I have heard that a little girl may have been molested by a man her mother lives with. Should I call the police??? This is driving me insane!!!!!!!!!! THe mother is my boyfriends ex wife and she told him this yesterday and instead of going to the police she said she had to go to Tennessee because her Aunt died.
2007-09-22 08:34:54 · 8 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
first off you need to find out if this is true or not I would hate to see someone go to jail and be convicted if it is not true. You need to stay out of it cause it does not really concern you . Your b/f needs to talk to the girls mother . Maybe she meant she would take care of this when she got back . I would keep the girl with you all untill you can get to the bottom of this . good luck .
2007-09-22 08:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just wrote out this entire answer for you based on not realizing that the mother was aware this abuse was a possibility. My answer was about how some kids will make up stories that they feel will make the other parent feel "better" and that many lives have been ruined by this...that what you should do is communicate with the mother about what has been said by the little girl and also take the little girl to the hospital to have a rape test done.
Then I saw that the mother TOLD your BOYFRIEND that SHE thought this may have happened. WHAT THE HECK? So what you are saying is that mom already knows it's possible and hasn't gone to police? Talking to mom is probably not going to help much at this moment because apparently she has her own issues of fear with this boyfriend of hers.
Your boyfriend should step in right away. Is the child with you? Yes! Yes, call the police. But first let the mother know you are doing this. If she loves that little girl as she should she will not dispute this. Is his daughter in his possession? If so, take her to the hospital, explain what you have been told and tell them you need her checked out. Three of my aunts and many of my cousins are nurses and I know they have performed tests in this situation where many times no evidence was found and the child ended up saying "I'm sorry...it didn't really happen." But better safe than sorry. This little girl deserves to at least be checked out.
Mom went to Tennessee instead of going to police? If that is true, I'm not sure what to think at this moment. Aunt or no aunt, if someone did something like this to one of my children I wouldn't even NEED to call the police. Prison would be the LEAST of that person's concerns!
My prayers will be with you guys and especially with that little girl.
2007-09-22 09:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you have to call the police. The mother may be threatened by the man she's living with, so she may be afraid to take any steps. Make sure you mention that the mother is a good mom (if she is), because you wouldn't want child care services to take her child away from the mother. She may also be able to get help in taking better care of the girl. But definitely report the molester.
2007-09-22 08:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to your child welfare agency....make it clear you are not trying to cause trouble, but are genuinely concerned.... they will launch an investigation. And you must also remember, if the children are taken away...it is not what you did...a CFS agency would always approach the mother in this circumstance and say "hey until this is over, your man has to move out or we will have to take the children away" if she chooses her man over the kids...that is NOT your fault.
This needs to be looked at by the proper agencies...these agencies deal with false information all the time...they will know what to look for...
Think of it this way...which would you prefer:
1) You call the agency and an investigation is done...at the very worst the kids are removed and come live with you...and nothing is found to be the matter.
2) You say nothing and when the kid is 20 she says what actually happened and how it messed her up and you feel responsible because you could have done something long ago..
This is what these agencies are for.
2007-09-22 09:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by elysialaw 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-09-24 02:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be an officer of the regulation provided that it is a situation the position someone is breaking the regulation. the most you would possibly want to do is to have a agency the position you help the police to hunt for children or foyer for extra penalites for sex offenders. the widely used answer is that civilians won't be able to be vigilante keepers of justice. The regulation would not enable it.
2016-10-20 02:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Third party here-say is not proof. Boyfriend needs to handle this. Yesterday.
2007-09-22 09:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I would get your boyfriend to call Children's Aid in your area.
2007-09-22 08:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by drusillaslittleboot 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋