Are married people really happy or do they just pretend to be happy ?
If given a choice would they go back to being single ?
Is it true that men need marriage more then women ?
Give some reasons why it is better to be married then single or some reasons why it is better to be single then married ?
2007-09-22 03:29:13 · 23 answers · asked by Pramod R 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am divorced. In the past 40 years since I became old enough to get married, I have been married twice, each time for 10 years give or take a month or two. I have a son with the 1st who is going on 33 years old. I have now been single again longer than either of my 2 marriages... I have read about studies which show married people tend to live longer than singletons but happier married than single? I do not know. I was happy when I was married. I am happy being a singleton once again. I would marry again if I found a nice lady (50-something and close to HWP) that I could love and who would be willing to marry me.. I do not get lonely, though I live alone. Men do NOT need marriage at all and given free reign, would procreate with any and every female available, willing or not. I admit that being single, I size up every woman I come across as a potential bedmate NOT as a mother for my children. I already HAD one of those. Men want sex, women want a provider. Marriage is one way to insure a provider for offspring. It is society (women, actually) which has foisted marriage onto us men. Essentially, women have made men promise to stick around by offering sex in return. Human beings do not naturally pair-bond. Being married means a built-in support system, a helper. Being single means you get to do it all yourself. Being married means a bed warmer. Being single means cold sheets, but then, I always have my electric blanket. Being married means I have to pick up my toys. Being single means everything is exactly where I left it. Being married means I have to clean up. Being single means I can camp out for a week in a state park and NOT have to change my clothes OR take a shower. Being married means "civilized" camping if there even IS any camping. Being single means I can write my name in the snow, in yellow... You know you're really good, if you can dot the I's... Being married means I have to remember to put the toilet seat down (And why is it that you women do not LOOK before you leap, so to speak? And then blame ME for your rear end coming in contact with cold porcelain!). Being single means I can leave the toilet seat up and no one complains about it. Like I said, I've been happy BOTH ways, married AND single.
2007-09-22 04:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by rowlfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the individual and the time of their life. Most want what they can't have. So some married people want to be single, and some singles want to be married. I loved being single, but only because I was far away from home and lived on my own. Being married is great too. I just hope it won't sour soon...or at all. Married people might be happier because they'll always have someone there, they don't have to shop. But many married folks do pretend to be so as well. At this time, no. I'm totally in love with my husband, and if i was on a mission to be single, I never would've met him. Yes, i heard somewhsere that women want men, but men need women. A woman can live alone, and not sleep around...well...until she's barren or something(I've heard women can be just as bad as men after menopause). But some men go sleep around before marriage, because they want experience, and to show off to friends, and be proud of themselves. So if men didn't get married, this pattern would continue, and Lord kows what diseases they'd have, or how many bastards they'd create. When single, u have total freedom, when married, u have shared total freedom. Theyr'e both nice in their own forms and times. IT's a ll a matter of what people want.
2007-09-22 12:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only answer for myself and not ALL MARRIED people...I love being married and would choose being married over being single. I am sure there are some married people that pretend being happy just as there are some single people that also pretend to be happy. Do men need marriage more then women? I don't think so....think it is about equal for both sexes. I think whether your married or single is a personal choice for the most part and you can find happiness in which ever situation you are in.
2007-09-22 03:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which one is better does not depend on the answers of others. It depends on your state of mind. You decide for yourself and follow that course. If you act on the advice of others, you will be doomed. That is, you would do all the things that you detailed in your question. They are like this - 1. Marry 2. Pretend to be happy 3. Go back to being single given a chance 4. And then tell people that men need marriage more than women.
2007-09-22 04:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be kind of stereotyping. I mean, there are good marriages and bad marriages. I am single. There are times when it gets lonely not having a wife and the companionship that goes along with it. On the other hand, I enjoy the freedoms that go along with being single. And I don't mean sleeping around as I don't do that. I go where I want, when I want and answer to no one. I have my own home set up my own way. I have been married and don't want to do it again. I would like to have a female companion though.
I don't believe that the need for marriage is stronger in any one gender.
2007-09-22 03:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Asoloutely not. Sexually, marriage is a trap. Unless you cheat you have to be able to get aroused by the same person week after week, year after year. Men esepcially have a very difficult time with this and many turn to **** and masturbation or have affairs just to get a little sexual varity back in their lives. Single men, on the other hand, can move from relationship to relationship quickly and easily getting all the sexual variety the want. Therefore single men have far happier and more varied sex lives.
2007-09-22 08:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marraige goes beyond relationship beneath the sheets. It is a fine blend of two minds, their aspirations, their frustrations, their likes, their dislikes, their beliefs, their disbeliefs, their values etc. If you get a good company your brain would possibly release good chemicals which would help in fighting aging and illness. In effect you enjoy a good healthy long life togather. Now you decide are married people happier then bachelors ?
2007-09-24 03:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by ndeepuachari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married for the second time...to the love of my life. I know what a bad marriage can be and now (thank goodness) I know what a great marriage is like. I think being married is far better then being single because you don't have to constantly be on your toes to say the right thing or always look your best! You can be yourself! As long as you keep spice in your marriage your sure to never get tired of "everyday life"
2007-09-22 04:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) some are but alot lie about it as we can generally tell they are clearly miserable.
2) I am widowed but cannot say I am happier being single,theres pros & cons but I do enjoy not having someone to answer to although I do miss his company sometimes.
3)not really, I believe this is a myth as some men are very self sufficient and some women are lost without a mans help around the house with small repairs. It depends on the woman.
4)Again...theres pros and cons with both and I cant say one is better than the other, alot has to do with a persons human nature.
2007-09-22 03:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person. My personality type is such that I become very desructive and miserable when I am single. I need someone there to kind of tame that side of me. Plus I need someone to also help me notice when a depressed phase is about to start.
My hubby is the type that without a family he would be a workaholic (like he was when we first meant).
Other people are very happy being single and would be unhappy being married.
2007-09-22 03:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋