OK, I was with a girl that I love very much for 2 years. Stayed with her in Malaysia for 10 months of that 2 years and before that I was in the navy. I'm not perfect, it was rough in Malaysia because I couldn't work while I was there because it's illegal, and I hurt her sometimes unintentionally while there. But I always loved her and I know she loved me too. So I came home to get settled and then I was gonna go back and get her, but she broke up with me. I took it very rough. She met another guy soon after leaving me and got pregnant almost right away, but had an abortion and is no longer with him because he left her for his WIFE, so she's feeling hurt a lot too because she wanted to have the baby, doesn't believe in abortion. So I'm going to pay for a trip to Hawaii for the both of us so that I can get her back, but she says she doesn't love me anymore but is willing to give me the chance to get her back. What can I do to get her back? I KNOW she DID love me, I'd do anything for her.
2007-09-21 19:06:23 · 3 answers · asked by c4n7_b3_ur_5up3rm4n 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she did love you, then it's possible to get her back, but don't count on it. She might just want the free trip. Concentrate on romancing her, and don't pressure her for sex. In fact, hold off on it. Be Prince Charming. Smile at her, listen to her, ask her about her hopes and dreams. Encourage her to talk about her feelings. Frankly, it might help you to read a woman's romance novel before you go, so you can read about what women think is romantic. You'll notice that there's not a lot of sex in there, and when it is, the man is really giving. That might be important for you to know. Good luck!
2007-09-21 19:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um... be around her all the time when she needs you. Be patient. let her know that no matter what happens, the whole world can abandon her, but you wouldn't.
Don't mention that guy to her. It'll brake her heart even more.
Don't mention your past because she wouldn't want to repeat it again.
Just give her all the love, make her know that you are vulnerable to pain as well, make her know that you love her under all conditions.
she'll be touched.
kiss her, hug her, protect her, let her know that you'll let no harm come to her.
if she starts to trust you again and to rely on you, she'll be back for sure.
also make sure that the reason why she left you doesn't exist anymore. otherwise if she still thinks what she doesn't like about you is the same as always, you'll have no chance.
2007-09-21 19:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by love2you 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if a trip to hawaii isn't enough maybe you should buy her a car or is she going to burn you in the deal?
2007-09-21 19:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋