Is it wrong......?

Question

for me to be pissed off at men as a whole?When it seems that all the men I have come across don't have respect for women.All the boyfriends I have ever had have ONLY wanted sex.They stayed around just long enough to hear me say no I am waiting for marraige then it seems they dissappeared off the face of the earth.I was beggining to think that I needed to give it up to have a boyfriend but then I wised up and said I don't NEED a guy.Anyway even my dad has made sexist comments like 1)women can't drive 2) HOE-tel (hotel) 3)he tells me not to go spreading my legs otherwise i will not be worth anything.How should i feel?I hate who i am.Growing up all i saw on tv was women being portrayed as "SEXY."I always felt confused.I didnt feel that i was a whole person.I felt like i was a walking sex toy.I didnt have an identity.So is it wrong that I am bitter towards men period and am just waiting for everyone i come across to say something sexist or only want sex so i can write another guy off?

I didnt say all guys wanted only sex all my boyfriends only wanted sex is what i said and i havent had every guy in the entire world as my boyfriend.

Answer 1

I wouldn't call your opinions wrong, simply misguided. Generalizing about a group of people as a whole is never a way to solve problems.

There are men out there (such as myself) that are educated, hold steady jobs, and waited until marriage for sex. The problem is that we are not the kind of guys you'd meet in a bar.

Choose some of your favorite activities and hobbies and search around your area for clubs and/or classes. You'll meet people with similar interests to your own who are usually well adjusted and have their goals in life prioritized. These are the men that will be interested in doing things together outside the bedroom until you know each other well enough to consummate your relationship.

There is nothing wrong with wishing to wait for sex, and there is nothing wrong with thinking that men who only want it are not the men for you. Just don't generalize it to everyone and you'll be fine.

Answer 2

you don't say how old you are..... waiting for sex till your old enough say through the teen years makes sense... most people are not looking for mates this young, At this age we are looking for our own identities our own choice and personalities... it's called growing up....

Having sex is a decision, a choice there is not right and wrong about it... only right or wrong for the individual.... It seems to me you are building up a fear of sex... this argument applies if you are 25 or older.... putting off the inevitable... we are constantly especially as women told what makes a good woman, woman have just fought and won equal rights long over due... but life is a series of personal choices.... if you had a boy friend for 6 months to a year sex is the next natural step... women have long been confined to the limited idea that they have to wait for marriage before having sex, limited ideas cause limited choices and freedoms.... Having children is best with 2 parents... that means a commitment and planning... does not have to be limited to a legal document called marriage... often we are better off without one... pregnancy that is what a woman should consider when it comes to sex... We also have enough female examples out there that a woman can even chose to have children without a husband, I was a single mother if you have a good financial foundation it's not too bad, not as easy as with two parent but not impossible either... With the number of birthcontrol methods out there pregnancy is a choice.

Life is a series of choices, plans and opportunities. We should each feel the freedom to try it out our own way.

Answer 3

You know what, I think you shouldn't focus on whats sexist and what others say, you should focus on whats practical. Now, for myself, I respect people as a whole so the whole male race (inclusive of myself) can't all be complete pigs. There comes a time in ones life when one realises that thier parents aren't always right. I really think that its all about your inner journey. Once the inner self catches up with the outer self, you'll be a great person :)

Answer 4

There are very wonderful intelligent men out there. Men who cherish their women and have respect and true love for them.
You need to be looking in new areas. You need to expand your search.

Answer 5

But isn't it sexist of you to say all guys want the same thing?