i really like him.
2007-09-22 08:36:39 · 28 answers · asked by alex c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
HELL NO!
If you have to change who you are for a guy to like you, then he's not worth your time.
You'll find someone who likes you for who you are, and you'll be happier.
2007-09-22 08:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by Harvard Hopeful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, well just cause I know all these saints in here are going to say no. Let's say for amusement you try and change for someone, first if were talking about changing fundemental character changes then not only is that hard but you can never be "yourself" and will never be able to reach that place of complete openess with a partner people cherish and search for so much. Other changes such as physical appearance, not so bad. So you lose weight, or grow your hair long, ect.. People do those kinds of things all the time, women constantly change their hair color for no other reason to feel new and sexy. So yes on the physical, no on the mental.
Off the subject a bit but if your a mean evil person and you are aware of it should you change or just look for someone worse than you to make you feel better. In that situation I would have to say a core change would benifit everyone around you.
2007-09-22 15:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! No! and No! What you would end up with would not be genuine love - it would be pity. Caring for someone who doesn't feel the same in return is one of the worst things in the world. It's right up there with losing a loved one or having your pet die, but just like that pain eases with time this will too.
Take a long look at yourself and write down at least ten things that you do well even if they seem stupid to you, and then celebrate yourself. Have a spa day or a manicure. Spend time with your best friend. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not in anyway less because this other person doesn't feel the same way you do - it just happens that way sometimes. You have to tap into what is dynamic about you and then begin to let it shine out of every pore in your body. Focus on your life dreams, work hard, take care of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually and push to utilize all of your potential. If you do that God will send you someone that is exactly right for you! Sucessfully loving someone else starts with loving yourself!
2007-09-22 15:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by D M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is always the dilemma a girl has when she likes someone alot. However, the flat out answer is no, and I'm sure you are going to get that answer from almost everybody. And the reason why you shouldn't change yourself is because then you wouldn't be true to yourself, you wouldn't be the wonderful person you grew up as. Plus, why would you change yourself into someone who isn't real, someone who is just putting on a show? No guy should tell any girl how to live her life. One big question to ask yourself is, why do you like this guy if he doesn't care about who you are? He should love you for who you are and not judge you because you don't fit his ideals. You need to find someone who loves you for who you are, and who doesn't want you to change for him. I know it's difficult, but think about why you want to be with this guy if he is making you into a different person. You should be proud to be who you are, and never let anyone tell you otherwise. Good luck.
2007-09-22 15:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Do not change for any man. A woman is a beautiful creature with soul and if she changes for a man to like her she will live a sad life. Be the humaning being that you are and be with a man who will love you for you. Forget this guy..if you have to change for him he is nothing BUT a creep. Don't sell your soul for some guy you like...when there are billions of men in the world and I am sure one will LOVE you for you and you will like him too.
2007-09-22 15:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody needs to feel loved, but change, no. Unless your bad habits are killing you. If you want to change do it for yourself, not for him. Feeling sorry for you is not love, is only compassion. Get yourself a puppy.
2007-09-22 15:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by ()()()()()() 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No to both above. Why play juvenile games to attempt to get someone to try and love you. If it doesn't come naturally leave it. Be yourself and be happy, confident and secure in who you are and I'm certain that more guys will be interested in a real person than someone trying to be someone they aren't or attempting to get sympathy for affection.
2007-09-22 15:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why try to make some love you if they can't accept you for who you are move on don't waste your time girl. you shouldn't change for no one only change if you want to or you feel to change for the better not to get some one to love you.
2007-09-22 15:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by sassylassy2876 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - it doesn't matter how much you like him. You can't have a healthy realtionship with ANYONE unless you LOVE YOURSELF FIRST -- and then, only then, you will realize that unless someone loves you for you - UNCONDITIONALLY, it will not work. Never make anyone your everything because once they are gone you have nothing --- and YOU NEED TO HAVE YOU FIRST. Otherwise, it doesn't matter. Learn to love yourself first -- you can do it......I PROMISE.
2007-09-22 15:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because you want the guy to like the real you, not the "you" you'd have to pretend to be if you lured him on that basis. And no one wants pity affection (thoug you may for a moment think you do). Just be yourself....if that's not good for him, he wasn't worth your time.
2007-09-22 15:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋