Do you think loners are losers or cool or?

Question

What do you think of loners? Loser or cool?

What about those loners who give monosyllabic answers to everything, and don't make an effort to be friend even after one accommodating person goes up to them and try to chat them up?

Or what about those very shy types who feel left out in cliques and just leave to be on their own? But who try to talk and be fun when others talk to him/her (just that the loner doesnt initiate much convo)

and yet why dont ppl want to talk to us, seeing as there are many of you who dont think we are losers? i'v known ppl who just talk to loners to size them up, to see if they are worth pursuing a friendship with, but ppl who initiate convo with loners are few and far b/w.. tts my own opinion i guess..

idk.. if you are a loner.. would you like to be my friend? even if you arent, would you like to be my friend too?

note: i'm a loner, i may be boring too x)

robink: what is BS? thanks for your answer. but many ppl think i'm a loser cos i stutter too.

thanks for all your answers!

Answer 1

Loners shouldn't be categorized. There are many reasons people find themselves on their own, But whether its by choice or not they are not losers.

I dislike stereotypes intensely. People are individuals and should be treated as such. People who stereotype are possibly the main cause of creating loners because they have decided that these people don't fit into a particular box so deserve to be excluded. I know this isn't always the case and I realise that people create their own walls of defence for whatever reason, but exclusion due to stereotyping boils my blood.

Sorry for the rant.

Answer 2

I am sorry but I don't believe there are any losers, if someone can call someone a loser, they are a loser themselves. Loners are loners, because they have no desire to be around people who judge what they wear, what their hair looks like, what their interest in life is, as far as I can tell they are the smart ones not getting caught up in BS, of young life, and those are the ones who seem to be more successful in life.
As traumatic as going to school is because you are shy, people should back off and let them be, I can't stand seeing shy people being picked on because they are in a sense afraid, and people should have some respect and either make them feel comfortable or just back off, these are the people who end up scarred for the rest of their lifes, because people can be so cruel, especially those in High School. There is no such thing as losers, and loners are cool, shy people should be given some respect.

Answer 3

I am a loner too. In fact we have talked before if you remember. You were of great help that time. :-)

Coming back to the question, I think loner is just another class of individuals. There is nothing like "winner" or "loser" about it. But interestingly, I as a loner don't want to stay alone. Rather, I want to stay with a few people, few very close friends, one girlfriend.

So, being a loner has some advantages too. I don't have to spend time on a lot of people. I can spend time with those who I truly love.

Answer 4

Being a loner does not make them a "loser" or "cool". Those are terms used by people who are very outgoing, and want to make fun of loners.

In my teen years, I was a loner. I was shy, always felt that people would make fun of me if I interacted with them. It was also because I had a lot going on in my family during that time so that didn't help much either. I had a couple of friends at home, but none to speak of at school.

Let the loners & shy ones come out of their shells on their own. They apparently are not comfortable in cliques, or groups of "friends" that like to label other people because they are not like those in the group.

Answer 5

I am a bit of a loner because I prefer and enjoy my own company.I am not exactly shy because I can walk upto anyone and say hi without much of a problem.Its just that I can't carry a conversation with a complete stranger.This is why I prefer hanging out with a larger group of strangers-I can just listen to their conversation and speak only if I have something that can add value to the convo.

Answer 6

I think Loners are the minority. From an early age, alot of smart kids see that the other kids only want to talk about soccer matches. These smart kids, who know nearly everything about nearly everything else, feel uncomfortable around the "Sport loving" majority, so they kind of stick in three's, two's and one's. On there own. It's kind of....odd, seeing that group of kids together when your on your own, knowing you never had a chance of being that group, of having a ton of friends.

Answer 7

I was labeled as a loner I was more shy than anything plus with people being prejudice many people didn't see eye to eye with me I was picked on (racial comments mainly) I never thought of anyone as losers I just didn't want to be around those that made fun of people...Some people chatted with me and I had no problem being friends with them..I didn't want to be around rude people and their comments...

Answer 8

I am a loner, not by choice. Loners deserve to be given a chance at friendship, just like everyone else does. Because they are people too, with feelings.

Put yourself in their shoes. How would you like to be isolated and not given a chance to fit in?

Didn't think so.

Answer 9

some are seen as cool, such as James Dean. He was a loner. Others are seen as losers by narrow minded aholes, who seem to think that we are going to shoot people up o'r something.

I'm a loner but I am polite to people.

Answer 10

Still waters run deep.
Being a lone wolf has nothing to do with being "cool" or a "loser". Being cool is a state of mind and losers are lowlifes.