my wife is mad at me. She won't tell me why?

Question

She is a very direct person most of the time. But when she gets mad and I ask 'what's wrong?' She gives me the silent treatment and then will say you figure it out. I hate when she does it. I asked her this morning and she won't tell me. Do I continue asking her why or do I ignore it until she's in a better mood?

Answer 1

-What did you do? It can only be a number of things...
Did you break a promise? Did you go out on her? Maybe you forgot your anniversary. Did you forget her birthday?
Are you not spending enough time with her? Hopefully you are not seeing anyone else...
What ever the situation, you have got to keep in mind that:
Conversation is Key. Don't let it fester. It will only build resentment. You have got to reassure her that you love her and that she is most important in your life. You have to be honest with your feelings towards her.
I use to get angry with my husband and he wouldn't know why, and I wouldn't tell him so he went out to buy me flowers and on the card, he would write "I'm sorry for what I did to hurt you." -That would get me every time and so I was more apt to talk to him to let him know what he did or didn't do.
The point is of this story is that you just have to say you are sorry, even if you do not know what you did. Be the first one to apologize. Remember that love conquers many multitudes.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Well if you did something wrong than you should know however most women dont realize that we dont think alike so something you did may not have been a big deal to you but major to her..she is being childish in not telling you whats wrong and she needs to grow up in order to fix problems you cant give each other the silent treatment just tell her that you dont know whats wrong and if you hurt her feelings in some way that you are sorry but to tell you what you did so you dont make the same mistake then tell her that you cant fix it if you dont know and that she is being a child by not telling you good luck

Answer 3

Maybe being direct did not help the issue because she did not receive the results from being direct. If she is mad and does not want to tell you then let it be for awhile. If she is giving you the silent treatment maybe its because she does not want to add fuel to the fire and cause a fight. Communication is key and I am not saying she is correct in her behavior but ask yourself this question. " Do I really have no idea why she is mad or am I just trying to ignore it while claiming my ignorance, oh I mean innocence to why she is mad.

Answer 4

Honestly, there is something you're leaving out of this story, and it could be because you want people to come to aid or defense. The truth of the matter is, if she's a direct person as you've indicated, and she hasn't spoken to you in an unstated period of time, THEN she's reacting to something you did. What is the small fact you're leaving out of this story?

On the other hand, if you've inadvertantly did something, then I would force her to speak by reciprocating the same treatment. Silence will eventually force her to talk as well.

Answer 5

I suggest being patient with her. She is evedentally mad at something you didn't do or say. Often woman believe men are mind readers. Often men do things to irritate the heck out of us women and visa versa, but with men they don't realize what they are doing and don't think about it. Women are very intune to their emotions. Sometimes if they are in that time of the month things get amplified and just the slightest thing can set them off in a tiff. Maybe try taking her to dinner or cooking dinner. Cleaning up without her having to ask you. Send her some flowers or chocolates. Send her to a spa day. believe me you sometimes have to give a littl;e to get some back. I suggest if you want to have sex then do something to make her talk to you and realy listen to her and try to watch what you say and do a little more carefully the next time.

Answer 6

I have heard that "conscious" people have a fair shot at making marriage actually a somewhat bearable experience. Such probably make up 5% of the world's population. Hmmmm :))

"Conscious" is usually defined as, at least, having worked on their "issues", and continue to do so, understanding what being human is about, and how to maintain a reasonably quiet mind so as to minimize all of the dramas and drivel that normally run through it daily . And, as appropriate here, are able to discuss their differences, as a couple, in a calm, mature and "enlightened" manner. :))

Answer 7

Definitly do not ignore her. That will set her off even more. Give the apparence of you being upset cause she is. Search you memory hard. Did you leave something open you should have like , did you forget a important date, did she ask you to do something and you scheduled something else instead? Think my friend

Answer 8

Psychologist John Gray says that women sometimes have the unfortunate tendency to think their man should be able to read their minds. Your wife needs to hear from you on a regular basis that you can't read her mind.
Perhaps it's a hormonal thing going on.Hopefully she isn't telling you and you aren't hearing.
Either case, the two of you need to find a designated person who she can open up to who will be a go-between for you and your wife to keep the lines of communication open.
Another possibility might to write letters to one another or send them through the email. Sometimes writing helps to express what's really going on.

Answer 9

Grab her by the shirt-front, get in her face and SCREAM at her: YOU ARE NOT A MIND READER!!!!!

What the hell is the matter with people? How the F**K are people to know what they did wrong if the person who's mad doesn't SAY anything?!!!

Either people learn to open their mouths and SAY what's wrong, or they have NO place to get mad!!! WHAT THE HELL???

People get SO childish sometimes.

Answer 10

Give her some time. When you see she might be willing to talk or listen tell her you're sorry eventhough you don't know what you did, but sorry that it could have made her so upset. Try your hardest to figure out what you could have done! But tell her you are not a mind reader and you don't want to be so insensitive to her needs, but she has to help you figure out how to be less of a dumb***!