and what do you do if you are stuck in a relationship with someone who turns into a d***head when drunk, but is wonderful the rest of the time?
and the person refuses to stop drinking
2007-09-22 06:36:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It is a matter of the lowering on inhibitions attributed to the consumption of alcohol. Some are more susceptible than others to the effects that alcohol has on the body. If life has taught us anything, all things in moderation is a good mantra to keep in mind when drinking. Also, it's not difficult to realise who becomes and angry drunk or less than desirable company when under the influence. Don't drink with that person. What I find most frustrating is the "amnesia" they have the next day, and how they can't remember anything they have done or said.
2007-09-22 07:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may want to get out now. After years of drinking, that personality change could continue to alter into his non-drunk personality. I grew up with an alcoholic stepdad, and I remember how cool he was when I was younger, even if he had been drinking. But after 20 years, the alcohol turned him into a manic depressive and a violent man. Look at the people that have been alcoholics so long that they get the shakes when they don't have a drink. Alcohol is an addiction that can ruin any relationship if not given it's proper dues. Drinking in access is not a healthy thing, and honestly, if he refuses to stop drinking not even for you, then the alcohol takes precedence over you. Do you want to be with a man who after so many years of drinking, has sallow skin and sunken cheeks due to liver disease? You may try an ultimatum to see if he'd rather lose you or his alcohol.
2007-09-22 06:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by Donna M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To understand why the personality change occurs, you have to understand what parts of the brain alcohol affects, the main parts being the frontal lobes (which controls judgment, reasoning, and inhibitions) and temporal lobes and limbic system (which together affect emotion and sex drive). If you can't get the person to stop drinking, then either avoid them when they are drinking, or the relationship should end. Many people act very different when intoxicated, but the line should be drawn when the person becomes violent or could potentially become violent and hurt himself or others.
2007-09-22 06:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Aria T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying with a person who becomes violent or abusive when drunk can only lead to a lot of heartache. Painful as it might be, the right decision for your own sake is, dump him! With him, you will never enjoy nights out, or even a drink at home, parties, dinners, etc. If you have a family with him, they too will suffer. My dad was a great guy, and while drinking, was great fun. But when the drinking stopped, he became morose, and used to pick on my mum. He was never violent, but he did pick on her and it was extremely unpleasant.
If your boyfriend is any worse than that, drop him like a hot potato!
2007-09-22 06:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emma, it's because the alcohol has removed their inhibitions and they feel free to let their actual selves show. It can be a real eye-opener, especially with a seemingly nice person who becomes something awful.
The awful is the real deal, part of the whole package. If the person refuses to stop drinking, explain that you can't stand a relationship that includes that personality, wish him well, and move on.
2007-09-22 06:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholic beverages can generate hypersensitivity area outcomes. yet I doubt that character changes are labeled as an allergic reaction. this is extra to do with the chemical changes in the concepts because of the drink.
2016-11-06 02:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him if he carries on been a di.khead when he's drunk you are finished....if he thinks enough about you he will change his ways....if not then leave him and find a better man....good luck
2007-09-22 07:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparantly some people use drunkeness as an excuse to do what they want.
i.e they plan their excuse.
i want to do x but if i do ill look bad - so ill drink and then do it - then i can say i was drunk.
2007-09-22 06:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and give a genuinely nice guy a chance
2007-09-22 06:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by Northern Spriggan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell them to make a decision...either you or alcohol
if they dont stop drinking then leave, no sense in wasting your life away...it only gets worse before it gets better.
2007-09-22 06:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by railer01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋