My ex and I share joint custody of our son who lives with me 60% and lives with him 40%.The problem is my exhusband brings his fiance to things i feel should be just between the parents of our child(doctors appts.,school meetings with the teachers regarding our son)I have asked nicely for his fiance to stay home and leave these decisions to my ex and I to handle.Well my exhusband refuses to respect my wishes on this.As the mom do i have any legal rights to say where his fiance can and can't go regarding my son?
2007-09-22 14:04:41 · 5 answers · asked by kathy g 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Not really, if he allows it, she is in- unless she does something way out that is grounds for a restraining order. I am with you on the non parent staying out of things except in that the kids should still be respectful of her- she should have a say in how they are raised though but he has made his decision. Also your custody arrangement is one of the worst for the kids- it is better for them to live at one house all the time with weekend visitations and such rather than switching houses.
2007-09-22 14:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think so. The only thing I am sure about is that she is not allowed any form of physical punishment, any medical decisions unless your ex signs permission and I think that has to be a joint decision also.
My exes fiance is an integral part of my children's lives. She does not want children but treats mine well when they are with her. I discuss issues with both her and my ex that I feel they both need to be aware of and other issues I deal directly with my ex. If she wanted to come to a school meeting or dr visit, more power to her! The more informed the adults are that have direct impact on the children the better their care will be.
Just remember, you hold the special position of mom and no one can take that place. And trying to be partners with the other adults in his life as parents will only be for his benefit.
2007-09-22 21:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life ! Before you screw up your son so bad he will never recover. Sounds like somebody is jealous. It's over with you and your ex. As long as the fiance is not strangling your child or doing immoral things or illegal things with your son butt out. When your son is with your ex he is in charge. When you finally get a life and have a boyfriend, you will better understand. So when your son is with you, do what you want, and when he is with his dad, let the ex do what he is doing. You will have a happier, healthier son and you will show a lot of maturity on your part. Don't sweat the small stuff. Save that energy for the really big things in life, like cancer or death of a family member, or real problems that many people face everyday of their lives. So I close with "Get a life". Good Luck...
2007-09-22 21:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by FILE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not in the example you gave.
Like it or not, the fiancee is part of your son's life too. The courts will not take this into consideration.
They are only interested if the situation presents an unsafe condition for the child.
2007-09-22 21:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by trooper3316 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This woman may be your son's stepmother. Will you still be objecting to her involvement then? Why, exactly, does it bother you so much?
2007-09-22 21:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by OPad 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋