I have one kid. Married for five years. We have been under my parent's support for five years and I'm getting tired of being a bread winner. My husband has a job but I don't handle his salary. Now, my parents decided to cut the support and he still have no plans of leaving his job for a better one. And recently I found out that he and his girl officemate have been texting. It seems unfair. Not to support your family and me doing all his responsibilities. Should I leave him? I don't love him anymore and has been living with him because of our son.
2007-09-22 06:03:27 · 11 answers · asked by rushf4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems he got the cake and frosting too. Tell him you want him to leave and you think it is for the best. Ex plane things to him.. Talk it out. He needs to go out on his own and see what the real world is. He will have to pay child support if he is working. It will help you fine a place also if you move or help your parents. He is there for a free ride. Hope things work out, Pem
2007-09-22 06:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just so sad you meet someone, think they have all this potential, get into a serious relationship and marry, then have a child. Some years pass and you find out they don't want to do the best they can, instead they take you so much for granted they would have the nerve to have an affair. That's what he is doing. Since the parents have cut off the support because they see he is willing to keep things the way they are as long as mom and dad will help, he has no plans to change, mature, or just plain grow up. You should seek some counseling for yourself, because you cannot change him. Then I would start looking for a good divorce attorney. THIS IS ALL VERY UNFAIR TO YOU AND ESPECIALLY YOUR SON. Do it so you can have a better quality of life...
2007-09-22 06:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a couple words of advice:
1) Don't think that parents being together make a child's life normal. They can tell when things aren't right.
2) If you have been the bread winner since the beginning, be prepared to pay maintenance (unless you can prove he's cheating).
3) Sorry you're in this situation. Hang in there!
2007-09-22 07:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not fair that you are the sole bread winner and it sounds like you raise the kid by yourself too. Thank goodness you have help from the parents. You need to think about your kid. What kind of impacts is a divorce going to have on your kid. Also, you need to confront your husband. Ask him why he will not get a better job and that you feel uncomfortable that he is texting his office help. My feeling is a married man should not be texting his office help out of working hours. You also don't want to be with a man that is cheating on you and disrespects you and your kid. You don't want your kid growing up to think that is how he or she is suppose to treat his/her family. After talking to your husband, I would sit down and talk with your parents about it. They might see stuff in your relationship and with your family that you have not seen.
2007-09-22 07:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by samatha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you have given him his cake and let him eat it too.
Tell him that its time to take responsibility for his family and that you all need to get a place of your own and give the in laws a rest. .your parents have gone above and beyond their duty to help. if he is not willing and wants to leave (wish him well) and let him go. Let him find somebody else to take care of him.You don't want your child to grow up and think that is a way of life. You have to take charge and do what is right for you and your child.
2007-09-22 06:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by LovelyChoc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you leave.....try some counseling....just for you.
You sound like you need some support from a professional who doesn't have anything invested in your situation.
Your parents are too close.....and friends are usually biased.
2007-09-22 06:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am against divorce, but i am a lot older than most of the people on here, sometimes things just don't work out, and life is to short to live in misery
2007-09-22 06:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i TH INK YOU SHOULD JUST GO. STAYING FOR THE CHILD JUST MAKES IT WORSE ON THE CHILD. ITS PAINFUL FOR A CHILD TO LIVE IN A LOVELESS HOME. BETTER TO BE ALONE AND HAPPY THEN SHOW YOUR CHILD ALL OF THE DISFUNCTIONS OF LIFE.
GO FIND YOU HAPPINESS. YOUR CHILD WILL FLOURISH SEEIG YOU HAPPY AND FUNCTIONAL AND FREE. PEACE IS WHERE YOUR CHILD SHOULD GROW UP. YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS.
2007-09-22 07:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.It's time you live your life the way you deserve not because he wants it that way.His loss.Good luck
2007-09-22 06:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit the road and don't look back- its just a matter of time anyway
2007-09-22 06:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋