My fiance and I had a date picked out to pledge our wedding vows. After a minor health crisis (his)...and at a time when I couldn't take any time off work, my "friend" decided to take some time off work "to keep him company". It was only a few days later that I found out that the 2 of them were an item and that he had told her that he had a plan to "dump me". I still love him with all my heart.....but after 2 weeks her "facebook" profile now says that she is "engaged". I don't know what to think of all of this.....Any suggestions??? As much as I want to hate him...I can't.....but I feel so hurt and betrayed (by both of them)....and I can't stand to even look at her. I have seen them together and she always has the most smug look on her face....What do I do now????
2007-09-22 04:49:51 · 19 answers · asked by big bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Count your blessings that you found out now before you had to be dragged through a messy divorce!
It may be hard - but I'd say "See Ya'!" to both of them.
2007-09-22 04:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and know how you feel. I say kiss his sorry butt goodbye and as for the girlfriend.... I personally would knock that smug look off of her face and I'd tell just how betrayed I felt BY HER. I'd tell her how wrong she was and is and then I'd let her know that she'll be replaced with a friend that knows how to be loyal and true. Ditto for the boyfriend.
Then I'd do my very best to move on.... Not an easy thing to do. But time really does heal all wounds. And meeting the right man will make it all disappear....
2007-09-28 18:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Brenda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK lets get one thing straight....SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND!!! And If he loved you and I mean truly loved you this would not have happened, better you found out now then after you said " I Do" . Yes your going to hurt you were betrayed; move on with your life so you can start healing and I would by sending your friend a Thank you for showing you the truth about her friendship and his love for you and remind her what goes around comes around. Then drop both of them and find new friends. Remember there is someone for everyone and they did do you a favor.
2007-09-29 06:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by TinaS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both betrayed you.....maybe you've put too much trust in both of them. If my girlfriend would take some time off to spend it with my boyfriend I would see red lights flashing. You are very lucky you are not married to this man. Erase then both from you life. DO not check them up on facebook or any other place. Use this terrible deception and learn from it. From today, make yourself the center of your own life and start looking for a real gentlemen. DO not play the victim, it's a waste of time.
2007-09-22 05:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me almost 35 years ago. He told me at chirstmas in the snow. By the time I got back to school I lost alot of weight, changed my hair, my clothes, my life. I made some hard choices. I moved on and up, living my life with passion. They were married and divorced in the same year. I have lived a very interesting life and they are still in the same ditch that I left them in. They were very miserable the last time I saw them. I barely recongized them and they did not recognize me at all. So you have an opportunity here, don't waste it. It was a hard time in my life but I am a person for it. Good luck.
2007-09-30 04:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certain things in life that happen for a specific reason. Obviously, your incident is one of them. It is better to find out sooner, rather than later, that your Fiance was not meant for you to be with. Your girlfriend is certainly no friend of yours to have done what she did behind your back. I say "good riddance" to them both and count your blessings that your eyes were opened before you took a major step in your life that would have been a huge mistake.
2007-09-30 03:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by ptruelove01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its okay to be hurt heck that is natural but maybe when you could not take the time off of work to be with him he felt that you were not there for him when he needed you the most and your friend was there for him and he felt that she was the one that was going to be there thick and thin and felt that is what love is about. see if you can talk to him alone and ask if it was becaue you could not take time off. It seems like she does not love him she is only with him to make you mad kinda like u have him i want him kinda thing and now that she got him she is going to spread it all over your face and back sure your hurt. maybe she is not engaged she could of just seen that you keep checking her profile to see if they broke up and decided to play a mean but funny to her joke on you. Just talk to him and figure out if you hurt him and what you can do it make it right. he might feel like u chose work over him.
2007-09-29 04:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is easier said than done but you have to forget about them. It won't last and he'll probably try to come running back to you. I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around, I've seen the effects of this saying in action. If you are religious pray about the situation, I've been in a similar situation my self and I am happy and have moved on. It will happen for you It just takes time. But believe me when I say that you will be THE ONE WHO GOT AWAY, and he will live to regret what he did to you. Trust me.
2007-09-29 15:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by unique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do??????????/the question is: what are you doing?, you are in the middle of two enemies!!!, get away from that!, she's not your friend at all, and you are lucky to have found out this now and not "later".
Dump both of them, they are made one for each other, they will be miserable, I can assure you this.
You will lose her "friendship" (whatever...who cares?), and don't have any doubts that after they "did" something, and found out that didn't work,,,,HE will come crying and begging to have you back, and then your brains and dignity will send him to where this loser belongs...out of your life.
These kind of men, never makes any woman happy.
2007-09-28 20:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lucky it happened now ! not 3 kids and 5 years from now! He couldnt of been in love with you after 2 weeks ? They must of been playing around before !!! Forget about it and start over .... this time find a soulmate !!
2007-09-29 20:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
painful though it is, you will find that just over the next ridge that by moving on you have done a great favor for yourself.
She (your ex-girlfriend) is the one who needs to look out. If
a man truly loves you then nothing can change it. So thank
your lucky stars and begin to live again....
2007-09-27 14:28:20 · answer #11 · answered by redtop092002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋