My friend is 18, married and unhappy?

Question

I wonder what makes her unhappy? I wish I am married at 18.

I am resolved when I am married myself, I won't be unhappy.

I will have my own way in everything, and no father to order me what
to do.

Answer 1

there is not alot being said in this question . and no one can say that they would not be unhappy . there are alot of reasons to be unhappy things that are not known about .

Answer 2

She's 18 and married that's what. Why in the world would someone commit to marriage at 18. That's way too young to get married no matter were you live.

She has just graduated from High School for heavens sake! There's still College to attend (and graduate from), a decent paying job to get hired into and financial stability. Those are the priorities she SHOULD have been thinking about before jumping the broom.

Answer 3

Well for one I would not want to be married at the age of 18. You have to look at how much life you have to live at that age. You are just a teenager and you really do not exactly know what love is to be married. She is probably unhappy because she feel getting married at that age was a mistake. she sees what other girls her age are doing with their life's and she feels that she has missed out on something.

Answer 4

I agree with all of the advice already given, about marrying too young, - etc. However, I fear that all of this is falling on deaf ears. I assume by your grammer and the statement you made in the second sentence of your question, that you are well below the age of consent, (18); infact i guess your age to be about 14 or 15.

Whether or not you are married by the time you are 18 I can not say - but I suspect your wish may be granted. Unfortunately, the odds are that you will probably have two children of your own before that.

You need to get a real look at reality. Right now you live under your folk's roof in a nice home, you have utilities, (running water, heat, appliances, food, clothing, laundry, toilet & bath, allowance, and a safe haven with your own bed, TV, Phone - etc; and you don't pay a dime for it. You go to free public school, - which you may skip from time to time. You have money to eat at McDonald's when you like, play video games, and just hang with your friends.

So for the sake of arguement let's say you do get married by or before you are 18 to a boy who did or did not finish high school. He's not a genius, just a regular guy, who likes hip-hop, and wearing his pants down to this knees, plays his ipod all the time, and isn't particularly interested in working, - because it interferes with with his skate boarding. So he compromises by taking partime jobs.

Your income as a family is below the poverty level, so you're on food stamps, ADC, and Welfare. You live in a cramped & crappy apartment, where you're stuck at home with the kids all the time, while hubby is out with friends on his skate board, or as he calls it "looking for a job". There's never enough money for anything but the bare necessities. Are YOU HAPPY NOW?

You are a teenager - be a teenager. Play, enjoy your friends. Talk on the phone too much, watch too much TV. Stay up too late on school nites. Argue with your brothers and sisters, and your folks, rebel a little, - but be good, respect yourself and others, and tell boys to keep their hands to themselves! Good luck little sister.

Answer 5

You are not a very realistic person are you. Getting married is often times a way to leave home and escape the life you are in... the expectations are usually very high and many times you will set unreachable goals that are never realized...I got married very young and thought it would be wonderful... I thought I will have a family ... a wife that loved me, kids that I could love and would love me and I would be able to do a better job at being married than my parents did.... So I got married and reality set in... bills had to be paid.... I had to get a job I hated.... the baby kept me up at night and I got little rest.... my wife started drinking and cheating on me.... and I found out that life is hard and often cruel.... Don't be in such a hurry to get married.... get an education and experience life a little before you take that step.... if you don't then you will have regrets your entire life.

Answer 6

18 is very young to be married. There is much living to do. College or trade school. Dating several different people and getting to know what you want in a spouse. Do not rush into marriage and you will be happy. Marriage is work of art that is never completed. You hopefully grow and change together.

Answer 7

Sounds like your friend put marriage ahead of things he/she thinks is more important, and now he/she is unable to do those more important things. This could also include finding the 'right' person to marry. Our choices many times turn out to be the wrong choices. A marriage is only as good if the people involved see it as good.

Answer 8

you say you want to get married and you will have no father to tell you or order you to do things. you are certainly off the track, because your husband will order you and tell you what to do and you are stuck with him for the rest of your life. wait to get married until you have a chance to look around at life and how to live - wait until you grow up and really look at the world the way that it is.

Answer 9

Because she is married at 18, that's why.

Answer 10

Because she obviously wasnt mature enough to get married at 18. And BTW marriage life is not just about doing whatever you want.