When YOU were little did you have to ASK FOR FOOD!???

Question

That seriously sickens me.. depriving your child of food especially because my best friend who is my neighbor is fifteen and she still has to ask for food...
and her mom commented once about our other neighbors little girl who was sick and was eating some goldfish before bed because she wasn't feeling good enough to eat them earlier and she was like omg who gives goldfish to their kids when their sick and eating beofre bed omg! I'm like WOW....My parents have always let us go in the pantry or fridge or whatever and make or selves some food or take a snack and I'm healthy and not overweight It's food you eat it that's why it's there! The only time she saw me and said no was right before we were having dinner so I wouldn't spoil it

Answer 1

never, it was always in my face..LOL

Answer 2

I'm a mother of two quickly growing boys, on a very tight budget, and I'm sorry young lady, when you become a mother you will understand the importance of teaching your children to ask before they take!! Now that I am off my soap box...the tight budget plays a key roll into whether or not my boys can get a snack or food without asking. I'm not always able to buy "unlimited groceries" so that my children are able to eat whatever and whenever they want. I have NEVER denied them a meal but I have denied them snacks and food before bed (it's just not healthy before bed, no matter what your CURRENT health is). The only time they are allowed to give me the "I'm not hungry now" is when they're sick. I understand trying to put food in your body when your sick, so if they get hungry late, I'll feed them, but they know its something like soup. If I allow my youngest to eat whenever he wants without asking, he will eat to the point of being full and then not want to eat dinner. The thing about that is, come 8:30 at night he's hungry again and expecting me to let him eat. Doesn't happen. Snacks have been "abused" in our home to the point that we now consider them a privilege, not a right. If I know dinner is going to be a couple of hours still, then yes he will usually be given some kind of snack...BUT HE STILL HAS TO ASK FIRST BEFORE HE TAKES. If come dinner time he tells me he's not hungry yet, this is my reply "Kitchen closes at 8pm, if you don't eat that's your fault and there will be NO snacks between now and bedtime."

It saves cost on my grocery bill, it teaches my children that I am not there to wait on them hand and foot ANYTIME they want to eat and it teaches them to be responsible and thoughtful of others. They don't like it some days, but they understand and accept it.

Answer 3

I asked permission for snacks. I was NOT that my mother was depriving me. It was that as children we are unable to grasp to concept of what and when it is appropriate to eat. IE Goldfish before bed. Snack before dinner ect. My mother also was not comfotable with us rummaging through the fridge at all hours. I understand you view on raising children to pick healthy snacks at appropriate times of the day. But suprvision is still needed. And that responsibility should come with age. Every household has different rules for their children. Unfortunately there is little to nothing you can do about it!>

Answer 4

My kids are very little and ask for food because they can't get it themselves. I gladly feed them all the time and leave snacks out so they can eat when they are hungry. The only time I tell them "no" is if it's right before a meal, just like your Mom did. Growing kids and teens need to have access to food, sounds like that mom has some real control issues.

Answer 5

There's many different reasons for different parenting styles.Each child is an individual,as is each parent.
Maybe your friends mother is on a budget,or has rules for appropriate snacks,or both.Childhood obesity isn't to be taken lightly,so even if you're not inclined,many are.Neither is having not enough food left for meals to feed all the family properly...

Answer 6

No, but I know but my best friend's little brother does.

It's because at the age of 8 he ways almost as much as I do. Their whole family just have a problem with weight, and having type 1 diabetes, I've learned that type 2 is for whatever reason more common in Black and Hispanic people. (They're Black.)

Answer 7

My grandma would make me ask, but that was only because of the whole teaching manners thing. please and thank-you.

but now at 20 I don't really ask unless there's not much of something left. I still ask if I can have a pop though. haha.

My parents never made me ask unless it was something put up high so I couldn't get at it, but even then I was allowed to eat it- just with their permission.

Parents want their children to be healthy and sometimes letting them into the fridge whenever they want isn't going to make them healthy.

My children are going to have to ask for junk food but they're more than welcome to the fruits and veggies!!

Answer 8

No, we didn't have to ask for food. But, I do make my kids ask for certain things because I don't want to end up like myself. Addicted to sugar. This parent you're referring to may have some childhood issues herself and this is the only way she knows how to deal. But I don't throw stones at other people because I don't know the full story.

Answer 9

I didn't have to. Food was always something within reach. Especially when you're an athlete and you eat about 4000 calories a day.

Try using real sentences!

Answer 10

not really cause i refused to eat too much and i still do. But that resulted in a good figure ^-^ lol and no im not anorexic im pretty healthy

Answer 11

I either chirped like a birdie or went meh and opened my mouth at my mom and she would get or make dinner.