My friend of 6 years is different now!!!?

Question

i have been friends with misty since we were in the 6th grade. we are juniors now, and last year she started dating some guy named dale. As soon as they started dating she dropped weight, but i know for a fact there was no eating disorder. She also stopped caring about hanging out with me, and she stopped caring about her future. She used to want to go into marine biology, but dale thinks its a bad idea, so she doesnt want to anymore. Now her goals are to marry him and live "happily ever after"
they have only been dating for 6 months. Im not jealous, ive been dating my boyfriend for a few years now, but the thing is dale treats misty like she is inferior, and it racks my every last nerve.
his dad beats him, so i understand why she is clingy to him, but the clingyness is excessive, and she is blind to the way that he talks crap about her behind her back, saying she is really mean to him.
we go to diff schools, and she ignores me when we see eachother. what can i do?

dale calls misty mean right next to her. i only talk to him with her right there.

we are all 16, so counseling is out of the question

our moms are bf so they often visit eachother. for the last month i have not been going with my mom, and i have stopped trying to call because when i would go over she would ignore me and talk to dale, and if dale wasnt there then she would be on the phone with him, even if we were at my house she would still talk to him for HOURS. i dont want to hang out with her until she wants to hang out with me, but tomorrow is my sisters birthday, so she is coming over...idk how to act. i dont know her anymore

Answer 1

well that happens---my advice would be just start off with telling her hi as you guys pass each-other so she'll now your trying not to avoid her---and if you guys do get into a conversation keep it light don't start telling her what he says behind her back or he's not good for her 'cause then the outcome would be for sure two strangers walking by each-other so keep it "small talk"-hi, have you been?-how's life treating you? etc.---well hopefully it works out for you if she's that good of a friend...good luck & hope I helped;)

Answer 2

Well, one way would be to video-tape him SAYING those things, and then show her. Here's the problem, though. You're basically attacking HER choice of guys, so her defenses are up. Going that route is dangerous to your relationship. What you SHOULD do maybe is write her a letter,saying you're sorry she can't see the truth right now ( don't mention HIM), and that you wish her the best, and you will be there for her if she ever wants to talk. And just leave it at that. People change, she may have changed too much for your continued friendship right now, but one day it could come back. So don't attack her, just be sympathetic, and let it go for now. You'll either get her back eventually as a friend, or not. But you will probably have to let this relationship run it's course, as she's not willing to see the truth, and it will only hurt YOUR relationship, whatever's left now, by pointing it out constantly. The balls in her court, and you must let her serve it. Back off, and stay ready for some emotional comfort if she wants it.

- The Gremlin Guy -

Answer 3

well, you can try to explain things next time when you see her, or maybe, you can talk to someone that has more influence on her,
or, make new friends, make her jealous or something, and she will come back. If not, move on. Let her learn the hard way, she'll find life hard, and when she does, shell come to people she knows or knew for help. But watevr u do, dont force her, she will hate u even more. Try talking, and if it doesnt work out, let her be happy for as long as it will last. Jst be ready to help her, it will strengthen your friendship. Its life, it will change, dont interfere in her love life, she will learn right or wrong.

Answer 4

There is not muchyou can do, exept be ready to be there. at some point she will probably realize what he has done, which is classic abusive behavior, especially for an abusive boyfriend, and that he has cut her off from everyone. then she will need someone she can run to. until then, just realize that dale is trying to cut her off from her friends, he's trying to isolate her, belittle her, make her nothing, so that he feels better, and so that she will always do what he says. he is abusive and controling.
If you can find a way to convince your friend to go to a relationship counselor, or any counselor, this might be helpful to her, and help her see what is going on. but telling her outright will only make her hate you.

Answer 5

THINGS CHANGE its called growing up! She is giving and getting lots of attention and she likes that .. If you are truly her friend things will settle down after time. Its called INFACTUATION and if you try to interfer too much it will only give you grief since she seems happy. GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

tell her that. u can always prove to her that dale is a bad person

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Just talk to her about it, maybe you can come to an agreement and decide to hang out.

Answer 9

tell her the way it is. if she doesnt listen then try to talk to dale. if all else fails [ik its hard] stay out of it. you cant control people. we wish they could do this, but we cant.




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Answer 10

tell her u value ur frndship and then,prove whata jerk her bf is if shes still that way then get a new friend