Relationships are built upon honesty and trust, but sometimes telling a current love about your past loves can end in bitter recriminations and arguments. Sometimes, the thought of other lovers lingers in the mind and spoils any current relationship. Is it better to keep quiet and leave your past a secret that only you know about? Or is it better to level with your partner and tell all?
2007-09-22 16:44:38 · 9 answers · asked by Me, Too 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why offer the info?? If they ask you about certain things then be honest but there is no reason to bring up your past relationships really. cause some guys are wierd about stuff like that, so i'd wait to get to know him and see what kind of person he is before ever talking about the past to him. get to know him first then you will know how he would handle it !
2007-09-22 17:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every person you've dated in teh past has contributed to your learning about what you want and don't want in a new love. Those memories and happy times should be freely shared. I'm not talking about an inventory, but you should feel free to mention a happy memory. THe person you're with shouldn't believe they're your first love.
I feel that honesty is best. If your current love cannot accept that you have a past, I have to question your choice. It shouldn't cause arguments. A person should be mature enough to realize that the world didn't start when you met them. If there's something you feel they need to know, then you're looking for someone who will accept your past and you as a package, and it's important to you. If they can't accept you, move on. YOu deserve someone you can be truly open with.
I'm the same way. I tell all. So far, I've been with my fiance for 5 years. He knows more than he ever wanted to, both good and bad, but he never got angry about any of it. He was honest to. We're probably closer for it.
2007-09-22 17:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Allison P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a time and a reason and a season for everything...if your mate asks, then tell him because ypu dont want a relationship built on lies....if it doesnt come up, let it go and enjoy the mate you have....those thoughts and feelings from the past only come up if you let and/or want them too....so check yourself and ask yourself if you are really over your past loves and/or if this really is the one...
2007-09-22 17:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by no_me_no_u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past. Why would you want to know about it anyway. You live for the relationship you are in now.
2007-09-22 19:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by pinkbubbles282004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be vague, I don't count... Just a few... I'm not sure... The person is looking for reassurance that you feel he or she is the best. Feed their ego... No one compares to you. As the relationship grows you can open up more. Once your partner feels more secure share the details.
2007-09-22 16:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mick H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't tell about all my loves. What is done is done and the past is the past. Go foward and leave the past behind.
2007-09-22 16:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know about all of my husband's past relationships and he knows about all of mine. We talk about everything and have no secrets.
2007-09-22 17:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past is past
2007-09-22 17:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by mahesh_babu1981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe to some extent but i don't feel comfortable
2007-09-22 16:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ivan and Marko's momma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋