Is marriage outmoded? 100 years ago, men had extra rights and marriages survived. Now that women want equality

Question

of rights, there is a constant stuggle for what each wants, which results in 2/3 divorces. Is there any chance of marriage recovering, for heterosexuals, I mean?

(Gays are still testing the waters in their marriages, and we have yet to see whether they will have better or worse marriages than heterosexuals.)

Answer 1

Marriage isn't outmoded. People are merely more selfish. The hedonistic attitudes prevalent among many today can be traced to the permissive, responsibility-free worldview of the 1960s counterculture movement.

The only problem is, the children are the ones who suffer. If people are getting married and having children, their first responsibility should be to provide a stable 2-parent home. This may take compromise and sacrifice, but that's part of being a grown-up.

Hippies and feminists have wrought much damage to our great nation's moral fabric, but it is not too late to repair.

Answer 2

The reason marriage survived 100 years ago was because women had no options.They could not get a divorce, there were no jobs for women, and single women were looked down on by society.

Answer 3

Maybe society has changed and people are no longer willing to "suffer" through the downs of a relationship.

And your statistic lies. By comparing the # of marriages in one year against the # of divorces filed in that same year overlooks the number of marriages in previous years. So you are comparing a # of divorces against a much lower # of marriages than is the actual case.

Answer 4

if you accept that marriage is a life-long decision ("till death do us part," and all...), and you commit to the same, then a couple of things will happen to help a marriage (let alone the institution of marriage):

1-people will take more time to make the decision to marry and whom to marry
2-people will commit to making it work, as more time and emotional/relational investment has been made (... less likely to simply "walk away")

this would appear to be not specific to gender... i have seen women "jump into" marriage too lightly, as often as i have seen men do it... the same goes for "jumping out" of marriage.

sure, social attitudes towards equality and other issues (all very necessary) have effected marriage, but i think it has more to do with the mindset of "instant gratification" than with women's equality... we are a fast-food society with a "disposable goods" mindset... marriage has been effected by both of these outlooks.

Answer 5

I think culturally there are few "role models" for marriage left. Mass media doesn't appear to be too invested in promoting a healthy culture.

Answer 6

It is called self control. some people do have successful marriages. That the world is courrupt is not new.
But you have to find a person to marry who isn't corrupt.

Answer 7

pretty soon there wont be any marriage at all, you just go to the sperm bank to have a baby, and to the fern bar if you need sex.