They are both in their twenties....i have told her to get the police involved next time he thumps and pushes her about.....but she says that she has threatened to call the police but he reckons that he can say that she is a gay hater and they won't prosecute him or anything .....is this in any way true
2007-09-22 07:21:58 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dear Stephen,
FIRST: Get her out of that house... NOW
Now to answerer your question... NO If she calls... The officers are required by law to act... And he will be at the VARY least be escorted from the house and told not to return for 24 hours. IF there is any evidence at all he will be going to jail.
Hugs,
PennyAnn
2007-09-22 07:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Stephen,
You do not say whether your friend and her brother live in the same house.
No way is what her brother says true.
If she is being physically abused she has the right to be protected and action taken against the abuser, whoever they are.
She must report the abuse to the police and if there are physical signs she should see her doctor or attend the hospital. That way it is on official records.
If she has witnesses to the abuse she should approach them and ask them for support.
You are her friend and you are obviously concerned. If you have seen this happening, let her know that you are there for her and you will stand up with her.
Although I am sure she does not treat him badly and keep getting him angry because she taunts him about his sexual orientation, even if she did it is no excuse to become physically violent towards her.
My advice is that she shoud take no notice of what he says and if it happens again, especially if he injures her in any way, she MUST report it to the police.
It would also be an idea for her to consult a solicitor about it and get their advice. She should be able to get a free initial consultation and may also qualify for Legal Aid. She may well be able to get a restraining order against him.
She could also seek advice from her local Citzens Advice Bureau (CAB). They provide a free, highly confidential service and are well versed in helping with this type of thing.
Good luck to both you and your friend. In my opinion any man who hit a woman for whatever reason are nothing but cowards and very close to the lowest forms of life.
John
(Poseidon)
2007-09-22 07:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by Poseidon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If there is evidence of physical abuse, tell her to take pictures. If she has ever had to go to the hostpital as a result of something he has done, the injuries will be documented, and she can file a police report at the hostpital.
There are also many organizations that will help protect her, because the worst part of being the victim of abuse, is the retalliation from the abuser when the victim tries to do something about it.
Her life may be in danger, help her out of it any way you can.
In regards to her being prevented from protecting herself with help from law enforcement under the fear that she will be labeled as a gay hater, this has nothing to do with it. This sounds like something she is being told by him to scare her into not doing anything about it.
Your first step is to help her get away from the abuser. Get in touch with an organization that can help. See the links I have included.
Best wishes.
2007-09-22 07:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Some people cannot be reasoned with and the only thing they understand is pain so if he's one of those people who cannot be reasoned with then your friend needs to teach him a lesson,one that he'll understand.
She can purchase Tear Gas from a gun range and the next time he pushes her about she can gas him causing him enough pain that he'll understand not to do it again.
Or she can buy it on-line I'll come back and give you a link where you can purchase some.
I wanted to add that by law if her brother hits her again she is within her legal rights to gas him then call the police and have him arrested for assault on her person.
2007-09-22 07:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Adelaide B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to domestic violence, it does not matter if he is gay or straight, or if his sister loves or hates gays, what he is doing is still against the law and he should be punished for torturing and abusing his sister in this manner. Do they have parents who are still living? Even though they are in their 20s, there should still be intervention from family members if this is going on. He better consider himself lucky as if she was my friend and he was abusing her like that, I would have already knocked his ****ing block off. It is people like him who make all gays and lesbians look bad. He should have to spend some time in jail and think about what he is doing and get some help while he is there.
2007-09-22 07:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. If she calls the police for assault and SHE is the caller, they will not care if he says she is a "gay hater." If he ever touches her again she needs to call the police and file charges. He is saying that so he can hold power over her, and control the situation. He is wrong and abusive and needs to be punished for what he is doing. I wish her luck with this...
2007-09-22 07:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs! 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I surely have in no way properly-known any gay adult men to get crushed up or bodily abused in any way. I do, in spite of the undeniable fact that, comprehend some gays and lesbians who've strained relationships with their households. Being an atheist, i will relate to their journey.
2016-10-19 10:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by llanos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not true. You cannot at any time touch someone without permission no matter who it is. This is called assault. If there is injury it then becomes assault and battery. He will be prosecuted no matter what the excuse. Under no circumstances can he lay a hand on her. Call the police and have him locked up. He is only trying to intimidate her.
2007-09-22 07:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. There are domestic violence shelters for everyone. Domestic violence can be gay couples, hetero couples, moms and kids, dads and kids, siblings (in your friend's case). If he is the one abusing her, how can she come back and say he is getting hurt, it's a hate crime? Have her call the police and they should be able to direct her from there. I hope she's willing to press charges.
2007-09-22 07:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could say anything he wanted, but the police don't care if she hates gays. Hating gays (or any group) isn't illegal, otherwise the KKK would be considered criminals, and wouldn't be allowed to hold their ridiculous rallys. He can't go on abusing her and getting away with it. She can call the police and believe me, HE'LL be the one who gets put in the cruiser.
2007-09-22 07:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋