He said, he won't married a woman who doesn't have a religion.
My parent are muslims. He is a muslim too, they think that I should Muslim too.
I personally don't believe in religion because I feel that it a way to control people.
I respect him and his belief, but he has problem accepting what I believe.
It's just hard because I accept him for who he is, do and believe but he has problem with mine.
He said we can be boyfriend and girlfriend but nothing more unless I practice Islam because my parent are Muslim.
What do you think?
Should I be in the relationship anyways?
I am just confuse now, he is good, kind and everything I am looking for. It's just that it's my life too and I want to be happy too and don't want to force myself into anything.
I don't mind praticing it. It's just that I believe that God will love and hear me no matter what.
Please help
2007-09-22 13:32:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
i love the way you think...!
i know wat u feel....i dnt like to be called a religion... i just call myself someone who believs in god and jesus our savior..just tell them that its ur choice to be whatevr u want to be..and try it out like that.. becuase neither ur paremts our your boyfredn can control you..........jus see how things work out...and if it doesnt work then i really dnt kno wat to tell you..! good luck
2007-09-22 14:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by a_castellion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to tell you what religion you should or should not be. I believe in Jesus Christ as the Son of God. Some people believe this also, some do not. I don't condemn them because my God teaches love and acceptance of all people, all religions. It is not for me to make anyone choose how to worship. In my heart, I believe that God does hear and love all those who believe in Him, whether in an organized religion or not. God turns no one away who seeks Him and His wisdom. Pray to Him...He will lead your heart on the right path. God Bless!
2007-09-22 20:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by dkangel1346 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be forced to do what you don't want to do. If he can't accept you for who you are then he doesn't really love you. I myself am with the Big Fish philosophy on "its rude to talk about religion, because you never know who your going to offend." I usually just don't think about religion and live a much happier life, as long as my parents don't open up the subject.
2007-09-22 21:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would wait untill your ready to accept your self to give your heart to god and would support you religion or not in the bible it says if you are married you are considered a christian not so sure about muslim but maybe u should do some soul searching if my advice dosent help out
2007-09-22 20:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Semhar Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is "everything you are looking for" i think that in your break down of what you look for in a partner - somewhere you want someone to love and respect you for who you are - period. If religion is going to be a problem now, what will happen once you get married ? what religion will you instill in your children? if any.....take a long hard look in your relationship and ask yourself if this is a man that you want to be with forever --- hope things work out -- they usually do..good luck
2007-09-22 20:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI...
I'm not really an expert in all of this as i have never had any boyfriends, im forbiden to have any boyfriend and am too shy. Now i hope u won't think ill of me but i think tat ur guy is treating u bad. firstly in islam, teh fifth line of alfatihah( which is teh first surah in teh quran) is translated form malay to english: show me the straight way of life....Now every one's intepretation of a straight life is diffrent, but teh most important of all is to respect other people intepretaion of a straight life. ur straight intepretaion of life is to live life as how u want it, be it practise teh five pillars of islam or not. if he doesn't respect ur beliefs, ur life...then my opinion is tat he doesn't luv u 4 who u really are and u really should not be in teh relationship. Secondly, im suprise that he's a muslim and he doesn't know that allah akbar means allah is the greates, and i believe that somewhere in the quran it says tat allah is all knowing. only god and only god knows whether or not u go to syurga or neraka(heaven or hell) and wat u will look like at padang masar or when teh end of teh world will happen. no human being on earthe will know wat his takdir is and whether or not he is truly a good person worthy of going to heaven. just cos u r not religious doesn't mean tat u r a bad person n not one he doesn't wanna marry.if he really loves u, he will see tat he doesn't know an inch of wat god knows n tat he shouldn't be this judgemental.islam is a way of life, is amoral code of conduct, when u get married, u r witness to his and ur life till akhirat, this boyfriend and girlfriend concept is good i suppose but it doesn't honour u. the fact that he says tat u can only be his girlfriend and nothing more if u don't bow to what he wants shows an ugly side to his character: u love someone, u respect n stick with them till akhirat, u certainly don't give them ultimatum.
i don't know much as im only 17 n am doing 2 year 12 VCE subjects and have never been in any romantic relationship but i do know this. Respect and honour is teh founding stone in all relationship: it seems to be tat he doesn't respect adn honour u, the fact tat he's belittling u to his girlfirend only just cos u arent religious just emphasis this.if teh founding stone isn't cemented from teh start then there's no gurantee of teh relationship succeding.
Like i said i don't know much in this sort of things. there's a lot of factors to consider. and only u will know wat teh best choice is 4 u. Best of luck
shanira
2007-09-22 22:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by shauna_khairulazhar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All religion is bad and is really a means for people who designate themselves "close to God" to control others who don't know any better.
You have a better mind than your boyfriend.
Dump him now, you'll both be better off.
2007-09-22 20:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. Unless he is willing to accept you, don't do it. What might feeling wierd or annoying at first will just get worse as the marriage goes on. You will grow to hate him for it.
2007-09-22 21:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't compromise your beliefs for some man. You're not here to please men. You're here to find out what's best for you and your soul, and the man that loves you is supposed to love you because of that, not try to change you into something that suits him better.
2007-09-23 03:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by JAS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i'm sorry you are going thru that, but unconsciously, you know you have already answered your own question- you said, it's your life too, and you want to be happy too and you dont want to force yourself into anything.
so i guess there is nothing i should add to that.
2007-09-22 23:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by celine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋