how do you control your temper when another person ticks you off?

Answer 1

I have great sympathy for you, as I feel you have some really dark people who like to push buttons to make you feel bad.
There are several ways to do so. The first is the best.
It is called the art of Diffusing.
To diffuse a 'Bomb' personality that is off and throwing things or screaming- if one can't just walk away, one has to close their eyes and listen to the words the person is saying.
Then look at them and find something funny about them.
In your mind as you watch them doing whatever they are doing, you then INFLATE to Diffuse.
INFLATION one time almost got me in a car accident well twice- Once when I was driving and once when I taught a friend. She was driving and near pulled out 1/2 foot into a speeding double size tractor trailer.
we both would have been found with giant smiles on our faces. to INFLATE the 'BOMB' mean person
it is best not to share what you are thinking or the above can occurr-
Example there is a guy who is tall with a beer belly.
Imagine him wearing a ballerina tu tu-
as he rants and raves imagine what he would look like dancing at that moment in time- The greater you can inflate it
the less the mean person will hurt you-
I have taken psychology classes and this is a common thing but it takes practice.
Usually saying thank you for that ! and smiling and changing the subject is better at first. But when you are safe
like in your own home or room inflate them
draw pictures of them- think of all the things that make that person foolish- when you get that image of them
you will just laugh when they go off-
IT is very difficult to do this when one lives with a I am always right you are always wrong person. Leave is the best thing to do-
if you can tolerate what they are doing and saying
just imagine something happening to them
like a giant water ballon landed on them
it takes a lot of practice
i have done it and do it
but as stated it can be dangerous if shared with a friend while in traffic- my friend was upset again about her boyfriend
he was mean- we gave him funny names- He flirted with a girl and we named her and we went off on a story about them both- that is how we almost got hit by the tractor trailer-
It feels so wonderful once one masters that-
In public the smile! Thank you for that!
well well! Thank you for that Jason! You are such a wit!
If 'Jason' is trying to tick you off HE will try more things
there is a good book to read called dealing with people you can't stand- It teaches one about personality types and how to deal with and diffuse them-
so if you have someone who irks you
drawing them is fun
putting a big belly beer drinking man in red high heel shoes
and a funny hat
like if you have your own office and the boss or a coworker is being mean
doodle only you will know what it means
then look up and say what did you say?
the THANK YOU FOR THAT!
in any form always works
their intention to tick you off
fails
and then you will see if they come back again
it takes time to find out why they do what they do
most of the time it is jealous
i had a college friend
she was just out of high school
I was 25 at the time going to be a paramedic
I was a captain of a crew a firefighter
she wanted to beat me at whatever
tests, games- u know chick to chick
i used to FEED her need by playing board games with her
I would lose on purpose-
then I would have to run and hide in the bathroom because I was laughing-
one night during scrabble
I had to put the word in
it was a triple score
and the word
was
IRE
which means wrath or rage or anger
she said THAT'S NOT A WORD! TAKE IT OFF!
I said it is a word it means!
she said take it off
I said get a dictionary
she said I don't have one
I took off the word
it was IRK some
to not be able to have fun with her
but she so wanted to be what I was
I mean I was older wiser
people always pick on someone who they feel is smarter
or luckier
or better at something
you can what makes people tick by really hearing them
time after time
see what you said
what they said
some people like to fight
some people do it because they have some other problem
and they snap at you
i saw a NUN on TV and a woman one time called up
and said
I always have people yelling at me
and I am always nice
i never raise my voice and am helpful
yet no one respects me
the woman was in tears
the NUN in her 90 plus years of wisdom
said people take things out on you
because they know you are a good person
and that you will forgive them
she was right
if you can watch the movie
Point of no Return
with Bridget Fonda
there is a point in the movie where she is told to
smile and say
I never did mind the little things
that is what I am getting at
letting someone know they irk you when they are in a bad mood
will only make it worse
some people will always irk you
spend less time with those who irk you
if you speak to them about it and ask to knock it off
and they persist
something is wrong inside of them
but be sure to check yourself in the mirror as well
to see if you do anything to provoke anyone
it isn't easy
to know a friend from a foe
it worse when it is family
walking away worked for me for a while
then the 'agressor' realized that i would
leave the room when a temper tanturn would occur
i would hide in the hall to watch how long it took for the agressor to calm down
i would find said agressor
to be watching TV only what 'it' wanted
and on the computer doing what 'it' wanted
and laughing while being in control of the weekend fun
there was a movie i wanted to watch
It said no
so I said ok then I will go on line
it got mad
it wanted both
so walking away all the time
often gives the person what they want
study each person to try and understand them
sometimes people will fight say with a sister
and then you are next in line
and they yell at you
they really are not mad at you
but are mad at the sister
only you can control you
others you can change
but you have to study the right books in the self help section
browse about
walk away
pick a book and read
a 91 year old air force vet told me recently
that when his wife gets mad and starts yelling and irking him
that he goes outside and sits on a chair in the sun
and pretends he is listening
she gets it out of her system
and he is busy thinking about his next bridge game
ignore he said is best because life is too short
do something else when they start
keep a secret log to see if you can pin point the same behavior
one i have acts up only when there is a full moon
i have an atomic clock and when i see the moon phase going to full i stay out of the way
sometimes for the sake of seeing if it is the moon
i will say something that i know will make it mad
we disagree on the death penalty that sets it off
see if you can get to the root of why who does what
though don't expect all of them to admit they have a problem
a lot will deny
anyway
and blame you
which would irk you and me too
so diffuse, doodle, think of funny things happening to them so you can laugh if off
say thank you so much for that! Man you are so insiteful!
and let it go ----
doing that part
would enable you to
understand the person so you can LEAVE right before they do it nit pick whatever irks you
anger management books would be a good read for you
many books I bought for the worst tick me off person
it tries
i imply IT
because a 'shrink' mind you
called a spouse that
IT
not he
not she
but
IT made me mad
i asked why
the shrink said IT and not he or she
if I say IT who am I talking about the shrink asked
IT could be in the room with me
and I can say I don't like it anymore
what don't you like anymore? Pepper. Or
oh nothing just something I was thinking about
what was it?
it?
I forgot about it now..
come on tell me.....
It i forget what it was
salad please
8-)
GOOD LUCK
don't drive and Inflate or diffuse
twice was 2 times too many
when is is not a co worker
or family member
evaluate the friends to see if you can resolve and live with the problem they present
friends are like an elevator
they will take you up
or they will take you down
pick the friends you can get along with
but don't waste your life
worying about IT
the ignore thing works
unless it is a family issue that needs a resolve
like one spends too much
that needs to be dealt with rationally
THANK YOU FOR THAT BILL! YOU ARE SO FUNNY
and inside your head you are thinking
man you are such a Ballerina
you could hum a ballerina song
to yourself
or whistle it
how would BILL know what it means
say that is my favorite song
i think it is swan lake
that goes
da da da da da da da da da da da da da da DUT
or perhaps Bill's wife is the problem
always nagging you
put a beard on her
and plaid flannel shirt and jeans and work boots in your mind
and sing some trucker song
like we got a mightly convoy truckin through the night
singing does work well
people in the group laugh
and they forget what the mean person next to you said
best wishes
THE SEER
I SEE you having a better LIFE now -8-)

Answer 2

Fixing your karma isn't just showing remorse toward the person you upset. It's doing penance to everyone and everything always. Be a little extra attentive to people. Tell the bank teller next time you're in the bank thank you, she/he is always very helpful. Thank the bus driver even if he's a grouch. Go a little (not a whole lot) out of your way to help someone. Make sure you tell your loved ones you are glad they are in your life, that they make waking up so much more enjoyable. You know, just those little things because it's the little things can make a huge difference. Most waitpersons, cashiers, and that sort of worker seldom get honest compliments, I'm sure they get more hostile complaints then anything else. And if you know the person you blew up at has some particular favorite things--strawberry greek yogurt or likes the towels left on the rack in a certain way or whatever, try to make sure things are pleasing without saying anything, just do it. Be nice to the other living things too. Inside, you know how to straighten this out. It's not repenting to that one person you yelled at; it's making things better in the bigger world. I also think karma is forgiving and the forces know we are just human, fallible from time to time.

Answer 3

I think my way through what probably will happen. I have plenty of instances where I was embarrassed by the emotional behavior that I or someone else displayed, so I just think of one of those situations. In doing so you are taking the moral high road. The smugness of this moral superiority is a good trade off for the relief felt when expressing yourself while angry.

Answer 4

Walk away until you calm down. Then wait a while and work out why the pweson ticks you off before either discussing it or letting it go

Answer 5

Just relax alot,have self-control,and don't be with the person that ticks you off.

Answer 6

best thing to do is walk away, that ticks the other person off
that way u want say some thing that u didnt want to say takes a better person to walk away.because some one could get hurt.

Answer 7

count til 3 then talk. it gives you time to stop thinking about the person and you kinda forget/get less angry. If doesnt work, try counting longer, like til 5 or 10.

Answer 8

Breathe deeply, clench and unclench my fists, take a walk, go somewhere and curse up a storm. . . then I go back to deal with the issue if necessary.

Answer 9

Well I would just walk away if that's possible then leave them talking to themselves it's them it's going to look stupid after all they will be talking to them selves.

Answer 10

That's a paranormal phenomena ?