Why is it when I don't say a word to my Ex-husband at visitation he starts saying a lot of bad stuff around his daughter and he in the first place wants us to stop fighting then he starts up fighting with me at visitation? Does that make since at all?
2007-09-22 12:32:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While picking my kids up during visitation i couldnt stand the site of my ex...if and when she spoke to me i would avoid eye contact.
I guess it depends on who felt the most pain from the divorce...idk.
As for the kids...they never heard one bad thing about thier mother from me...until they were teenagers...lol !!!
2007-09-22 12:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has bad feelings from the marriage or divorce. Only you can know why he has these feelings, and you don't bother giving even a hint as to why he could feel this way. This makes me suspect that the divorce was either your fault, or your doing. So, what do you do? Why not just have him wait outside your home to get his daughter for visitation? You needn't have ANY actual conversation with him, or even contact. I've been divorced from my ex for over 17 years, and I still hate her. Only the fact that she is the mother of my children kept me from killing her, and still prevents her death. He may never stop having bad feeling toward you. Some hurts never go away.
2007-09-22 20:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you need to take charge of this situation.. Don't be available for him to talk to you when he comes for your daughter.. Curbside pick up is a good idea.. No face to face or any conversation at all.. It sounded almost like you have him come to visit at your place. He should not be visiting with you too.. Make other arragements if that's the case. He most likely is not over the hostile feelings from the divorce etc.. Just have as little contact with him as possible. No need to be visiting with him and fighting. His visits are with your daughter only.. And, he can pick her up right in front of the house.. Good Luck..
2007-09-22 19:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Joanie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a court order that allows him to communicate with you only in writing and he is forbidden to speak. Add to the the court order that he is strictly forbidden to use foul language toward you and if he does, record it and hold him in contempt of court.
Ex-husbands tend to think they can continue to treat their ex-wives the same way they did while married to them. They need to wake up and realize that they will not be allowed to continue verbal abuse. Make it where it is against the law for him to be verbally abusive.
No don't need an attorney to file a motion in court.
2007-09-23 01:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by ladyliberty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still having him near you? go see a mediator and have pick up's / drop off's arranged from a friend's house or their front yard , dont allow him to be anywhere near you , also ask for a gag order stating he can not say anything or use the child as a messenger in bad taste , it can be done just find the right legal aid lawyer.
2007-09-22 20:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it don't make sense.He's angry with u and destorying the relationship w his daughter. All at same time and dn realize it.Y do u have 2 be there, when he visit w her? Maybe if u not there it will cut the confussion down. Unless u dn trust him alone her.Some1 got 2 b the bigger person,since he's not.
2007-09-22 19:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he just wants to get a rise out of you, i'm guessing either you dumped him and he's being petty or he dumped you and he feels you don't miss him enough. either way you've gotta make him stop saying hurtful things around your daughter otherwise she's just going to get hurt. try talking to him about it again (through a mediator if you have to) or request through the courts that the visitations stop until he's sorted him self out cause what he's doing can be seen as verbal and emotional harrassment!
2007-09-22 19:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because he is an azzhole, xtra petty and needs to grow up. but I understand what you going thru. I have a 14 year old son who hates his fathers guts (because hes been a deadbeat dad for the past 5 years) and now that he wants to be apart of my son life..... my son doesn't want him there..... but yet, this is my fault. lol
dont even stree yourself. When you make the mistake of having children with somebody who is still in a child's frame of mind themself..... everything under the sun is your fault...... including the war in iraq. lol
keep your head up and dont let that idiot stress you out.
2007-09-22 19:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs Jackson - West 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
why don't you have your daughter meet her father outside and you stay inside that way it gives him no reason to say anything about you. and if that doesn't work then have someone there to witness his abuse and record it and take him to court to where you drop her off and he picks her up with a mediator there.
2007-09-22 19:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok try this.. tell him what been going on with your daughter..school.. what ever.. maybe he wants some type of feed back.. and see if that helps
2007-09-22 19:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋