I think I'm totally in love with my study partner but I'm scared if I leave my husband he will get custody of our daughter plus there is also her to take about as well. And plus the guy I love has a live in girl and 3 kids but he says he will leave them for me if I left my husband. But I'm not sure if I should please help!
2007-09-22 11:11:04 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DO NOT LEAVE.....FORGET STUDY DUDE.....THE END....
GLEN
2007-09-22 11:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Glen 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should definitely leave your husband, but i dont know if you should leave to be with this other guy. I mean you could spend time with him and get your freak on, but I don't think you should leave your husband with the belief that you're going to spend the rest of your life with this other guy. As for the risk of losing your daughter, you need to ask yourself would it really be all that tragic? Of course it will break her heart, but if she were to stay with you there is little doubt that she would grow up to be a whore like you. So losing contact with your daughter might actually be a blessing in disguise, the opportunity for her to evolve into a good woman rather than a slut and cheap piece of a** like her mother. Not that theres anything wrong with being any of those things, clearly it works quite well for you. I think when you look deep within your heart of hearts, you will see that there is one thing, and one thing only, that will be the deciding factor. Whose penis is larger? Your husband's or the study partners? Im pretty sure it will be the study partner, your husband is likely small if you're so easily drawn to others. You owe it to yourself to relentlessly pursue your own sexual satisfaction at all costs, even if this means saying goodbye to your daughter forever. So tell hubby you're hitting the road, it might be nice to give your daughter one last gift, but then again that money may be better spent on condoms and alcohol.
2007-09-22 11:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to sit down and evaluate your life. You have a husband, and a daughter to think about, stop just thinking about yourself. You should worry about losing your daughter. If you cheat on your husband, there is no court in the country that will award a cheating wife the custody of a child. You will lose her if your husband contest the divorce. Your lover, has a woman living with him now, with three kids. Do you believe him when he says he will leave her?? How long will it be before he decides to leave you for another woman. Once a rat, always a rat. He will do the same thing to you when he gets tired of you, guarantee. You are betting your families happiness on your fantasy. Don't be foolish. Your a dreamer, and you need to come back down on earth and act practical not to jeopardize what you already have. Good Luck you need it.
2007-09-22 11:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Butch. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are comparing apples and oranges. You see your husband at his worst. You never see your study partner as his worst. You feel that heart-pounding infatuation that you probably felt when you first met your husband. Don't be fooled. That heady feeling fades with time. It always does. The business of raising children tends to take the passion out of home life. It will be the same with someone else. In time, you will find romance with your husband again. Don't be seduced by this crush.
The only good reason to leave a committed relationship with your husband and daughter is if he is abusing you. Otherwise, you are just falling for the romance of an illicit relationship. You will be disappointed if you leave your husband. Copy this and save it somewhere so you can read it later. You WILL regret it.
2007-09-22 11:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by stonecutter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sure, go on. Leave a husband and child for someone who is already in a committed relationship (with 3 kids, no less) but is willing to dump them just for you. Let's hope he doesn't have other study partners after the two of you hook up, or he will leave you, too. And let's hope your study (sex) partner makes lots of money because child support for three children can be very expensive. And let's hope you make a lot of money so you can pay your child support to your ex husband, because if he has cojones he will sue you for custody of your daughter. But, whatever....you will be with the guy you are "totally in love with". Hope it lasts.
2007-09-22 11:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do you mess up everyone's lives including 4 children. Have more respect for yourself and your family. Get back to your husband and your daughter and be an adult. If your study partner finds it so easy to leave a girlfriend and three kids for you, he isn't worth much as a future dedicated partner. Your husband might be better off without you, but your daughter deserves her parents together.
2007-09-22 11:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting a relationship this way stands little to no chance of being successful.
First of all, what you are feeling is absolutely normal. All married people find at times they may be a bit bored of the routine and normalcy of each other.... many times you or your spouse will find yourself attracted to someone at work, school, a friend, etc. That's absolutely normal.
Think about what you find so attractive in this guy, and what he's truly offering you- is it excitement you lack in your marriage? Making you feel sexy? I gaurentee you this isn't about him, it's about YOU and what you're lacking in your life.
I'll tell you now this guy doesn't respect you OR his live-in woman. I'm sure he paints a picture of her being horrible and he's a victim, right? If he were serious about being in a healthy relationship, he would've left her and allowed himself to be open to an open, honest relationship. He's cheating on her and says once YOU make the first move, he'll follow. Yeah, right.
Your husband took vows to dedicate his life to you...this other guy is getting his cake and eating it too. Sure your hubby isn't perfect, but he deserves you being honest and giving him a chance to make things better.
I'd suggest counseling and working on the problems in the marriage. Do you think jumping from one bad relationship into another and having to raise his 3 kids is going to make your problems go away? I honestly foresee you leaving your husband, only to find the other guy "has to stay" with the girlfriend for whatever reason- she's threatening to the take the kids, financial reasons, etc.
These kind of things happen all the time and they don't end well. Your best chances are stop cheating on your husband, focus on your marriage and any children you might have. You will be sexually attracted to many people in your life...but happiness is fleeting if you're going to drop all committments based on this. It's totally possible to re-ignite the flames with your husband....and trust me, you'll end up WAY happier than some douche who has no problem cheating on his woman. If he did it WITH you, he'll do it TO you.
All my best!
2007-09-22 11:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady, you must lying yourself. You know they say love is blind and this is a good example. Make your marriage work with your current husband and leave the study dude alone. You might think that things would be better only to get worse than you expected. If you are not happy with your marriage, consider divorce first, and then date whomsoever you want in your life. If you divorce first, perhaps you will get the custody of your kids but if you cheat and he founds about it before divorce, he can get the custody of the kids. Choose and calculate your step with care
2007-09-22 11:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this guy worth leaving your husband and daughter for? Sounds like you have more to lose than this guy. If he truly loves you then he will wait until you dissolve your marriage first and get the custody worked out.
I'm sorry I have heard lots of guys say they will leave their significant others for someone else and they don't..they just creep behind both women's back... besides, what he does to his "live in" love he will eventually do to you..think before leaping, for your daughter's sake. Good luck.
2007-09-22 11:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by typerchic34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life and marriage are not movie plots. you don't just mysteriously "fall" in and out of love with people like a victim then act like you are forced into some difficult decision.
Marriage is a committment. You made a vow of love and committment to your husband. You have brought a child into this world. Those two responsibilities (wife and mother) are bigger than any feelings you might have.
At this point in your life, LOVE is about what you do not how you feel. Give love to your husband and child and they will return that love.
You have not "fallen in love". You violated your committment to your husband and put yourself in this situation of infatuation and sexual attraction. This problem is more about your decision and apparent moral deficiency than it is about fate or "falling in love". You are an adulteress. You child's mother has been unfaithful to her father. You're hurting your family and possibly causing your daughter grow up in a broken home.
Stop seeing this guy even if you have to drop out of school, quit your job or move your family to another state. You have made the biggest mistake of your life and continuing to act on it will only make it worse and worse and worse.....
From now on remain faithful to your husband. Don't put yourself into potentially compromising situtations. You are responsible, it's time you start taking responsibility for your actions and your feelings.
2007-09-22 11:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by SolaFide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not just going to mess up your life but the lives of 3 other kids and a live in gf plus your husband. Wow how did you ever come to the conclusion this is a good idea? What part of "wrong" can you not see in your selfish acts? I was married to a double home wrecking, sad excuse of a person just like you, May she rot in hell with you!!!!
2007-09-22 11:17:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋