I do, mine is if they wouldn't take my last name, i dont care if they talk about feminism or got to the meetings or anything like that, but if they dont take my last name i would properly not marry her. do you have a breaking point?
2007-09-22 07:45:34 · 22 answers · asked by Shan Patridge 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
well i might marry her if she didn't take my last name (theres no way in hell im taking her last name), if she didn't let my kids to have my last name i would properly not marry her or at least wait until she did
2007-09-22 07:54:17 · update #1
No I am glad to be a feminist & submissive man.
It makes life fairly easy, and the only breaking point would be if a careless woman would come and break one of the bodyparts I entrusted her with.
2007-09-23 06:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Wise Kai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like either her to take mine, or me to take hers; this is more through my own petulant little fear that she wouldn't be committed if we weren't indelibly marked though, which says more about me than feminism.
As much as I think the need for feminist institutions has been negated, debate is still important. I don't have "breaking points" but having a woman tell me she doesn't need a man's help when I hold the door (politicising nothing) - incidentally, all I do is hold my arm behind when I walk away, it's nothing ceremonial - is damn rude, mainly because I resent the implication that I'd only do that for a woman
2007-09-22 15:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by second only to trollalalala 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My breaking point is if a woman becomes physically aggressive with a man. If I have daughters, I will teach them self defense so they can defend themselves against men.
However, they should never, without provocation, attack a man. First, 95% of the time they will get hurt. Second, even if they are stronger than the guy, it is wrong for them to ever attack a guy since guys are rightfully taught never to hit a woman.
2007-09-23 17:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by mcentee34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last name thing is a complete non-issue for me. She may have any number of perfectly good reasons to want to keep her name (e.g. having a name recognized in her professional circles) and she shouldn't even need a reason.
I will not be with someone who harangues me and tries to control what I read, watch, think about, or laugh about. I loathe the "thought police" mentality. And I won't listen to endless tirades that attribute all injustice in the world to men or try to tell me that I am not allowed to be sad or frustrated or even angry, dismissing my feelings as "men have it easy". Nor will I stand for being treated in a condescending manner, talked down to like a child.
It's a matter of mutual respect.
But last names? I don't get it. Sorry.
2007-09-22 14:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Gnu Diddy! 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
How about a compromise? Double barrelled names are cool (so long as you are not going to then argue over which name goes 1st)
As for feminism? If you treat women as equals, treat them with the same respect that you expect from them, you might even find a wife who does not care about keeping her maiden name...how you treat a wife is what counts.
2007-09-22 15:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by cadenza 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why does it bother you so much if your wife takes your surname or not....it's not a feminist thing it's just her saying she has her own identity and you should really respect that if you love her....marriage is an outdated thing that's there for the more religious people and whatever surname your kids get they are still yours so whats the big argument all about...if you love her then letting her do as she wants with the name thing will make things go with a bang
2007-09-22 15:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
My breaking point has long past with fathers being pushed out of the home and then blamed for not being around enough.
2007-09-22 17:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Chevalier 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate feminist. I believe women can do anything a man can do and would not treat any woman as if she can't but feminist seem to have this perception that all men are the same.When the fact is much different I don't engage a feminist in any banter about the failing of the male gender i feel it is like talking to a wall if some people feel that strongly about their hatred about males there are other alternatives. Don't misunderstand I don't mind empowered women or women that know their femininity it just those ones that feel males are just a set standard. WE ARE PEOPLE TOO
2007-09-22 15:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
personaly i love my last name, it's Hughes and it shows my culture and roots and i like to write it as my name because it is me. as well as their being no males in my generation to carry it on.
however, marriage is a sing of communion, not independence. and if i really loved them i would settle for a double barrled name and the kids would have his last name of course.
i can see how it would hurt your pride maybe if the woman wouldn't take you'r name and even more if she wanted you to take her's.
but just think of a woman asking you to take her name.... and then imagine that she might feel that feeling you feel.
hope that helps.
2007-09-23 14:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by QueenB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sheesh, is a last name THAT important to you? Why don't you take her last name..?
I'm sure, if you really loved her, it wouldn't matter much to you if she didnt want to change her name for a pointless tradition.
Edit-my question to you, is why is it so important? Is it because you want to feel dominate or something?
There are some people I will never understand.
2007-09-22 14:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 6⤊ 3⤋