To make a long story into a short one..I visited a guy friend whos moved to another country a few days ago..we had been chatting for a yr and I knew he liked me. He even said hurry up & come over. Actually we didnt really know each other before he moved. Anyhow, hit it off, kissed and a bit more but I'm not a fast mover, so even tho we had great passion I held off his advances. He was cool with it though asked me 'if not now then when?' I'm a shy type and need time before sex. He had invited me on a trip with another guy friend to leave the next day, roughing&sleeping in a car. The friend also invited me. But next day he txted me to say it wouldnt work with 3 travelling & said nothing else! I was upset but wished him a nice trip & said sure 3 is a bad number which IT IS!! Anyhow, saw him online yest. & said hi, we chatted friendly & i told him Id like to meet to talk when he got back but we got disconnected.Maybe he logged off?We have grt. chemistry.Is he only after sex?
2007-09-22 00:33:47 · 13 answers · asked by gentle girl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If this is something you wish to pursue, then you will regardless of anyone who tells you differently. As an objective observer, the behaviour of this other person is telling you that he is no longer interested. Disconnects online happen, there is no way to know for sure what happened. One trip is not going to make or break a relationship. The fact is that long distance relationships have a high failure rate, if monogamy is expected among those involved. I'm not saying it's impossible, but the probability of success is against you in this case. Let the feelings go, just be "friends" and go on with your life, because in all probability HE probably already has. Chemistry only matters when tow are in person, not over the texting of mobile phones or internet chat.
2007-09-22 07:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds harsh but he probably was just after sex. LOL that's how most men are, and I've learnt the hard way!!!
I've read a book called He's Just Not That Into You - the no-excuses truth to understanding guys, by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo and I would say it's the nearest thing to a man-woman translator that I've found.
Eventually you find a good one who is so into you that he happily will wait until you are ready to take that step, and when you find that one you will be happy. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince...my mum said that to me when I was 18 and 19 and going out with my first few boyfriends and it's true, but eventually you find the right one :) Good luck
2007-09-22 00:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the fact he's asked "if not now then when" speaks volumes. Perhaps he is only after one thing. That said, men will be men and the fact he called off the trip with you says he is maybe sulking at not getting his own way.
Sounds like he is after only one thing. Don't rush into anything, no matter how much he wants to. If he genuinely likes you in that way he will respect your wishes, wait, and won't pressure you.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-22 00:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trust is the first part of any relationship. Meet and talk is the way to find the answer to your sex question. When you have a good relationship, then there is no problem with sex. Most relationships that start with sex don´t last.
2007-09-22 00:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by stainless steven 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds a bit dodgy about something. ask him straight out if things have soured since you were together. you've nothing to lose if he's being off with you already. it's always better to know where you stand than to be stressing yourself running through all the possibilities in your head
2007-09-22 00:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is so good . People are so stupid! If he wants sex then why not? both of you are getting a good end on the deal and its called pleasure.
2007-09-22 18:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by I Speak the Truth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess you should deviate your thoughts, he is just a passerby wanted some fun,
your words shows you are desperate in giving yourself away.
and your present role in life is something else, do concentrate in that rather then spending some sleepless nights on tresspassers
2007-09-22 00:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by ya ali 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes.
2007-09-22 00:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES AND I'M SURE THAT THEY PLANNED TO USE YOU ON THERE TRIP .. THANK GOD YOUR OK ,,YOU PUT YOUR SELF IN A DANGEROUS POSITION,,YOUR VERY LUCKY IT WORKED OUT THE WAY IT DID...........
2007-09-22 00:47:47 · answer #9 · answered by shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's afster sex
2007-09-22 00:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by THE ANIMAL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋