i didnt want to be born gay and it is depressing me enormously.
2007-09-22 10:51:19 · 53 answers · asked by bi_4_funo7 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Trying denying it and you will be even more depressed, and probably commit suicide, which depresses your family and friends.
You are who you are, you can't change things like this.
2007-09-22 10:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
honey! If you born that way, you have to accept it, and you're truly gay, you cant change it, you have to face the reality. Just live happy with the way that how you existed, and also don't blame on your parents that made you became like this, because it just your destiny. And once again live happy, live who you are, I'm guarantee you'll found happiness again when you meet the person that bring love to you, and you will see how life is valuable and beautiful, and sunshine will shine again on the horizon.
Don't let those depression, suffering and painful let you down, because it might led you fall into a stupidity way and ideas that nobody and your relative ever want it to be happening, and just remember that you not alone, and not the only one who facing difficulty, there are a lot of other peoples like you, and if you're painful and no other person in your family is happy.
I'm always cheer and here next to you.
2007-09-22 11:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nam D. 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Being gay isn't a choice. You acknowledge this fact by saying you were born gay.
You CANNOT force yourself NOT to be attracted to something. You were born with the attraction. The only thing you can do is take note of what is making you so depressed about it:
Your family not accepting you for it?
Your friends ostracising you for it?
etc.
If those are exact or similar examples, then you should consider making new friends, people that will not toss you aside for a certain personality trait.
Trying to make yourself 'not gay' will only fuel your depression.
2007-09-22 11:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by maersalieri 1 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you haven't said your age, because if you are young and have not experience sex yet then you are going though a faze
it`s not the end of the world to discover that you might be gay, after all there are millions of us , so in a kind of way it`s normal, but if you know you are, and are uncomfortable with it then you must ask yourself why. could it be that you are scared of pear pressure? or what your mates might think? well if that is so, stop worring right now because you and only you have the choice to tell them, one can not stop being gay just as straights can`t stop being straight, that's a fact of life, it would be worse if you led a life of denial and got married, because you would be unfairer to your wife and yourself, there is a lot of counselling out there a your finger tips just ring them and talk to them ,I do hope you get sorted out. soon and don`t worry.
Regards
Ryan
DiorXX
2007-09-22 14:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you can't - you can choose to live a life of denial but that will only be miserable. Be proud of who you are, there is nothing wrong or abnormal with being gay. It took me quite a few years to realise this, but now I am so happy with my girlfriend & I really wouldn't want things to be any other way. Stuff what anyone else thinks about being gay, it's who you are - and you are wonderful & complete. Don't think you have to change this aspect of your life to find happiness.
2007-09-26 01:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but have you turned purple, grown horns, or killed some one, nope, then come on.... you are still you.
You know your sexual orientation is only a small part of you as a person. If you are gay, lets face it, this is the best time to be.
Bless your heart. None of us ask to be born white, black, straight or gay. You need to talk to someone, its a tough one, but you can get by, my daughter did, and she has a wonderful partner and two gorgeous children, and is very happy, so hang in there. Don't be alone....talk it through.
2007-09-24 12:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I more than likly will get a few thumbs down for this one but here goes anyway......About almost half of all gay men and women feel the same way as you do,and that is because it has been brain washed into them that gay is dirty and not the norm.. but my thoughts on it are....If you are gay then it is something in your genitic build up that has made you the way you are and it is supposed to be that way.. and like everyone else says if you fight it you will only get worse and do yourself more harm than good..... of course you could always pretend to be something that you are not and get married and have children and be what other people want you to be.... But deep inside you will always be fighting a losing battle.. My advice to you my friend is to pick yourself up and give yourself a good shake and get out there on the town to the gay pubs and clubs and forget about what others think... please keep us updated as to how you are getting on and remember that you will always have friends on here.
2007-09-22 11:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by Father Jacks Drinking pal 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Ask a straight person if they can stop being straight. You can not act on it and try to live some disingenuous life, but you will always be gay. I didn't want to be gay , when I was 13 and prayed to be straight. You know what? I am still gay and pretty damn happy with my life. Here is a little tough love, build a bridge and get over it. Life ain't easy dude, start living it before it is too late. Peace.........................
2007-09-22 12:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont be depressed by it. Be proud of it. It may be a bit hard at first but really its healthier.
Be safe, be happy, be proud. And dont let anyone make you feel less than what you really are. Your awesome.
Try makin some other gay friends. They've probably been in the same boat your in or could help you out.
2007-09-22 10:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Some would probably like to been born of a different skin color or a different gender (in some areas of the world). Or with different relatives for sure!
We all have things we'd probably like to change but the key to non-depression is gratitude and learning to enjoy being exactly who you were born to be.
2007-09-22 10:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by American Spirit 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You only have one life! Live it to its fullest. We're all dealt a certain hand of cards. You either deal with them and be happy or you fold and waste a possibly great existence. Take every aspect of yourself as a gift. Gay or straight. It doesn't matter. If you don't want to be something the only thing to do is live in denial. If you can handle that then I wish you the best. Good luck.
2007-09-22 11:03:25 · answer #11 · answered by boxjellÿ 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋