I have been living with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years now, and things have got so bad i just dont know what to do anymore. When we first met it was obvious we were so into each other and couldnt keep our hands or thaughts off of each other. But as time has gone on, he gets angry at me at little things like putting somthing back in a wrong place. and that seems enough to ruin the rest of our day as he will start bringing up past things iv done that he hasnt approved on and then i get angry at him im it then just spirals out of control! i didnt see him for 3 months at work and when i came back he didnt even seem like he missed me. he turned over when bed time came. and didnt even kiss me goodnight. He doesnt make me feel like a woman anymore. I know that im quite good looking but it seems he;d not attracted to me anymore. He has an erectal disfunction which iv stuck by him through..but it doesnt seem like he even cares for satisfying me needs. it feels like he doesnt love me anymore...
2007-09-22 14:46:27 · 16 answers · asked by zxcvbnm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You guys may have never really been in love. You did have an infatuation and a lust for each other, but that wears off, as many a married couple can tell you.
Since you are not married any commitment you have to each other is in the eyes of the two of you. I would suggest you split. Make a clean break, see other people, move out. Don't even date.
If there is anything more to the relationship than what you have described he will want you as much as you seem to want him. If there is nothing more then it is best both of you move on.
2007-09-22 14:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Must be something there or you shold have gotten the message. Didn't state why you came back, did he ask you, did you beg to come back, did you threaten him "or else". Are you financially dependant on him. What is the attraction. No relationship should be based on sex. You got to be freinds and he doesn't seem like a friend. You need to buy him a car or motor cycle, naw just kidding. Sounds like you need your freinds and family to give you support. May hurt now, but some time down the road you will meet someone that likes you for you and you could leave theirtv in the frnt yard and they wouldn't give a hoot. If nothing else call that Ms leo l Take care. I dated an attorney that ultimately just wanted one thing and that was it. I wanted more and she didn't so we parted ways. Now that I look back on it I must have been pretty hard ulp and you will feel lthis way also.
2007-09-22 14:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "he brings up past things". He has not let go of things have gone thru in your relationship and thats gonna always be a problem unless he can learn to let those things go. Try bringint this point up next time you are talking about it and see if thats something he is willing to work on. If he's not, then I would say this relationship will not work.
2007-09-22 14:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by I love my baby girl :-D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationsips are WORK!
Both parties equally
Dont know your time line but sounds like there is more to growing scenarios
Remember,who worries more about themselves?
where are you in your life? that you are willing to draw line in the sand?
Would you rather put forth your efforts into new relationship and start over from scratch?
or work half as hard and make the one you have spectacular?
If you are in real relationship wouldnt you do everything in your power to help the other so they can help you both?*!
Wouldnt you want the other party to do the same for you.
Where are you and what role do you wish to live
Never said it would be easy! And dont assume anything!
Be real and clarify!
God bless
2007-09-22 15:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by jdsecmove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunatly that's life, tons of times after 1.5-3 years of being together you fight and disagree since you love each other and can show ALL feelings and emotions, including anger. I suggest you too get a relationship psychologist who hopefully will help you and then you can find out if you can stay together, or time to say good-bye. I wish you the best of luck and for what is right to happen.
2007-09-22 14:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
harsh. its time for a change my dear, you either make a move or he will. you have to do something that will make him love you the way he used to.for example.. "Sally has lived with Michael for 7 yrs now..the passion has been wearing off more and more as time goes by.. Sally worries.. she flashes back into time when they went on their 1st date.. they planned the most anusual date.. meeting at the alley at 3am with a 2 liter diet coke and some mentos.. and by 4:30AM end up making love to eachother.. so she bumps back into reality world and buys a 2 liter diet coke and some mentos and wears her sexiest outfit and waits for Michael to arrive.. he gets home..speechless.. motionless.. 10 seconds later its deja vu at home rather than the alley" you can either do something like that or if you think it wont work then i guess it's just time to separate ways. hes not the only man in the world, keep that in mind.
2007-09-22 15:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Peppe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this relationship is making you miserable. Have you really talked to him about how he doesn't even seem to care about your needs-- both in and out of bed? If so, maybe it is time to move on. If someone doesn't make you happy, what's the point of being with them? Maybe though he is just really depressed. If he agrees to go to counseling either with you or without you, maybe its still worth a shot.
2007-09-22 14:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by tigerlily22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all to often a problem. When a man can't perform he fells that he is no longer a man, what he is doing is playing mind games with you to try to get you to leave him. He loves you, but he hates himself, don't let that cloud your mind. Tell him that you understand, tell him that you know that is is not his fault that things just happen. be as supportive as possible. sex is not everything in a relationship.
2007-09-22 14:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by jason j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur waisting ur precious time being with him, he doesnt appreciate you, hav a talk to him, and let him know if he's not going to change let him go, move with a friend, if he really loves you he will come back looking for you and if he doesnt move on ,like u said ur a good looking and he doesnt see it that's his lost not yours and plus there'so many guys out there that would love to go out with you and will definitely treat you like a princess just watch ur steps and dnt fall down
2007-09-22 15:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by ViRY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reminds me of the Kenny Rogers' song "The Gambler" Part of the chorus:
"You got to know when to hold 'em
Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
Know when to run"
People in relationships sometimes grow apart from each other. You have looked out for him for a long time and have not received the same treatment in return. You deserve to receive what you give. It's time you look out for yourself. Don't hold on to him and look out for yourself at the same time. Look out for yourself. You have to because he is not doing it.
2007-09-22 14:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋