Who thought up that old saying and is it true? Losing a love is mighty painful and sometimes traumatizes a person for a long, long time. Often, it makes people afraid to dive into other relationships. It makes them marriage-shy, afraid of commitment.
So, is it better to love someone and go through the agony of loss than it is to be alone, without any close ties? And do lost loves ever fade from the mind, leaving a person free to find someone else?
2007-09-22 16:50:06 · 20 answers · asked by Me, Too 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Absolutely... Many things that may be painful are still worth experiencing. Think of a loved one that has passed away - would you prefer to have never had them in your life?? Being able to love someone and be loved in return is a great gift, even if you only get to experience it for a little while... You sound a little broken hearted, it will fade - soon enough you will look back and find a learning experience in all of this.
Everything in life is a gamble, but you can't win if you don't play... there aren't many games funner or more rewarding than love - even if you lose, you've won something.
2007-09-22 16:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather not know if I were destined as it were to not ever have someone for life.
However I suppose its a learning process,that we must go through.
If it was true love no they are always there within us,they never leave.
Their memory may fade from the everyday thought but they are there for life.
Yes I know how the pain can effect you from trying again since my last really bad broken heart I have not dated nor even had a cup of coffee with anyone-since jume 6th 1994-though now perhaps too late Iam searching again everywhere even here.
2007-09-23 00:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by stevenseeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call.
I admit it, I'm a fickle person. I am nomadic, and a "lone wolf" much of the time. But at the same time, I've very social. I make friends where ever I go. And despite their better judgement, people get into relationships with me. But eventually, I leave. I am too nomadic and independant to commit in the long term.
While I do not regret loving anyone else, even if it hurt to let them go, sometimes I wish no one had ever fallen in love with me, because I feel bad about the trouble I caused them.
2007-09-22 23:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would think so because you have all the good memories and also that is a part of life !! You learn and you grow through your expereinces in life !! You have to go through some things in life in order to come out a stronger and maybe a better person ! If your afraid to love because you might loose them then you are only hurting yourself because you will always be unhappy and alone ! Life is a Chance and its a chance worth taking ! I'd rather loved then not loved at all !! and be happy for the times that i was happy then not to love and be unhappy all my life !
2007-09-23 01:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have to decide for ourselves whether its true or not...i believe that it is...yes, losing a love is painful...but love is such a wonderful feeling, I couldnt imagine if I had never had the chance to experience it...
As far as it turning people away and them taking a long time to get over it and all that...again, that depends on the person...you can choose to live your live wallowing in pitty... regretting a lost love and giving up on love all together...but why? life really does go on! God did not intend on love to be a curse, we selfishly make it a curse by the choices we make to react to it in such a way...
I wish each ex nothing but the best in life and hope they someday find the love that we could not be to each other...I thank them for the lesson of love I received and I am a better person today for it....
Let love be the wonderful thing that it is...and yes, at least for me...it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at alllll
2007-09-22 23:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by no_me_no_u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think lost love ever fades, but it does depend on the situation and how the relationship ended.
And some folk just don't get over a breakup well. But if you're strong enough emotionally, you'll come through.
But yeah, I think it's better to have loved someone than never to have known love.
2007-09-23 00:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by MELBA1220 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alfred, lord Tennyson came up with that saying.. :) and I think it is better to " Love & lost Than to Never love at all. I agree that losing a love is pretty painful, but I think each relationship you are in is learning experience for the next. for what to do & what not to do! And as for lost loved fadeing from the mind I myself have never forgotten my first love but I am very happy with the love I share now!
2007-09-23 00:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I loved deeply and lost it by his choice. I dreded the days to come. I was depressed and I was afraid of whatever comes next. See I was with him for a long time and engaged......he as all I knew. However,time is a healer and the pain goes away. Would I go through it again.........love I would do again. But with love comes the chance that you may get hurt. There are reasons we get hurt......sometimes by personal unhealthy cycle or sometimes natural events. Either way.......the pain makes you stronger and lifts you to a whole new level of personal growth and development. Sometimes we need to remember that we are human and need to feel....even the worst of feelings.
2007-09-22 23:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by happybeans79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never loved at all in my option , cause then you don't have to live with the grief of the lost loved one, but then you're be lonely. It's a hard question to answer.
2007-09-22 23:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Sabby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loved and lost. i rather be loved n lost that person. when u r feeling loved u feel happy but when they die u feel sad but at sometime in ur life ur gona find n meet another person. though it will take time for u to get past ur loved ones
2007-09-22 23:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mr.Sleepy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋