we waited until marriage but he has never been able to please me (he is really small, maybe 3 inches). i have had sex b4 him so i know that i can be satisfied. i spoke with him about it and he said that i could sleep with other men if thats what it took to please me. ladies only....first... what would you do if your husband said that.. 2nd is it possibly a test or is he just being understanding.....3rd would you do that if it could help you out.....miserable, please help
2007-09-22 10:28:34 · 18 answers · asked by mallory w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow.....
I don't really know what to say to this, lol.
First off, why would you even entertain the idea of sleeping with another man??!!??!! That's completely ridiculous.
There are PLENTY of things the two of you could do to change this. The two of you waited until marriage...soooo.....does that mean he's never been with anyone else? Perhaps YOU should be understanding and help HIM out if he doesn't know how to please you.
I think you are being completely narrow minded if the only solution you can come up with is to be with someone else. If you wanted to fix the problem, you'd find a solution....
2007-09-22 12:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him you would find a way. Toys roll play you name it. Nothing is worth cheating. Kegals work them. Size doesn't matter I know first hand my ex was 12 an out of 6yrs I was only pleased once. Its not the size there is a tone of mean who are smaller an are like walking on clouds amazing. Its not always about you. Sex yes is important in a relationship however having that connection is better. Get toys have him play with you. But to sleep with other men is just plan wrong. The average in China is 3inches an they make it work so can you. An fyi if were waiting faithfully would be smaller for him as we contract work the mussels because if your lose on a pinky the tone is gone build it back
2014-04-09 01:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by U.S.N Bullies 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do whatever it take to be faithful and honest to your husband. What did you think he was going to say after learning that he can't please you as a man? I wouldn't chance being with someone else, if you love him and want to stay with him. He could tell you goodbye. I wouldn't do it, because I don't want other men looking at my husband as being dumb, weak or as if he is being played. I would never have someone else pointing their finger at my husband and saying,'' his wife is a whore, I had her last night, because he can't please her''. There's all sort of things you can buy and teach him and yourself how to use it and maybe have better sex than some one with a 9 inch pistol.LOL. At least you now that he won't be a 2 minute man.
2007-09-22 10:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he doesnt have to be huge too please you! you have just hurt his ego is all....why dont you buy some toys? There are some fantstic ones on the market that are great to use together . You need to just show him how you like it or alternative ways to get you that orgasim. Think how you would feel if he told you your bits wre not tight enough to please him? there is nothing he can do about what he has been given just be alternative if you love him it will be an enjoyable world to explore together. If you dont truely love him get rid now as sex is a wonderful thing to give and recieve and you dont wnat to be unhappy
2007-09-22 11:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by turkeyhug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very lucky woman to have a husband who is so understanding and loves you so much. I'm sure it pains him to know he is inadeqaute and inferior, and it will be very difficult for him knowing you are seeing other men. But he loves you enough to cope with this pain and akwardness. He must realize that eventually you will seek out satisfaction with other men, with or without his permission, and he would rather have you be open about it than go behind his back. I think the best way to handle this actually would be to have a threesome. Even though he has given you permission, you will likely be left with some guilt after any encounters you have with other men. A good way of dealing with this is having him present while you are with another man. He can touch you and hold you and kiss you while you are with another man, showing you that he still loves you, and he does not resent you for achieving greater pleasure and satisfaction with another man. This will help alot with any potential feelings of guilt or shame that you might otherwise feel without him there demonstrating his acceptance. Remember, it is not your fault that his penis never developed beyond a size more common among toddlers and infants. You married a man, not a child, and you deserve someone who is equipped and can function as a real man in the bedroom. Also your husband, despite his willingness to permit you to have extra-marital sex, might still have some negative feelings in the back of his mind. He may think that your dissatisfaction with him is greedy, unfair or irrational. Seeing you with a true man, and the way in which an actual man is able to fully satisfy a woman will change this quickly. He will realize he truly is sexually inferior and you are not being greedy, selfish or anything else like that. One other thing you need to discuss with your husband is the option of having another man father any children you and your husband wish to have. Seeing first hand the challenges poorly-endowed men deal with, I don't imagine you would want to give birth to a son who will have to lead a life of insecurity and shortcomings. So dont be so miserable, you are married to a great "man" who clearly is devoted to your happiness and pleasure. And no, this is not a test. A man so ridiculously small would never have the nerve to test you in such a way and risk losing you. You Go Girl!
2007-09-22 11:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Well it is more than likely a test but there are lots of ways to get pleasure. My hubby and I have to use vibraters and oral sex cuz well he is a 2 min man and it takes me a while. I would suggest try out some toys go shopping together and agree on a toy and then try it. Give it a month before you decide weither or not you like it if not try a new one.
2007-09-22 10:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by emotionalyhurtmom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love your husband you will find a way to be sexually satisfied. He can't help that he is small...and there really isn't anything he can do to change that. I don't recommend sleeping with other men...I think your husband only said this because he is frustrated because he obviously can't satisfy you.
2007-09-22 10:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man view here: Go ahead and just kill him!!! Why would you ever say a man is to small to please you? Just end it!!! Now for the shoe on the other foot: Maybe you're just too big? Maybe it's not just him, but it's that your "yes ma'am" is too big and loose? I think you're a cruel and heartless woman. To tell a man that and think you can just go out and screw whoever you wish for however long the marriage will last. You should have just kept your mouth shut and bailed out.
Put the shoe on the other foot. You have a man that's everything to you, but he walks in and says hey baby that things too loose I can't get satisfied. You are one sad excuse for a person.
2007-09-22 10:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
do not sleep with other men. is this seriously a question?? whether its a test or not should not matter, find a way to be happy with your man, mine is small too but we have found different ways to make love and i enjoy it more than any other man i have been with. if you are the first woman that he has been with it may take a little training from you to get him to wear you want him to be, you can mold him to be exactly what you want
2007-09-22 10:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by daisycm 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dear....first of all ....you have to understand..that .if a man has 3 inch size and he cant satisfie a woman ..is absolutely a MYTH....only thing is he should know how to perform well.., and before and after penetrating ..what he should do to bring his partner to the maximum.....cause it is not (only) the length that give the plesure or get her the orgasm....
please think and study / learn about the topic what I mentioned above......then think about your questions.
2007-09-22 23:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋