A guy friend moved to another country shortly after we met a yr ago& invited me to travel with him but I couldnt at the time.He kept in touch with chat & as I was going on vacn to his country we said that we'd meet. He said 'hurry up & that he'd fallen for me'. So met up a few days ago..it was great. Prob. is he had already arranged a trip with another guy friend but still they both invited me..roughing/sleeping in a car. So we kissed&a bit more,of course he wanted sex(like all guys!) but I said 'not yet'. He said 'then when' but I was shy & didnt explain I need time. Next day, he sent a msg 'listen, it wont work travelling all 3 of us'..nothing else!. I was upset but realised, 3 in a car..cramped. So I replied 'sure 3 would be crazy so have a good trip&dont lose contact'. So yesterday I saw him online& said hi to him& we chatted friendly& I said Id felt a bit strange when we met& Id like 2 meet up when he gets back. Then we were disconnected! I have a feeling he signed off. Help!!
2007-09-21 20:46:26 · 9 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wanted sex from you...to use you. You said no so he sees no reason to spend any more energy on you. You were smart to say no, now you know he was only wanting to use you. Had you slept with him you might have spent years thinking he cared and then found out he only wanted sex til someone better came along. Someone who loves and respects you would be patient and wait and still care for you. He doesnt. Dont bother trying to contact him, he is a waste of your time and concern.
2007-09-21 20:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but it sounds like you "rejected" him and he is not really interested in you so waiting for him is not an option. What he wanted was sex, he told you he had fallen for you so you get all excited and have sex with him - and then he would have "lost contact" gently, because that's the way guys do it and avoid confrontation. He is not in love with you, and he is not worth you. Forget about him!
Men in love do not insist on having sex the first time and do not ask "when" they will have it with you, because they enjoy this first part of a relationship to get to know eachother and have those butterflies in your stomach - as much as we do.
I once did not want to "kiss" a guy good night after we just met - and he was as cold as stone afterwards! I did like him, but I am not willing to give myself away that quickly and easily. He was obviously not worth the effort!
Good luck.
2007-09-22 04:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tomas R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was after one thing and as you declined to supply it is looking for a new victim. Imagine how much worse it could have been - this could have happened a month into your trip! He's the loser. Don't waste any more time on him.
2007-09-22 04:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen good,i dated some gurls on internet and i meet them in person after a while..not all people is bad.but they ask for sex...belive me there not good,i prefer the person who waits a long enought to meet in person and hangout for a time and to get to know this person really good,to be with him in diffrient situations,to be in a fight argument,in general to know him good.otherwise ur just giving him ur body and u wont get anything from him.but his body.no feelings or love..and then u would just say what most gurls says...i thought i loved him
2007-09-22 03:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by superguy0084 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just learned a lesson without having to get hurt learning it. You would have been having sex one way or another, that's what the invitation was for.
2007-09-22 03:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you get it? he just wants to get into your pants. granting it's just plain sex he wants from you, granting you'd agree. but he wants to take it a step further. he wants to do it threesome w/ you! ask yourself. will you go that far? granting you'd say yes. what's next? foursome? gangbang? you want that? dear, remember this, once tasted always wanted. if he can draw you now for a threesome he can & he will draw you further to fulfill his lustful desire. also, ask yourself, do you love him? is that love? or it's just lust? because if it's love he feels for you he won't demand it, moreso in such a perverted manner. in the end what will happen to you? will you stay as young & attractive 5 years from now? what if he decides to dump you by then & look for another younger flesh? how do you see your life 5-10 years from now? what is your plan for your life? it's your life alright. but just remember this: life cannot be reversed. life ends. & life is what you make it.
2007-09-22 03:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Thunder Clap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in fall with him, obviously.
Itz probably more of the matter of him exposing you to your feminity.
This is an evident example of "lust"
Get away from him as far as possible.
2007-09-22 03:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what u said it seems to me that he just wants sex sex and sex and if u dont want to talk about it he doesnt want to talk to you. so...get away from him
2007-09-22 03:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch the asshole
2007-09-22 03:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by CaliGirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋