you email an old lover on facebook, and they email back. its nice to start with, you talk about the things you have in common, and nothing is mentioned of the extremely hot sex you had together.
then it all changes, and you are suddenly talking about the hot sex you used to have. and you like it.
sex with you partner is haunted by thoughts of this other person. texts are sent and they are usually ranchy and rude.
You know that if this ex lover was in the same country as you, you would be in bed together. And it kills you to know you could physically cheat on your partner, but deep down know that you already really are cheating.
Thoughts?
2007-09-22 03:27:17 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is only cheating if it makes you feel guilty.
2007-09-22 03:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tony A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a situation i've been in quite a few times before. I really don't know what to say and can't offer advice i'm afraid. This situation always seems to land me up in trouble one way or the other. It's exciting getting texts like this, and also sending them but you have to try and think logically. You sound as if you need a bit of excitement. It's a difficult one. Think back to the reason you broke up in the first place - this may help. Best of luck, but be careful!
2007-09-22 17:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is emotionally cheating and as you have stated, you KNOW you would be in bed with this person if they were near you. I know how you feel, but it is destructive behavior and will break down your marriage. Go to your husband; concentrate on he and you, not this other man. I know it is hard to do when you are so emotionally involved, but you CAN have these feelings for your husband; just unite that spark that led you to him in the first place. Also, better to stop any contact with this other man as you already know you two have much attraction to each other and will ultimately bring you much heartach and pain; not the joy you wish.
2007-09-22 11:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. We live 8 hours away from the only one of my guy friends that my husband feels remotely threatened by, and we had the chance to move closer, but we chose not to for that reason. I'm not sure I'd even be tempted, as we were just friends when we were living in close proximity (same campus, different dorms about 20 years ago) but we've kept in touch all these years.
2007-09-22 10:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your current relationship to survive you have to stop contact with your ex. Sorry it's as simple as that. If your current relationship is going no where, would one with your ex work? Is that what you want, or are you perhaps a bit bored at home and enjoying extra attention? Could you try to spice things up at home, if this is the case? Good luck with what ever you decide.
2007-09-22 10:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by staceylovbe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed that every time someone on this forum asks,"Is this cheating?" The answer is always "yes".
The reason is because the person asking knows deep down that it is cheating, and they feel guilty about it.
I think by asking, you are hoping to find someone (anyone) to tell you that what you are doing is o.k.
However, you already know that it isn't o.k.
2007-09-22 11:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes ....the only thing that is preventing you from jumping his bones is distance. If I am reading you correctly, if he were to visit you, you might likely not even make it out of the airport but would be humping on the baggage trolley it sounds like.
2007-09-22 22:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by Skully 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is esp since you said that if you were in the same place,,,you would have an physical incounter. You need to end the communication now.
2007-09-22 11:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bob D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question. Now what are your going to do about it?? Continue to cheat on the man you share your life with or delete an old flame from your contact list??? Your choice - you take the consequences!
2007-09-22 11:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by cautious 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes is cheating , mdm. Good thing, your kind heart is telling you not to cheat. Keep it that way. Best Wishes.
2007-09-22 11:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Capger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women like you is why guys cheat and use you. you know its cheating already because if that other guy was next to you the hot sex would be happening. I hoppe your man finds out.
2007-09-22 11:09:25 · answer #11 · answered by Mr Confused 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋