I have two roommates. I'm friends with one of them.
The other hates me and is completely obsessed with my friend.
She has a lot of self-esteem issues and can be paranoid.
She refuses is talk to me or even acknowledge my presence in the apartment. The only time she does say something, it's to complain about something I "apparently" did.
She and my friend (the other roommate) don't get along to well either. She is always belittling my friend (calling her stupid etc.) and will only engage in a real conversation with my friend when it's about her.
Every time my friend leaves the apartment, the crazy roommate calls her to see where she has gone.
It's gotten so bad that now my friend can't leave the apartment without telling pyscho where she's going.
The roommate acts like an obsesssive girlfriend to my friend eventhough they don't like each other. I'm treated as the non-existent being (or an apparent threat when I decide to chill with my friend)
What can I do?
2007-09-22 17:29:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
go get a 12 pack of good cold beer and ignore it and maybe a bottle of peppermint schnaapps too
2007-09-22 17:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by jim1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...you really have a mess don't you....who is in charge of matching up roomies ? That is the person you need to talk to. No student needs a problem like this. Your mental health is too important that you have to put up with this person who is like a thorn in your sides. I wouldn't waste time I'd go straight to whomever is in charge. Do you have a counselor that you can speak to about this. The longer you postpone doing something now the worse it's going to get. This problem child needs therapy of some kind and it's not up to you and your friend to take care of her needs. You have your education to deal with and not time for this stress.
Take care and let me know the outcome.
Mama Jazzy Geri
Remember you are not getting anyone in trouble you are helping her and helping yourself and friend at the same time!
2007-09-22 17:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to get the three of you together and have a talk. Just talking and communicating about problems can make a world of a difference. If that doesn't work I would consider finding new roommates.
2007-09-22 17:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by SkUnDy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty straightforward. If there isn't anything you can do to help this obviously disturbed person, you are going to have to get out of there, or gang up w/ the friendly roomy and force the unfriendly one out. Sounds like a personality disorder of some kind, which is a deeply rooted problem that just having a heart-to-heart discussion isn't going to fix.
2007-09-22 17:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by bishopsjewels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me you're enabling this person to be like this. if your friend plays the game and calls the crazy one and says "hey i'm at the mall i'll be home at 7"... uh don't you think THAT sounds crazy. you wouldn't see ME calling a ROOMMATE to tell them where i am, unless we had plans. are you jealous? is the "friend" playing you against each other? maybe the friend is saying they don't like the crazy one and says things about YOU behind your back. don't be naive that's all i'm saying. if it was really as bad as you're saying, you would work together as a team and kick that person out of your apartment. your friend is playing into it by letting herself/himself be controlled like that. he/she needs to say, hey- back the hell off! we're not a couple. you don't like it get the hell out! i mean really? you have a problem but it's not a hard one to figure out. your friend needs to tell this person to get out or lay off. quit playing this person's game! you both are.
2007-09-22 17:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh complex, but i know thats what roomates are like :P umm well either set some rules in place that make it so you both can live your lives without banging head, or maybe move out or kick her out. These roommate things never end well, i have yet to see it end well, my recommendation just getout or getthe problem out.
2007-09-22 17:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, if this is that undesirable, then in basic terms factor out in the two passive phrases that no person likes her, no person ever will like her (however some ineffective parasites might get close in basic terms to stab her back), and that except she alters she would be able to die despised and valueless. If she's too stupid to accomplish that, it might probable be quite worth getting kicked out and relocated in basic terms to offer an excellent sucker punch.
2016-11-06 03:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your friend roommate can move out together and leave psycho to pay the rent herself.
2007-09-22 17:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your roommate friend need to move out and share a different appt. because that chick sounds like a *****
2007-09-22 17:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by Fat Kids Are Hard To Kidnap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the same to her...call her when she leaves to find out where she's going. Complain about everything she does. When all else fails, pour bleach on her clothes, put Nair in her shampoo, and vegetable oil in her conditioner.
2007-09-22 17:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by futureteacher0613 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋