What to should I do?

Question

My husband recieved a phone call from his ex-lover at 1:30am and she know that we is married and not to call him past 9pm. Now what I want to know would I be wrong if I called her back and curse her out or should I just let it go and dont do nothing. Can you tell me what should I do.

They have no kids together and it is his cell phone not our house phone that is why I gave the 9pm rule because its his cell phone.

Answer 1

Don't waste your time on her. I would however, talk to your boyfriend and find out why she's calling that late. Maybe he can put a stop to it. The only thing you're going to do by saying something is add fuel to a fire.

Answer 2

Your husband shouldn't be receiving calls from his ex-lover at any time. Why are you condoning it by giving him a curfew? How did she get his private cell number? This woman is not calling him at 1:30 AM just to say hello. She thinks she has a relationship with this man. You need to put your foot down and tell him that married men do not play phone tag--or anything else for that matter--with their ex-lovers. It is disrespectful to the marriage vows and to you as a person. If he balks, you have a serious marital problem on your hand and you need to drag him to a marriage counselor to determine the best course of action if there is any hope of saving your marriage. If he won't go, go anyway and get some help in making the right decision for you.

Answer 3

First of all I don't think she should be calling him AT ALLregardless of whether it is before 9pm or not UNLESS there are children involved. Now if there are children involved she may have had a legitimate excuse to call, like a sick child or something (but I can't think of any other reason to have to call at 1:30 am).
You should speak to your husband and ask HIM to tell his ex not to call at all. If he isn't willing to do that then it is a problem with him and there is likely something going on which is why she is calling in the first place.
Don't call her and curse her out- that just makes you look like less of a lady and won't get you any respect.

Answer 4

I don't see the reason for an old flame calling your husband at all, @ any time. What would your husband think if an old flame of your called you?
What does he say about this women calling him? If he says that he does not want her calling him, I would call her & tell her to stop calling or I will report her to the phone company, then if it happens again, report her as harrassment to the phone company.
Cussing her out is not necessary.
If he is in favor of her calls, I think you two need a counselor; your marriage is in trouble.

Answer 5

I can imagine how upset you must be, but as much as you want to scream and yell at the woman...DON'T DO IT!

You need to think about what's really going on, and why you feel the way you feel.

Do you feel secure in your relationship with your husband? If yes, and you feel that this is disrespectful of her to call your house so late, then you need to speak with your husband calmly, and tell him how you feel. Explain that this is not a matter of trust, but of a lack of simple etiquette.

If you do feel a little insecure (and I wouldn't blame you if you if you did, we've all been there at one time or another), then you need to figure out what is happening in yourself or the relationship that is making you feel this way. Is it a lack of communication? Not enough time is being devoted to the relationship? Trust issues? whatever it is, you need to talk to you husband about what you feel and what you can both do to strengthen the relationship.

Whatever it is, yelling and screaming at this woman is NOT going to get you anywhere.

Answer 6

So i take it your husband answered the call. First off if there are children involved then there should be phone calls concerning the kids but only that. You shouldnt call her at all especially if she is trying to get at you. If you are comfortable w/your husband and you are secure w/yourself then you should just let it go, but really talk to him and find out what her deal is. ps. if there are no kids involved i urge you to motivated ur husband to get a new phone number. good luck

Answer 7

I wouldn't say you'd be out of line in calling, but I don't see what good it will do. She knew the rules and broke them intentionally. Chances are she already doesn't like you, has no respect for you or the marraige and will only be more inspired by your anger. It's your husband you need to deal with if their relationship is making you uncomfortable.

Answer 8

Who is his wife now? YOU right? Don't go to her level and take your place as a real and mature woman talk to your man GENTLY and ask him what is her point to call him if he loves you and respects you, he will stop her. It is his responsibility to stop her. that is not your job. think you are his wife, his woman if you call her back you will show that you are jealous, insecure and a little girl don't give her the pleasure to think she scares you. fight for your man with intelligence and love. don't fight him or confront him you can dump him to her arms you have the power. good luck

Answer 9

That makes no sense.You let her call before 9pm.,but youre mad because she called after 9pm?Why do you want to cuss her out.Maybe you shouldn't let her call at all!

Answer 10

let it go.
did he answer the phone, and run off into the other room? was there anything to be secretive about?
if no, then just let it go. she's apparently stupid, and it's not important.