I feel a little hurt...should I?

Question

Today we were visiting with my hubbys brother and his bro could possibly be going on a trip to Africa... like a business trip. He would be gone for possibly 4 to 6 wks. My husband looked at me and said in sortof a joking manner, hey, I asked him about how much money they paid for supervisors there, and so I maybe going too. I joked back with him about it, and asked him later if he was serious. He said he had asked about the pay,but he said nothing about whether or not he was serious about the trip. Now, here's the deal. I am perfectly fine with the idea that people go on business trips that take them far away. My issue is how he acted like he was gloating about it..almost like haha, I may leave you and the kids and go there. If he had just mentioned it without that haha tone, it wouldn't bother me. It is 1 thing to say you may go, but another to gloat about it in my opinion. Do I ask him more about it since tomorrow is our anniversary? I feel hurt that he said it that way. Thanks.

Thanks everyone, but he said it in a voice kindof like a little kid..almost a nanny nah nah nah nah sound. Sorry I didn't clarify.

Answer 1

I think you may be adding a little extra sauce on this situation. There are some things that you just have to let go of. This is nothing to trip over. I'm sure he wouldn't make a decision like that so frivolously.

Answer 2

Are you sure he was gloating? It sounds to me like he was trying to "soften the blow" about his wanting to do it, no like he was trying to seem superior to you if he does get it. IMHO. I think you should realize that he probably wasn't doing it in a joking manner to make you feel bad, he was probably doing it to ease your worries about it.

Answer 3

Hard to tell....wasn't there to understand the context of the conversation. Though it does sound trivial in the grand scheme of things.

Answer 4

Sounds like he was guaging your response is all.