This guy is an old acquaintance from a church where I used to go to. He found me on myspace and messaged me then we started chatting and get along very well. He works for non profit christian org mentoring street kids here in our place. He invited me over, and now Im currently an active volunteer. We see each other twice a week, mentoring the kids together, and we are also together in his music program for the out of school youth. He's a really nice guy, a mature christian. And we have the same passion for helping people and with music and serving the Lord. I have never met a guy like this before who shares the sames interests as mine. We talk for hours everynight. He calls and message me during the day.
BUT... he's like a computer game addict... he goes out at 10pm or 12midnight with his guy friends at the org and goes home at 8am... and then sleeps just a little and they all go to work again, and after work.
2007-09-21 20:55:43 · 8 answers · asked by terra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I like his relationships with his friends. I've also gotten close to them already while volunteering at the org. They're good company. They don't drink or smoke. He's even the youngest among them, some of his friends are already married.
He tells me about his schedule although I don't ask him and where he goes and who he's with. My concern is... if things keep on going well and if we get into a relationship???
2007-09-21 20:57:50 · update #1
well i would hope he could make more time for you if things did get serious. plus you have to accept the fact that he is a gaming nerd. i myself like video games and play very often but i know that having something in the real world is more important then the in-game world. as good a guy as you say he is i'm sure he knows the difference too. don't get ahead of yourself and just c where things end up going. things might workout themselvs
2007-09-21 21:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You could always ask him.
Test the waters first; ask him if he has ever thought about getting a girlfriend, would he make time for her, how would he fit her into his life, etc. If his responses are noncommital, evasive, or are just telling you what you want to hear, then you have an answer. As his friend, you might encourage him to seek help for his gaming addiction; it is no joke. I have a cousin who had the same problem, and much of his life suffered as a result.
However... if he expresses interest in you, and can cut back on the gaming, then maybe it is not as much of a problem as it seems.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-21 21:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Marc M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try to break to his inner circle. Make him comfortable with your. This will fuel freshness to your relationship. A person gets addicted to computer games because he can't manage same in the real world. when u attract him to the real world, his addiction towards computer games will reduce slowly. But you'll have to understand that this will be a slow process and your would need lots of passion and time.
2007-09-21 21:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anis M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
will you be seeing him only doing volunteer work. Probably. Gaming is an addiction that is hard to break. I've played battlefield 2 for 14 hours one day.( I'm suing about my carpel tunnel injury) he has a routine that he's comfortable with and may not be inclined to change it.
2007-09-21 21:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theirs nothing i can do to make this sound better, but, If you like him then try and get him to stay away from the games. Sometimes its not just a hobby but an addiction. Try and break his habit by having him do things with you when he usually plays his games. But you found someone you like and thats good. things like love are not an always easy, it requires work.
2007-09-21 21:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by imadori1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to build a relationship with him... look him in the eye or eye's depending how many he has and let him know that you come before video games.... and that in the bible he should cleave unto his woman and not a video game... so if it leades to marriage and or he isn't gay and really does fall in love with you... then video games are banned in the house for 1 year...... yup... no games...
otherwise... find a boy who is more in line with your beliefs..
2007-09-21 21:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all guys love video games.
its just a phase... prolly u shud get gaming too and then u'll both have sometin more in common and then he'd prolly take ur views into consideration!
try it
2007-09-21 21:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by glen_music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with being a computer game addict lol...im a girl and i play computer games too...
2007-09-21 21:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋