A friend and I went to an all you can eat restuarant to have dinner. He can be a little picky about his surroundings. He does not like to eat beside families with small children and he does not like eating near loud teenagers. (I can somewhat understand). When we sat to eat we moved from one table near small children (ages 1 and three) to another table.
A family sat beside us with a "mentally challenged" daughter. She looked like she was 10 years old and my friend wanted to move again b/c he said looking at her made his stomach turn. At this point, I drew the line. I told him that his behavior was "snooty," childish, cruel and unnecessary. He was angry at me b/c he said that I was being rude for not respecting his wishes and I was trying be controlling. To make along story short, we ended up moving b/c the argument became a little heated and the family was beginning to notice.
QUESTION FOR YOU
Was I wrong for taking up for the family instead of moving right away!
2007-09-22 18:48:27 · 6 answers · asked by Andre L 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Other - Politics & Government
Gramma, It just happened today. What sounds so fake about this. People have all kinds of stupid hang-ups!
2007-09-22 18:55:45 · update #1
I think you were perfectly correct in trying to modify your friend's obnoxious behavior. You are a true friend to this person because you care enough about him to point out his childish behavior. Tell him to eat at home next time.
2007-09-22 18:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People expect certain things in life, and when they have to pay for it, they expect it to be the way they want it. The problem with your friend is he thinks his @!#$ don't stink. I personally have hang ups about going out to eat & kids are out of control, they should be well mannered so as to not disturb others, but hang ups about those less fortunate and it's out of their control is shallow, simple, and avoidable. I also have issues with some visible handicaps, but I also know how to turn away, or not put myself in a position of weakness. Musical dinner tables is for preschoolers, and you did just fine. Tell him to stay home, and he'll never have to be subjected to a life that doesn't revolve around him.
2007-09-22 19:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were 100% correct. As a person with a disability, i've seen this kind of thing many times. Your friend was acting no differently than some bigoted whites act and treat black people.
And--I obviously can't speak for you--but if it were me, I'd start cultivating a better class of friends. YOu obviously have too much intelligence and sensativity to to waste time on a loser like him.
2007-09-22 19:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground, and if you must keep this guy as a friend, eat at home! Personally I would seek a better class of friend.
2007-09-22 19:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by sbyldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend doesn't like sitting near other people when he eats, he should eat at home.
2007-09-22 18:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by DOOM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK U R FRIEND NEED TREATMENT.HE IS HAVING SOME PREJUDICE ABOUT CHILDREN.STAY AWAY FROM THAT PERSON BECAUSE HE MAY HEART YOUR FELLINI'S.U R NICE GENTLE SOLE YOU DID THE WRIGHT THING INS TED OF MOVING RIGHT AWAY.
2007-09-26 17:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by mini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋