would just like for you to not repeat the mistakes they made, which at times is unavoidable. The appriciation you wish to have for your parents will come. Unforetunately this too will change again. I was 23 when I finally saw the wisdom in some of the things my parents taught me. I became hyper-appriciative of their upbringing. Overly so in some cases. Bu that two changed for soon after I realized that my parents had taught me 98% of what they could by that time. So it was now up to me to complete the process of gaining knowledge. These revelations changed our relationships completely and now we are more like friends with a mutual respect for one another. Your parents may have a much wide base of knowledge then mine and so this may take longer. If your parents never stop teaching you then you are truly one of the lucky ones. However, hold tight, the appriciation of your parents will come when you can finally understand the lessons they taught you and apply them to your life.

Answer 5

It is not wether the rest of the worlds thinks its fair, sit down and talk about it with your parents. find out how much you put on to the house bill weekly. and then work out a payment plan. Take the initiative use the power of negatiation, do your research, and place a counter offer before your parents. That is if you think the current amount is unfair, as only you know what you are getting for it. the rest of us are just guessing. Remember fair is what you think it is, if yoyu reach an agreement with your parents then this must be fair to both parties, then all are happy.

Answer 6

Recipe 4 conflict: two horned species (aries & capricorn) - both head strong (and head butting) vs the "King"! must be helluva interesting at times!!! Would make WW3 look like a Synday school picnic! Good luck kiddo!!!
>>>> He-he vaarmit: Y've said it mate!!!!

Answer 7

Never love anyone who treats you badly. You set yourself to be treated badly over the course of your lifetime. Someone who treats me badly is on notice. If the behaviour continues, I take action.

The abused child often thinks that they should love the abusing parent.
The battered wife or husband often things that they should love the abusing spouse.

We shouldn't.

Answer 8

capricorns are crzy for sure. sue roght? waa know more? contact me. right?

Answer 9

us geminis don't believe in stars