Has feminist view cost you your relationship ?

Question

Well i wouldnt say it did the whole thing, but partly it did it because the women i was dating was a feminist and even the thing i say to her out of care is regarded as controlling, where does the boundaries come it, does it mean i have to take every thing she does and says without saying anything to her ?

And the thing i said to her was out of care and was without controlling her, why do feminist have to jump at everything a man doesnt agree with,without thinking about the logic behind it or what does it cost the relationship in the long run ?

Answer 1

Yes. It led to my separation rather than attempting reconciliation. A clique of two lawyers, a therapist, a marriage councilor,and even the judge, who were all female manipulated facts and suppositions to walk through the separation. I know that this simply might seem like sour grapes or blinded thing on my part, however, the language and issues presented were not of my wife. They read almost like text book arguments, some of which, were absolutely irrelevant to the issues we were going through.
I truly believe that if left to a fair and just process, we would have reconciled.

Answer 2

I think it is important to know how to balance what you are and what you are not. I can see that it could cost anyone a relationship if that person is not secure within themselves. However, relationships are a way to learn from yourself and your mistakes- at least that is how I believe. I was married for 5 years and am now recently divorced. I divorced my ex because he wasn't emotionally/mentally secure with himself, and saw me as a threat even though he didn't want to admit that. I don't believe this had anything to do with me having a feministic prospective on things. I do believe however, I have learned a lot from my past relationship and in my next, it will be with someone who wants to florish with me as I do with them.

It is about knowing yourself, being self relflective, admitting when you're wrong, learning from your mistakes, and living life to the fullest. If one can do this, being with a woman who has a feminist approach should not inhibit the relationship. Unless one or both parties are insecure.

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Answer 3

via fact the solutions you have become, and lots this is published in this talk board, make sparkling, the expertise "Feminism" not has any single meaning any further, it has become not something extra beneficial than a buzz observe that can consult with at however human beings element whilst they say it. Self pointed out Feminists generally spend plenty extra time arguing with one yet another over variations in what they are "meant" to have faith that they forget approximately appropriate to the commonalities they have approximately what they actually do have faith. This has allowed the extremist aspects to latest themselves to the time-honored public via fact the face of Feminism as an entire and led to increasing numbers of ladies individuals, in spite of the undeniable fact that they consider the lots of the unique positions espoused back interior the '50s and '60s, to brazenly distance themselves from the term and something popularly linked with it. the respond on your query might, therefor, be: "relies upon, whose definition of Feminism are you utilizing?"

Answer 4

.. It's hard to say who's right and who's wrong in your example without you including what you said. Maybe what you said WAS controlling. We don't know..

No, a feminist view has never cost me a relationship. Personally I wouldn't date a person who actually understands feminism, but still can't call themself a feminist.

Answer 5

Not really... usually I just ditch the ones who think in a feminist way, but a couple of years ago I dated this hippie sort of chick who had some feminist viewpoints. We'd just argue about things all the time and I'd make fun of her for having a bad temper. What really broke that relationship up was her friend who really was a full on feminist pissing me off and asking the chick if I was living up to retarded feminist ideals (I wasn't). In the end I just ditched her because I didn't want to see or hear about her stupid feminist friend ever again.

Answer 6

No, my complete lack of desire for relationships cost me relationships.

Answer 7

Because "logic" isn't always the line of thinking that women TAKE- when holding a position. And this has NOTHING to DO- with "feminism". :)

Answer 8

I think feminists are like racists.... simple and after hanging out here for sometime I can see that some want to just put down other women and men just for their kick.... their own way of making themselves feel good....

By the way I am Christian and by the way I think feminists not all but some are very insecure, jealous and very dominating coz they are afraid of themselves more than their men or other women.

Feminists I can see are very clear of what they want and somehow want to trample over everything in their hindsight and move forward like men. Very unlady like and very abnormal... again not all but some.

They are unhappy with themselves and in turn that leads to divorce, fights about who is head of the family and what not.....

The ones who control others and make major fusses are dysfunctional in many ways.....

I cannot begin to start and end on this topic.... but I guess you get my drift?!