We're selling our house for a condo, and my husband thinks this will solve our problems.?

Question

I posted before about marital problems, the fact that I moved out this summer for 2 months, and have been back for 5 weeks now.

We've decided to sell our home, because frankly this home was his formal marital residence with his ex, and we bought it back from her when she decided to move out of state.

So, my husband thinks by selling this house and partially by my urging (because I can't stand being here) we're looking for a condo. My reasoning is that it will be cheaper than a house, and his reasoning is that he feels it will make me have feelings for him again. What do you think? It's been 5 weeks and my feelings have been luke warm.

What I knew going into this:
I wasn't told about this house being the house where our office ended up being his son's bedroom (the son that died), the motivation behind this move, was so we could have a shorter walk to our religious institution, and didn't think through the history behind the house as opposed to the location. :o\

Answer 1

I dont think the condo itself will solve all your problems but buying it may help eliminate the existing stress the house is causing and thus solve some problems for a little while til something else comes along. It should take some stress off the financial problem til the extra money goes somewhere. But realistically your maritalproblems lie deeper than a condo and this is only a band-aid. Not knowing what other marital related stress problems youre having I cant begin to answer your question enough but seek a marriag counselor when and if the problems get worse. Good luck

Answer 2

Marital issues aside, buying a condo over a house is not a good idea. Buying a condo is actually more expensive, because of HOA fees. The condo will not appreciate in value as much as a house. Just in appreciation alone, you and him stand to make far more money in the long term than you could ever save in the short term by buying a condo. Besides, HOAs in general are a pain in the neck. Do you really want a bunch of people telling you what you can and can't do outside on your own property, and when and where you may or may not park your car? HOAs-Blech~!

Answer 3

I can't blame you for not wanting to live in that house but you may be making a big mistake with a condo.... they are not always cheaper ...here's why

On a house you pay property tax and have a mortgage and have to do all the upkeep yourself..... in a condo you still pay property tax and a mortgage and only have to pay for the upkeep of the interior... however you also have to pay condo association fees every month and these can be expensive and continue even if you pay off the mortgage.... plus these fees go up every year usually so that is an extra payment that is always there

Answer 4

It's a good start. Why would you want to live in the same house he banged the ex-wife in? That's sick.

However, you both need to seek professional help. There's more than just the house that's a problem.

Answer 5

Talk to your parents about the privacy business and mayb that might relieve the stress a little bit more. Then I suggest you sit down with your parents and help them realize that untill the money situation gets better their farm should be put on hold. You do need to move out and get your space but the timing is hard. Work through this with patience it might be hard I know but these are the obstacles in life that makes us who we are. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I understand the discomfort, but didn't you know the situation before you moved in? You kind of made your bed. It sounds like he is willing to work with you now anyhow, so go be a wife.

Answer 7

It may help for a short term, I think though your problems stem deeper than just the house.

Answer 8

Mem,

There is no best solution except u manage to compromise with ur spouse.

Regards

Answer 9

at least u are trying, give it some more time, good luck