High school just started, and my new math teacher is creeping me out. When ever any girl in the class needs help he always calls them "sweetie" and then when he goes to their desk to help them he touches our backs. I don't mean like pat them on the back, he holds his hand there. Also, this girl forgot her glasses the other day and the math teacher said "wear your glasses, you look good in them...I know" is this innapropriate?
2007-09-22 01:55:30 · 14 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
OH HELL YES!!!!!
Report it, and report it soon. You want the school to have records and keep tabs on this guy when it becomes a pattern (and it sounds like it already is). Also, some schools cover this kind of thing up, so keep personal tabs of his behavior.
Definitely make sure your parents know about this, too.
2007-09-22 02:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jomapo 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That isn't right.
Firstly, a teacher shouldn't call someone sweetie, not in high school years.
Also, the hand on the back incident is rather strange to,
He could be doing it to show support, but you say he keeps his hand there.
Have others in the class noticed this ?
I suggest that you try and video record or a take a picture of him doing it to someone, that way you can tell another teacher, you should also talk to your parents about this.
When he said ' Wear your glasses, you look good in them ' He simply could being trying to help the student feel more confident wearing them, just like you would say to a friend wear them you look great. However, he is in a role of an authoritative and trusted position, so no he shouldn't be doing any of the things he is doing.
2007-09-22 09:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by SB 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I make a distinction between reporting facts and coming to a conclusion. Your job isn't necessarily to come to a conclusion, but to report the facts of what is happening in your math class.
You probably aren't the only one feeling this way. Some of the other girls might be feeling this way also.
However, it is hard for me to come to a conclusion from your post as to whether the teacher is overly friendly to the girls out of inappropriate motives. He might just come from a family or culture where this sort of behavior was the norm, and was not considered inappropriate.
On the other hand, he might have been attracted to this job so that he could be overly friendly with sweet young girls.
In any case, this behavior is apparently getting in the way of the educational process here, so I think it needs to be changed.
If you don't feel comfortable confronting him about this (with another student(s)?), you could report it to the principal and/or school counselor. Just report the facts without making any conclusions as to what needs to happen or whether this is sexual harrassment. But, be sure to say how it makes you feel.
You aren't responsible for any actions the school might make. You are just reporting the facts of what is happening so the principal knows. Then, it is the school's decision how to deal with it.
Best wishes.
2007-09-22 09:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ron L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. In the first situation, they're trying to be "homey" ("sweetie," to some people, provides distant familiarity) and calming (the hand on the back). As for the glasses, the teacher is trying to help. If you feel uncomfortable, speak to the teacher provately. If it continues tell them, in front of the class, to stop. That SHOULD take care of it.
2007-09-22 09:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe it is inappropriate. A difficult situation for you. You are uncomfortable with his flirting, and you would like him to stop, but his behavior probably hasn't reached the level that would make it worth destroying his career over it.
I suggest you discuss the matter with another teacher or school administrator who you can trust to keep the discussion confidential, and who you trust will give the math teacher a friendly warning that his behavior isn't quite appropriate for the classroom.
If that doesn't work and the inappropriate behavior continues, then the next step would probably be to make your concerns known to the school on a formal basis.
Good luck.
2007-09-22 09:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The "sweetie" part my be a little inappropriate but harmless. I'd be more concerned about the ole hand on the back and flirtatious comments.
2007-09-22 09:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh hey fellow freshie! im a guy so let me think... yea that is too a certain extent. Just watch your back and keep friends even your eneimes away from him. Oh and depending on his age that might differ. ie like if he not married(look at his ring finger) then that creepy, i hes married with some grey hair i not as creepy but still... and then if hes like mostly grey hair, hes old and just wants a laugh(if i were a girl id be watching my back in that class) GOOD LUCK WITH THE SCHOOL YEAR!!
2007-09-22 09:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ninjashadow 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Call the local newspaper and have them blow this story wide open. Or you can tell him to knock it the hell off. Or you can complain to the principal. It depends how screwed you want his life to be from this point forward.
2007-09-22 09:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should go talk to guidance office and let them know. if that doesn't help go talk to the printable, if that doesn't help tell your parents to go to the school board. Teachers should not do that. i had a teacher in school do that and he married one of his students when she graduated, now he is not teaching because of it, and she had a baby that fall.
2007-09-22 10:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by JMS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very innapropriate. It's sexual harrassment plain and simple. If I were you, I would tell the principal or guidance counselor. If this is ignored, he will continue to behave this way.
2007-09-22 09:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋