His actions show that he loves me. He does everything for me. He would be the perfect man if he didnt have this issue. Does anyone think he will grow out of it? He is 27, I am 21. Been together for 6 years. I keep taking him back though, even though in my heart i know he is capable of cheating. I keep falling for his " I will never do it again speech. I love him so much but i just need someone or something to tell me what they think. I need strength to leave. And I know I sound so naive right now I hate it.
2007-09-22 20:55:07 · 9 answers · asked by Dae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not at all. I know its hard to leave someone even if you love them, while knowing all they're doing is hurting you. Look, you got a kid on the way right? Whatever you decide, take in consideration your feelings and your childs well being.
Time heals all wounds, how your feeling right now, confused, hurt, betrayed. That can be healed, but if you decide to stay with him and it continues like it has it will repeat itself and it won't heal. And you won't move on, and you'll hate him and yourself for it.
Decide what's best for now, take it slow and know that once it's over with you'll feel better and be independent of him. Well.. whatever you decide, but I'm suggesting you leave him.
2007-09-22 21:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very wise very old man told me this: Woman who lay down in front of man be stepped on by man.
He may SEEM to be "almost" perfect to you, but THE most important traits that REALLY matter in any good relationship are TOTALLY MISSING!!
He is NOT worthy of TRUST, RESPECT, and COMMITMENT. He does not even respect his own promises - I don't care how many flowers he buys, dinners he cooks, how great he sounds on the phone..... that is all "romantic sweet talk" - - once that fades, you have NOTHING but lost time and heart break.
LIARS, REPEAT OFFENDERS, PROMISE BREAKERS, AND CHEATERS make horrible partners - your guy has all four nasty personalities, making him a complete loser.
You are not naive, nor can you claim to be a victim. He did this WITH you, not to you. You LET HIM treat you bad over and over again, thinking that by some miracle he will tire of playing and want to settle down. WHY should he? He can play AND be loved - can't get better than that!!! IF YOU HAD SOMETHING HE COULD NOT LIVE WITHOUT, HE WOULD NOT PLAY AND RISK LOOSING YOU. He does not even know what love really is. He does know how to get what he wants, that's obvious.
Bottom line - he will not change - he is a user and abuser and loving every minute of it. YOU need to decide either to ACCEPT that he is a jerk and live with it, OR, throw him to the curb, change the locks, and get your SELF back together and move on.
2007-09-23 04:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever watch Sex and the City? The writers of that show decided to write a book based on the fact that one male writer became tired of hearing women giving excuses for their men. you should probably read it. "He's Just Not That Into You" I'm sorry for what you've been through. However you taking him back tells him it's okay. If he really loved and respected you he wouldn't have taken another look at other women. There is no real mistake when it comes to sex. Could you see yourself accidentally having sex with another man? You deserve someone who'll give you more than excuses, someone that can give you monogamy. Understand? You should read that book. You may read something you'll like. Good luck.
2007-09-23 04:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know he is lying to you, and he will NEVER be true to you. If he really loved you, then he wouldn't cheat at all. Think about it. If you marry this man, he's going to continue to do what he's always done......cheat. You deserve someone else that will treat you so much more better than this. Use the past 6 years as experience, now you know the excuses, and the tricks....so use this to your advantage. If you keep him, you 'll just continue to get hurt, time after time. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-23 04:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is very hard to know the truth. And when love him dearly. He is still young, you can put up with his attitude or habits, but have you ever thought more than that.
Love is not everything to build up a family. When he likes walking around, he gonna have problem more, as make other women get pregnant.
If he is old enough and not capable to make other pregnant, maybe you can go on.
Life will be complicated when there is more than women in a man's life. Good luck and think it thororughly what you like in your life.
I believe you have a great mind. Your life still longer than you know.
2007-09-23 04:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by maysie64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex doesn't come first....from what I can see I don't think someone who has sex so casually is in true love with another...
How would you feel if you love someone who is having sex with others?.....Its cheating....
You deserve someone who is very loyal...for me I look for:
goals
respect
honesty
loyalty
maturity
If you don't leave you will only experience a lot of pain...do you want to get married to someone who behaves like this?....
I know that 6 years is a long time and you are trying your best to salvage everything you can but do you want to risk another 6 years?.....
2007-09-23 03:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can, but it still is not right. I wouldnt put up with it if im being faithful and she isnt.
2007-09-23 04:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's trash. leave him
2007-09-26 03:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by Amour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up, damn it.
2007-09-23 04:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋