2007-09-22 10:28:36 · 4 answers · asked by mrvntmr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can say nothing and be glad for the time he is NOW spending with your son or you can ask him what his intentions are.
Whether he is going to stay in your son's life or will he disappear for years at a time again and again. You don't say how old your son is but if this is a reoccuring pattern, your son will know that his father is someone that is NOT dependable or someone he can count on being there for him. He will not trust him and as he gets older he will choose whether he wants to have a relationship with him or not in the future. You don't have to say anything to your son because he will know who has been there all along for him. You don't even have to talk badly about his father to him (not that you do) but kids are very much in tune with what's going on. You'd be surprised.
Apparently you son's father has issues he needs to deal with and maybe his doing the best he can or maybe he's just a selfish man. The way you should react towards your son is to be there for him as you have been in the past. Be supportive whether his father is there or not. You should worry more about the relationship you have with your son than the "part-time" relationship" your son's father has with him. That is HIS issue, not yours.
2007-09-22 10:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dolores R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if your son is 4 years old or 25 years old so it's hard to have the right kind of advice for you.
HOWEVER! ....
It's not up to you to react at all. It's up to your son to decide what he wants. Ask your son what he wants then support ANY decision he wants to take.
A child is entitle to have relationships with BOTH parents One parent does not have ANY right to stop that unless their is abuse involved. So take the high road and help rather than hinder any kind of relationship your son wants to have with his father, regardless of what you feel. THAT is the smart thing to do.
2007-09-22 18:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should react to cues from you son, not from the miserable ex. Don't make things worse and don't make it seem like a wonderful thing his father has done, either. Remain neutral and deal with your son's feelings about this. Don't bring more poison into the situation.
2007-09-22 18:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats betwen them, are you his mother, if so let them work it out
2007-09-22 17:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋