ladies: relationship question plz read on?

Question

ok, so my gf is pregnant now, and shes been having problems w/ her babys daddy and finally got up and left him. the new child is more than likely mine. i have debt issues and i have been scared of that and i told her that from the start. she got up and left him two days ago. she asked how i felt and i told her i pretty much love her its just im scared of my financial situation being a problem and that i dont know her enough to want to jump into a relationship. since then, she texted me from her friends phone saying her phone got shutoff. however, when i called her phone went to voicemail meaning that maybe the phone was off, not shutoff. she had said she was going to call me from her sisters, yet i havent heard from her since. if ure a chick, what might be going thru ur head if u are her? did my explanation possibly deter her from me cuz she thinks im not serious?i really care about this chick but sometimes i get the feeling she doesnt care shes just saying she does

Answer 1

So she was living with her 'babys daddy'( I hate that term, btw) when YOU got her pregnant ?

The future of this planet is getting worse by the day.

Answer 2

First of all, when you are pregnant, your hormones go crazy and so does your logic sometimes. Pregnancy makes a woman very emotional!! Maybe since you told her that you are not sure of your financial issues being a problem, she doesn't want to burden you. or she feels you are using it as an excuse to get out of responsibility for her and the child. If you truly care about her, as you say you do, and this child is most likely yours, you should be willing help her with the child and any expenses. There is lots of help available to you. Just b/c you don't have money should not be a reason to not be responsible. Children don't need money, they need love. Right now, she needs your understanding and hopefully you have some emotional attachment to her and your child. She didn't make this child on her own without any help! Don't worry so much about tomorrow, it will take care of itself. Things always work out.

Answer 3

How old are you? Did you read what you wrote before you hit enter? You need to stop right now and sit down with yourself and figure out what you are doing. Do you love this girl?

No, your not in love be up front and say so. You have money problems, so does most of us, you need to know for sure if this baby is yours, that means a DNA test the day the baby is born. If it's yours then you really need to pull it in and if that means get another job digging ditches to pay your child's expenses grab that shovel. If it's yours go to court and set up visitation and support.

Yes, you love her, good now you need to have a DNA test done the day the baby is born, if it happens to be her ex husband he needs to ante up the child support and set up visitation. You need to love and be a good father to the baby yours or not. If it's your congratulations, if not congratulations your a step father and you have a big job of showing what a man really is by raising that baby to be the best he can be.

The main thing is be honest with yourself and her. Good Luck.

Answer 4

in case you desire to have dating with this woman, I say moving out became the wonderful ingredient you have gotten accomplished. especially at first of a dating, you want area to get away, you does no longer have that in case you lived there. Plus, if it did no longer paintings out, you would be in an exact mess nonetheless residing there. it may additionally create a difficulty the place you or her are in basic terms staying considering the fact which you do no longer pick to handle moving. that's two times as stressful to bypass away a dating that's no longer working once you reside jointly. it is likewise difficult to take that step from stable associates to dating. there is often that question interior the back of your recommendations what if I injury an excellent freindship? that's stressful to take that step. That being suggested, now you have a miles better hazard to have a dating along with her. What if residing jointly became what became retaining her back from dating you simply by motives above? yet different than calling or texting you greater, are there any warning signs she needs to start dating? you may desire to have an worry-free talk along with her approximately it, and locate out the place she is at. If she in basic terms considers you a chum and misses having you around to talk with, you may desire to recognize that for the duration of the previous you misread alerts. She may be flirtatious by ability of nature and not understand she could desire to be maximum proper you on. If she does not want a dating, you may desire to be sure on how lots touch along with her is in basic terms too lots. area would be mandatory so which you would be able to head on. If she does want a dating, take it sluggish and notice what happens. in case you incredibly like her, take the time devloping a robust dating. you have already got an excellent beginning place on your friendship.

Answer 5

Your fatal words "I pretty much love you but I don't know you well enugh to jump into a relationship"... bad move, esp to your pregnant girlfriend who is very hormonal, emotional and pregnant, one who might be carrying your child and probably thinks you dont care. Or shes thinking --Obviously he knew me well enough to have sex with me or be in a relationship with me, or he just used me for sex and doesnt want anything to do with me know because Im pregnant and hes not ready(serious). Maybe she thinks you don't care about her, maybe shes thinking, he doesnt care he just says he does-- just like you were saying about her. If he loves me then why doesn't he want to be in a relationship with me. Maybe your explanation sounded serious that you didnt want to be in a relationship with her and she took you serious and isnt bothering you anymore. She probably feels like she couldnt go to anyone else and even you turned your back. If you really care about her you have funny ways of showing it esp in her time of need. Grab a shovel cause you've buried yourself deep in shi*!!

Answer 6

She may be having your baby and you tell her that you don't know her enough to want to jump into a relationship? You were already in a relationship, I would have issues with you too. You hurt her. You are the one who is uncaring.

Answer 7

You don't want anything serious with her because of your financial situation but you still got her pregnant? Wait, you don't even know for sure if you are the father. And how many kids does she have already?

Answer 8

I think you had better back away quickly. Look at the terms you use to describe her and the situation. You don't love this "chick" she gave you some so you think you're in love. Let her go back to how did you put it? Oh.....her babys daddy

Answer 9

You really care about her then she's more than a chick. Excuses, excuses don't excuse you from your responsibilities, if this baby is yours step up and be a man.

Answer 10

You,you,you....her,her,her. You know who's the most important person in all of this mess. A little baby. So what would be best for this little one? There's your answer.......man up!