I don't like being alone. After haveing a copanoin for the last 20 years I know I shouldn't date right away , how ever I hate being alone also. Any advice.
2007-09-22 12:25:20 · 17 answers · asked by pd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
21 years of marriage how does a marriage fail after all that time. One of you gave up and took the cowards way out. So what happens when the excitement is gone will you walk away again.
2007-09-22 12:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be so much better for you in the long run if you learn how to be by yourself and get to know yourself better. Take some classes, find new hobbies, join some groups, get counseling, start a journal. Find out who you are now and who you want to be again and your next choice of a partner will have so much better of a chance of being successful. You will learn to love you and being alone won't be as scary. When I was inbetween marriages, I learned to treasure my time alone. And I did all the above I mentioned.
2007-09-22 12:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule that says you have to wait a certain period of time to start dating again. It is when ever you feel like it. Just remember that it is easier to latch onto someone when you are lonely and in your frame of mind right now. Usually people find someone just for whatever and then realize it is a mistake and have trouble getting rid of them. Just be careful and remember what you are looking for: short term, long term, sex, friends to do something with, or marriage. No one our age likes being alone for a long period of time. We have to adjust to it just like we did when we got married and had to adjust to not having the whole bed to ourselves. Better to find a friend with benefits rights now rather than husband because your judgement can be clouded by your feelings of being alone for the first time in twenty years. Good Hunting.
2007-09-22 13:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to desire companionship, particularly when you've gotten out of the habit of being alone. However, I would suggest that you give yourself at least a year to grieve and heal from the broken marriage before seeking to date seriously. Do this so that you rediscover the parts of yourself that became submerged in the marriage.........and also to avoid the obvious pitfalls of jumping into a relationship at a vulnerable point in your life...You need to be emotionally healthy and whole before you are ready to start a new relationship.
2007-09-22 12:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your marriage has ended, and your ex has gone, then fine, go look for that someone who you feel is right for you. But be careful, shark bites are painful. you feel alone because, perhaps you was use to having things done for you in a specific manner and time and now you are left to do it yourself. last but not least, grow up. After 21 years, your ex with that much time vest was to be your partner for life.
2007-09-22 12:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by WOODSAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got into a relationship, with that attitude, you would be doing it for all the wrong reasons. That is not fair on the other person. They need to know that you love and care for them, not just have them around because of a fear of being alone.
2007-09-22 12:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would build your skills in self empowerment and self esteem. Go take a class in a hobby that used to thrill , or a passion. That will keep you busy, and then you will be happier, and then you may attract someone to you when you are at a happier place, and they will have the same interests.
Be with yourself 1st . When was the last time youv'e enjoyed that??
2007-09-22 12:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by silvergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, that's just how it is. Sometimes you just need someone else to hold you and make you feel like a woman.
As long as you're not trying to run out and get into another relationship you're fine.
Just make sure to let the other party know that you just want to hang out and nothing more serious than that.
2007-09-22 13:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are separated from the wife or divorced, there is no reason why you can't look for some dating and companionship.. you're a free agent if divorced.. If only separated, you can still date, but can't marry until the divorce is put thru and final..
2007-09-22 12:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jumping into another relationship too quickly is called rebound and it usually works out horribly.
Take your time and get to know who you are, what makes you tick, what your likes and dislikes are before getting in way too deep again.
I know that you are probably feeling extremely lonely right now but that is why we tend to pick someone else that wasn't meant to be.
2007-09-22 12:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Twilight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋