I have never had a girl friend, ever. Is that bad?
2007-09-21 23:50:16 · 25 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know at age 16 the thing you may want most is to fit in but I think its great. I know someone who wasn't even interested in girls until he was 23. I think being older adds to it a lot of good. You know this means you haven't peaked too soon. You are obviously focused on a different part of your life right now. Or maybe you're just really picky, and that can be a good thing as long as you're not trying to avoid the whole thing all together.
2007-09-21 23:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not at all. ^_^
My brother, who is now 17 (turning 18 soon), had a girlfriend a year ago. He found it wasn't a big deal, really. 'Course, I wasn't there to study them, it was a school based relationship, and I wasn't even in High School then. He dropped off contact with her after we moved.
Point is, nobody who loves you much (like in family) would mind if you didn't have a gf. Sure, you might be encouraged to go and get one, but I think its not simply a matter of "getting one." Find a girl who you could share a deep bond with, that you would feel less afraid than with any other to tell your innermost fears-- show your weaknesses. That you haven't found one you consider to be special in that way isn't bad. 17 is considered young yet.
:D
Here are some quotes I like:
"Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful."
"I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you." Elizabeth Barrett Browning
"A friend is the person who knows all about you and still loves you." Elbert Hubbert
"The reward for conformity is everyone likes you but yourself" - Rita Mae Brown
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."
"People will forget what you said and what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel."
In three words i can sum up everything: life goes on. -Robert Frost
dont regret anything you have done because at one point it was exactly what you wanted..
The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it."
Life can either be accepted or changed. If it is not accepted, it must be changed. If it cannot be changed, then it must be accepted.
2007-09-22 00:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't worry about it and if you want it to happen it will. If that's what you want you can pursue it, but you'll probably find that almost everybody's 'first' girlfriend was an accident (except those sick people who were bffe from the time they played on the swings when they were 2 years old and lived next to each other).
Think about something else....well if you can at your age. But seriously don't stress. It's not bad at all.
And oh yeah somebody will be quite happy to free you of that innocence sooner or later so don't trip.
2007-09-21 23:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by jct101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in life is free, if you want a girlfriend, you must be able to afford it. not about money only, its about alot of things. things that what they expect from you and so on. there are alot of things to think about depending on what kind of person, character you are.
everything in life has a price, some price cant be paid. some can. some can be stolen, some can be dumped.
you met someone good? go get it. else, wait until u see one.
taken? look for another. if you havent started, dont think about it. dont forget there is a jungle out there, why forget a jungle just for 1 tree?
if you want it bad, then get ready for pain and hurt. your mom dont hurt you as bad as your girlfriend do.. coz u are after them. careful if they just want something from you.
my opinion will be, NO IT IS NOT BAD TO BE SINGLE, think of it as freedom, cherish it while u still have it.. and i know what u are thinking..... go for it if u see someone u like. dont if you want to randomly get one.
you admire people that have girlfriends right? but u dont see them sad or cry? sometimes its really painful when you love her more and she is just playing with you. same when guys play around with girls.
think before action, worth alot more then experiencing something you wish u didnt.
have faith and all will be well. God is watching us... everyone has chances.
2007-09-22 00:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by lll_demonic_lll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think it's not normal because of the so many little kids having relationship these days, but actually it's normal. In fact, you're not even an adult yet and adults are people who are old enough to know how to handle a relationship in a mature, smart manner, unlike the youth of today, having these little flirty meaningless "relationships" with each other. I'm not saying young people don't know how to love, it's just, they think it's the most important thing in the world.
2007-09-21 23:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. It will happen when it happens. Believe me, one day you will be married before you know it and be all grown up and have children and wonder where time went.
I am 49 now. I have been married 2 times. I have 2 daughters 28 and 26. They are married with 2 kids each.
I am looking for my 3rd wife, and hopefully my last wife this time because I am getting tired of divorces.
So don't worry about growing up. It has it good parts and its bad parts. Life is fast sometimes!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-22 00:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 and I have learned that a guy who has no problem asking me out when he doesn't know me from Adam is a bad sign. I actually used to date the guys that came and asked me out. The guys who were bold and gutsy. ....what are your Interests? Lets say for example you like dance hip hop. Start attending group hip hop dance lessons and you will meet a girl who likes it too. If you go to church, attend a singles group. just have the conversation focus on her but you don't need to move in for the kill and ask her out right away. Guys like you have found higher priorities in life to focus on besides chasing tail. Yer fine :) Don't sweat it.
2007-09-22 00:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sup! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me, except that your actually worried about it...xD
A guy that sounds like you shouldn't worry because simply...the ladies are missing out xD
Thankfull though, I'm not turning 17 for another year...WOOHOO!!
If your that upset, ask a girl out, and when you go out, you wont feel as if you can finally solve the problems of world hunger.
2007-09-22 02:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by Suki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just because everyone is dating does not mean they are happy. People date for the sake of dating and that is wrong. Wait till you are ready and you find someone you like.
2007-09-21 23:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by rabbit1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not bad. It will happen, dont succumb to peer pressure. Anyone can get a partner, it just depends on whether you want someone you love and respect...or just to be able to say...'you have a girlfriend'... I know who i would pick!
2007-09-21 23:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by blerchus4incapet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋