I want to find out the truth about my new wife. Her ex husband is a registered sex offender and lives in Ohio. I have read his rap sheet from jail and it is only my new wife that he is supposed to have raped. He has no other rape charges considering he is almost 40 years old. This brings a question to my mind. How does a man rape his own wife? What if she ever decides she wants to leave me and says the same thing about me? I feel this guy got shafted and that my wife lied in alot of ways. Although my wife wont give me his contact information, his address is online because he is a registered sex offender. I want to ask him some questions about this. Can I get into any trouble by contacting him by using this address? I just want to ask him about her and find out the truth. My wife wont talk about it.
2007-09-22 10:07:38 · 21 answers · asked by John Joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been married less than 7 months. I am learning new things about her I never knew before.
2007-09-22 10:22:40 · update #1
My wife didn't give me his contact information. My ex wife found it on the internet through the children telling her about what my current wifes children are telling them. My currents wifes children talk a lot about their fatehr and I am learning new things that were not told to me.
2007-09-22 10:30:06 · update #2
I guarantee you, you have a big problem at hand. You have to be soo careful not to step on the same thorns as her ex-husband. It's not that you are better off than her ex, but a minor problem. perhaps a revenge, or being in an abusive relationship, led her to do what she did to her ex-husband and she never told you about it from the biginning or your relationship and she can do that to you too if you step on the same path as her ex. I believe that anyone who has accused or been accused of sexual related crimes, they never live a normal straight forward life. Ether you agree with me or not. Most of them live with nighmares, fear, anger, frustrations and panics always. Why? Several reason and perhaps the most of all was forgiveness of those who wronged them. The law always believes what a woman say, either she lie or not, and the man fights back and more often he must suffer behind the allegations and if she does once, she would do again and again and again. So better be careful
2007-09-22 10:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Of course she doesn't want to talk about it!!! It was a bad experience that I bet she wishes never happened.
Yes a husband can rape his wife. If she says no and he forces her to have sex then that is RAPE. It is very hard to prove when a husband rapes his wife so if he is in Jail then that most have been TONS of proof!!!
Why would she give you his contact info? I wouldn't either. You have no reason to contact him and I bet she's scared that if you do contact him then he'll find out where she lives and come and get her when he gets out.
Yes you can get into trouble contacting him if there is a restring order against him. You are then aiding him in finding her.
I don't know why she married you. You are a pig to think she lied about being raped. I'm sorry she went from one bad husband to another.
And him having no other rape charges, all that means is that no one turned him in or there was not enough evidence to convict.
You are really sick to be so obsessed with this.
2007-09-22 17:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot trust your wife it's a bad start. Rape victims do not talk about the event(s) most of the time. On the other hand your wife may be lying, do not exclude the possibility that a husband can rape her wife. It has happened more often than anyone can guess. Mostly because wives put up with it. If you can, ask this man about it.
2007-09-22 17:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should mail this person. first of all - if i were you - i'd think about the situation: namely that you are in a marriage with someone you don't fully trust (anymore). regardless of the question this trust thing is far more important and sth you both should work on.
further more indeed if you are in a marriage borders still can be crossed, so yes you CAN be raped even though you're married. marriage is - as far as i know - not a question of ownership or the right to have sex how and whenever you want.
and yes someone can make up lies, but then why would one do sth like that if the relationship is/was great!? there are many more underlying currents you should investigate before you start meddling in someone else's life.
~ my opinion ~
2007-09-22 17:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by andryenna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So if your wife won't talk about it and you think your wife lied about the rape...why would you marry her? If you can't trust someone I don't see how you could commit to them and marry them.
Your wife had every right to deny her ex husband sex when they were married...and if he forced himself on her...it was raped! What makes you feel that he got "shafted"? Do you not believe that it is possible for a man to rape his own wife? If you are worried that your wife may claim that you raped her...I am sorry to say...that you didn't get to know your wife very well before marrying her.
2007-09-22 17:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course a man can rape his own wife. It is illegal. A wife may not always WANT sex and he may forcefully have sex with her. A lot of issues can factor into this... she might've not loved him for a long time and some women may lose their sex drives ... or just simply she didn't fancy having sex that time!
Not sure about getting into trouble but it doesn't sound like a good idea. You need to trust your wife or atleast accept the fact she doesn't want to talk about it. Why marry her without knowing her entire self and life? Seems silly to me.
2007-09-22 17:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Karl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL... And you married the woman? Wow. I guess love really is blind. Yeah, I'd talk to the guy.
I feel the need to warn you that his story will prove him to be completely innocent, so don't go there thinking you'll get any more truth than you have out of your wife. Don't be completely niave a second time, as this question should have been thoroughly answered well before you got married.
Just take whatever he gives you and work it over in your mind for a while. Make sure everything makes sense and works together. Think through this one.
2007-09-22 17:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Crypt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talking to a prisoner about a woman that supposedly put him in prison is no way to find out the truth. Don't you think that there is a possibility that he would lie to you just to get back at her? Why don't you talk to your wife about the situation first. Ask her that same question, "How can a man rape his own wife?" Then take it from there.
2007-09-22 17:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Definition of rape:
Rape is a form of assault where one individual forces another to have sexual intercourse against that person’s will.
For crying out loud; you married this woman, because you love her. You need to show your love and respect by supporting her.
I can tell by your comments that their is no trust in your marriage if you think she might decide to leave you one day.
Put the past behind and work on having a strong happy marriage.
T.
2007-09-22 17:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by Terry D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave her past alone.
She isn't hunting all your ex's down.
Why don't you believe that a husband can rape his own wife. You think she is not suppose to have a choice or what? Are you that naive to believe that her husband couldn't force himself on her. You obviously hadn't seen that movie about singer "Tina Turner," "What's Love Got to Do With It".
If you love your wife, you are not suppose to doubt her. Love her and make her feel safe. -God Bless.
2007-09-22 17:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋