me and my girlfriend are trying to work things out again we have alredy tried but she always ends up cheating on me but i really do love that girl but i dont know what to do.we have a little girl together and i want to be a family but im scared that she is gonna cheat on me again she has already done it alot of times before and i always come back to her and this time she kicked me out of our apartment to let her parents move in.but she tells me that she still wants to be with me what do i do???
2007-09-22 15:23:01 · 12 answers · asked by Gilberto P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all be a dad to the child i hate to say this but did you do a blood test make sure she is yours?? if she has cheated so much then could be someone elses . you are in same boat as a friend of mine he going through the same thing but im proud of him cause he has knows she will not change and he can move on and deserves to be happy with someone that really loves him and will be faithful. it will be hard but you can do it to. if the child really is yours be a good dad to her but you deserve to be happy and loved the right way and there is someone out there that will give you all that why waste your time and keep being hurt and used. STOP BEING A DOOR MAT. she will say what you want to hear to keep you coming back and let me guess you paying for things to right. .. move on you need to repect yourself and be happy really happy . love one sided dont work just keeps getting you hurt and being a mat. sorry .
2007-09-22 15:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a woman who will respect you and cherish you for all the good values you have.
A relationship that is based on dishonesty and disrespect is not very fullfilling in my opinion.
If you are ok with how she treats you, then you have no problems you both can be on your merry way.
Maybe you should be asking yourself if you want your daughter growing up with the same values as your babies mother. Teach her morality, respect and decency by getting your own apartment and having a real family.. even if it is on the weekends and just baby girl and you.
Have respect for yourself above all else.
2007-09-22 15:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you enjoy being used as an emotional punching bag hey Gilberto?.
You have given her free reign to go out and cheat over and over again because she know's in the end you'll always take her back.
Close the door and dont let her back in go see an attourney and get visitation's legally with your daughter and let this woman go catch a disease without passing it on to you.
2007-09-22 16:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life.She is a user and a looser.She has already cheated on you more than once so that tells me she will do it again.She knows you will take her back so this only makes it easier for her.Do yourself a favor and figure out how to carry on without her.
2007-09-22 15:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please know that she is not a good person she comes back to you only because she can not because she loves you .love does not hurt people or cheat you need to be there for your child not for her it is time to let go of this thing because i cant even call it a relationship because its not ...its someone using you and she dont want you to move on (selfish) find someone who loves everything about you and that wont use you or hurt you she is out there i promise.....take care and take a stand..
2007-09-22 15:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out and be the responsible adult. Your daughter needs to see that more than have the "happy" family image. Which you wont be because this woman has learned she can walk all over you.
2007-09-22 15:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like she wants you in her life for the benefits that offers to HER, but is unconcerned as to how YOU feel. It sounds to me like she wants it all. You there supporting her and her/your child while she acts like she's free and clear.
If she has done this often, and you keep letting her back, she may see this as tacit agreement that it is OK with you.
Its time to take responsibility for your life, and admit this isn't what you need, this isn't good for you, and let it go.
Don't exclude your daughter from your life, but its time to let the Mum go.
2007-09-22 15:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on I know it is hard you may love her but she is using you. There is somebody better out there for you. She sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. You are allowing her to do that by staying with her.
2007-09-22 15:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by blueelectra18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this
but it sounds like shes using you
its too bad to
if youre wanting a family
shes missing out
her loss not yours honey
and feelings fade over time
you may always love her somewhere
but you can get someone who can love you the way you deserve to be loved
good luck
2007-09-22 15:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by jes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. It is obvious that she does not want to be a family. I commend you trying to be a father to your kid, and do the honorable thing. You need to do the honorable thing with someone that will appreciate and respect you feelings.
2007-09-22 15:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by shamogreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋