I have a boyfriend that lives in the same city as me that I only see 6-8 weeks @ a time. (he works alot) Told him I be lonely & need 2 see him, stil nuthin'. So lonely me decides 2 have an affair, of course I should of been more careful, but me trusting this person sometimes got down w/out a condom. Now I goes 2 the GYN & have them run some test & out of all of them the gonnoreah culter (doesn't say I have it, but it doesn't say I don't) Now I'm scared 2 death, because I'm getting the test done over & if I do have it how do I tell the man that I love I have it? PLEASE HELP!!!!!
2007-09-22 07:21:59 · 12 answers · asked by datruth 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
If that's the only problem, I think their is an antibiotic for gonorrhea.
2007-09-22 07:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think if you had an affair on your boyfriend that means that you truly didn't love him, you could of masturbated instead, I would not go back with you because who knows what else you might transmit to me. I'm sorry to be so tough on you but you should of thought of all the consequences before even getting frisky with another guy. I don't know how your boyfriend will take it, if it were my boyfriend, he would probably forgime me after a month of me begging to him but I know that he will never forget it and will probably bring it up in every fight... If I were you, I would not tell him if you don't have anything. I feel for you, sorry. good luck.
2007-09-22 07:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Optimistic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do have it, you're just going to have to be a big girl and own up to the fact. You will have to tell him that he will need to be tested (gonorrhea is nothing to fool with...it can cause ALL sorts of health problems!). He will probably want to break up with you, because you betrayed him, but you should have thought about that before having unprotected sex OUTSIDE your relationship.
Oh, and why don't you use all your free time (while your boyfriend's busy) working on your education???!!! Your grammar, spelling and overall writing are HORRID.
2007-09-22 07:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there never will be an easy way to tell him. You just have to. Be straight and to the point. If you love him as much as you say do, then honesty is the only way to sort out your problems. Start from the beginning. It might not be easy but you have no choice.
2007-09-22 07:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by luxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could start with using better English so that he will understand you, but then I would say just tell him the truth, that he wasn't there for you. You might lose him, but can you really love someone while intentionally doing things that would hurt him- i mean love is patient, love is kind, it is not self-serving..... Maybe you should work on loving yourself enough to find someone who will spend time with you.
2007-09-22 07:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ledreru 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! even if you were lonely you shouldn't of had the affair. but we all make mistakes all you can do is tell him the truth whether you have it or not and just move forward don't infect him though because that would be insult on top of injury tell the truth dont you think its about time
2007-09-22 07:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to be honest and face the consequences. If you love him so much, why did you have sex with someone else? I know it's difficult to wait, sometimes, but girl, you better decide which you love more....sex or your boyfriend.~
2007-09-22 07:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if you're gonna dance then ya got to be prepared to pay the fiddler. If ya have the clap then tell the boyfriend and own up to your mistake- yep he might toss your cheating **** but I am thinking that you would have it coming
2007-09-22 07:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes!!..it's the right thing to do..if this guy really loves you he will help you though it.i know your scared and all that he might leave you,but it better to be truthful to him because what if you give it to him?Lying NEVER helps....trust me.
2007-09-22 07:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by Life's tough, get a helmet ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is the best!
2007-09-22 07:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by mamato5Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him. the truth is better than a lie
2007-09-22 07:25:14 · answer #11 · answered by picklemcnickel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋