I'm very close to deciding to change my surname to my fiancee's when I marry. I like the idea of a family sharing a name but recoil at the patriarchal ideas implicit in the convention by which a woman assumes her husband's name. i love my family and they will take it badly but I'm really determined to do it.
2007-09-22 00:17:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its up to the ones that are getting marred not the families they are marring into. and there are a good bit of men out there that has taken their wife's last name for their last name , and there is nothing wrong in that . and yes as a male in a family the men should be the ones to carry on the family name as their sons do. but again that is up to you . good luck
2007-09-26 21:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by patti_buffkin2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some reasons about why i'm keeping my surname which in turn answers your Q... 1) My surname is awesome! Really, awesome! 2) I have a small family, my surname is not common so I want to keep it going. 3) I'm proud of my family, and want to honour them forever. So, If my husband wants to take my surname instead, that would be great. If not, I will add his surname in before mine. I have no problem with a man taking a women's name! It should happen more, why should it always been the women giving up their family name?!
2016-05-20 22:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you to do what you want to do. If you like one name more than the other it probably would be a good idea. However, what if you would ever separate from your wife? Would you still want to use her surname? What is wrong with you keeping your name, and she keeping her surname? Does that make her angry with you? It is true that a lot of men do this, but you must ask yourself the question WHY do I want to do this?????????
2007-09-29 03:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand the reaoning here. A father is SUPPOSE to be the provider and protector of the home. He is the first role model of what "God" is like to a family. If a child has a poor image and/or relationship with their father, STATISTICALLY, they have proven to be more screwed up in life. They seek after and long for that father figure and this is why so many young girls get caught up with men old enough to be their grandfathers.
Anyway, if the relationship is healthy, and the Father has done his job, he is so PROUD that his chldren bear his name. He then has the responsibility to ensure that the MAN not BOY-friend that is going to take his daughter, will be a MAN. He will be a provider and protector as well. Moreover, His NAME will have character and something worth having.
The change of names, states to the world that I now have left my father and mother and have chosen one to whom all my allegiance is given forevermore.
There are societies; I am told that the men take on the wife's family name, and all I can say is that I don't understand it. No one explained it to me.
I guess it depends on how you were raised, what you value and how you value it.
This is from a Judeo-Christian, Biblical perspective.
2007-09-22 00:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I know a man who is 70 years old right now who, when he got married, the wife changed her name. They agreed on their 25th wedding anniversary they would both legally change their names to HER maiden name and they both did!
There is absolutely no reason one spouse should or should not take the other spouses name. It is a personal decision between you and your future wife and I prey your family is reasonable and they respect your decision.
2007-09-28 14:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by tak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a bad thing if you're a woman hating christian like the previous answerer, other wise it's all good. I'd also like to suggest the idea of making up your own new family name. Perhaps combining the two names together.
2007-09-22 00:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is nothing wrong with a man taking his wifes surname after they are married. It is more common today and not looked upon as being different.
2007-09-22 00:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by kenloften 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think everyone has the right to take any name they choose, if it's going to cause bad feelings with your parents ( their the only ones you should worry about) then you could always hyphen your name and carry both.
2007-09-22 00:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men carry the blood line.Not women.Don't be a weenie, and don't "rocoil" at normal things.Jesus.If you take her name,just go ahead and wear a dress and panties while your at it.I hope you dont live here in america.
2007-09-29 21:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by Antimidas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't change my name. I also want my future children to have my name. But part of it is because my surname is rare, I have no brothers and I don't want it to die out. Tell your fiancée your reasons, he might understand.
Also : I really see no reason why you both couldn't keep your name, and hyphenate the surnames of your children.
2007-09-22 00:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Krelboyne_Girl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋